wow michelle thats so hard! DH & I do an inventory sort of thing every 6 months to just check how things are going... and it is so helpful to have something you can read and really have in front of you. DH is always astounded at how little he does around the house... and then he does things like get the house cleaned for me (he still gets it done once a month!) and its really helped us with those mindsets of the woman's place is the home blah blah blah.....