awww Beth big *hugs* DH got really upset a few times with Matilda too, and I wound up asking him to read a couple baby books to help him understand her better and it worked a treat. He read the Baby Whisperer and Raising Happy Children (I think thats its name, written by the guy who wrote Raising Boys) and he said they helped him understand her better, now they weren't the choice for me in books to read, but they helped him. Maybe try getting him to either read a book about it or go to a triple P thing where they have parenting seminars... just getting DH around other parents really helped him understand babies more...