Neither of us have family nearby so my only choice is to use daycare. I'm only looking at going back 2 -3 days a wk...i only get a really measley amount of FTB so i'd probably still get paid more going to wk.
I've started to do some party plan stuff at night which means df can look after dd and i'd only do this on the nights where shes not at day care. It will also make for good daddy and daughter time when i'm out so really either shes in care and i'm home at night or shes with me all day and then at night i go out to do parties.

i'd love to stay at home forever with her but financially at the moment thats not an option

In terms of management above her there is our CEO above her and then the board (I wk for a charity) and as far as i'm concerned his just gutless and won't do anything. The last time i went to him with an issue regarding her, he went straight to her and basically told her everything that i had said...then i got a wrap over the knuckles for going to him for advice on how to deal with/approach her.

When i think about all the things that have happened i can't believe i've stayed as long as i have!!! Need to find another job...soon..