Fibi - no offence hun - but i really think you're putting too much stock in a "perfect" baby - yes, baby wearing is helpful - for SOME babies - and it migth work out for you - but what you're talking about is an ideal child that is going to allow you to do all of that - and i think you've probably overthought and created this ideal image. i think for the occassional day here and there, it might be possible to have your baby with you - but it's would be the exception, not the norm

a baby isn't going to fit nicely into your schedule, you'll be dealing with sleep deprivation, you're going to have other people around you that may find it highly annoying having a baby crying while they're working....

i don't want to sound negative, but i think you have to be realistic, and, if you're the workaholic and primary earner, maybe encourage your partner to take a period of paternity leave - and arrange from the get go that you express - if your boss is saying things like being able to have baby at work occassionally, maybe he'll make a room available for expressing...