I find it's a case of trying different stuff until you find what works.

If I don't spend time with Pip immediately he sees me - and I mean playing / interacting with him - then he spends the whole night "mum. mum. mum". so I either sneak in and have 15 mins of "me" time of silence then go down or just suck it up and take the time immediately.

I also take a walk with him each day after tea, just he, I and my dog for us to have fun, and to give DH some time out after dealing with him all day - this really helps all 3 of us.

Housework - still haven't worked that out yet!
Cooking - Shared. Lots of easy meals on my part.

Communication is key, letting DH know when I'll be home, does he want me to pick up anything on the way etc.

Oh - and take your lunch break! Take that 30, 45 or 60 minutes to leave work, sit down in another spot and be alone!!!! Think! Relax! Enjoy it!

good luck!