ARGH I don't know what to do... how to let someone down...

[christy]

Before you start... I'm a vet nurse

So to make a loooong story short, things are not fantastic where I have been working. I love the ideal of the work, I love what they do at the specialist centre.... BBBUUUUTTTT its been very political and stressful and hard with family life. And I terribly miss dog behaviour work... puppy preschools etc.

I chose to seek other work closer to home at a smaller general practice. I walked around and put my CV into 3 practices. I gave a header saying I knew they didn't have a puppy preschool running and that I was interested in running them for the practice.

The day I dropped off my CV (Monday week ago) I got a phone call from one clinic who asked me to come in to talk. Then they gave me another interview with the owner of the practice (who doesn't work there...) and he said it wasn't up to him, but would I want a nursing job there whatever I wanted (wouldn't discuss $$) and then gave me a day for a "trial" which was today. Meanwhile a nurse phoned to say she put me on the roster for 35 hours a week not what I wanted. The nurses there are exhausted as there was a previous owner who ran the practice into the ground. Its super quiet and there isn't much to do at all.

Next thing: Yesterday (the day before my "trial") another clinic rang me to offer me work. They had phoned my previous employers and wanted me to come in to discuss working for them. I said yes.

So today I did a trial at the first practice. The nurses are exhausted and run down. No one would give me clear answers as to $$, or puppy preschool. They wanted me to take over and work as much as possible... I left there and went to the job interview at the other clinic. They were just as small, but already more busy than the other practice. I knew the vets as before I was a nurse it was the practice I brought my animals too, my MIL has brought her animals there & I've discussed her cat with them when she was dying. Anyway, it was all very civilised and relaxed. They said they could offer me the 2 days I wanted, asked me how many hours, offered Saturdays if I wanted them and if I wanted to do puppy preschools I could, what percentage did I want? and what did I want to get paid. I told them & they agreed to what I wanted. They are a well established practice with the same vets there for the past 15 years.

So now I want that job, the second one... but I don't want to kick the other clinic while they are down. I'm stressed and miserable over this Man it sucks!!!! Its good to be able to get a job this easily, and its good to be wanted... but man. I don't know what to do.

[mrsmac]

Hun would they care about you at the first place? NO, they won't be putting themselves out for you so I wouldn't be too worried, you owe them nothing yet, just politely say you have accepted another job. You need to look after YOU (something we women don't do enough of)
Good luck with whatever you decide .

[Phteven]

I agree with MrsMac, you don't owe them anything and it's not your responsibility to take care of them. You need to look out for you and your family which means taking the job which is best suited to your needs.
The first place is already giving you the runaround, I can only see it getting worse there.

[feeb]

I agree they have not helped you out, you dont owe them anything. You and your family are number 1 and other job sounds so helpful, flexible and a happier place to work! and you get puppy kinder!

[2girlz]

A trial is exactly that a trial and since they were the ones that said it was a trial they should be prepared for a possible job rejection and not bank on you accepting the job. I say go with what you want The second one sounds great!

[Jahzara]

Look after number one !

Sounds like the job you want is the job for you !

[briggsy's girl]

you went for a trial day hun - any trial is a TWO WAY STREET - all you have to say is thanks, but no thanks - this just doesn't fit, and walk away. don't feel bad - embrace the other opportunity you've been offered and look at the first one as a learning opportunity for them as well as you.