Update - everything's turning to crap. We had a dinner reservation last Friday, which shouldn't have been a problem. Professor works til 5 normally, but dinner wasn't til 6.30, so he was gonna do some overtime and I was gonna pick him up at 5.45 and we'd head straight to the restaurant. Only, the 2 people assigned to help him with this stupid charity committee didn't show up, so he didn't get out til just after 6 because he had to do it himself.

Then, he had arranged a few weeks back to finish work at 2.30 yesterday, because he had to get some tests done and go to the dental surgeon to book in his surgery - only his manager tells him at lunch that his last training session is after lunch, can't get out of it. He's a draftsman, and the training is customer service. So he didn't get his tests done, and was 15 minutes late for the surgeon.

FINALLY, he put in his overtime sheet on Monday for the pay fortnight, and his manager refused to pay it. He said Professor didn't get pre approved for overtime. Professor is actually doing to work of 2 draftsmen at the moment, because there's only 2 of them using Autosketch, and the other guy's on 3 weeks leave. So he's literally doing 2 peoples work (not to mention the work of the manager's who are never there). He just looked at his manager and asked 'I'm doing 2 peoples work - if I don't do overtime, it doesn't get done. I can stop, and the other guys jobs will be 3 weeks overdue by the time he gets back. Your call.' So they're paying it. I can't believe his manager even had the nerve to question it

It's starting to affect our relationship. He's not taking the sleeping pills regularly, he's yelling at me and getting quite intimidating sometimes. I know it's because he can control me easier than he can control work. Which sounds awful, I don't mean he's deliberately pushing me round or anything, but I'm a 'safe' person. But he's a big guy, a strong one. He's hurt me a few times, when we're mucking around at home, because he just doesn't get how strong he is. I'm starting to get very afraid he's gonna snap - if its at home, it'll be me that cops it, and if it's at work, he'll end up in jail. I'm not being dramatic either, this is how he got when he was being bullied in school, he was actually planning out how he would hurt them, how he could cause maximum damage with minimum effort. It scares the hell outta me, and I'm helpless to do anything.