Babies Born April 1st - 15th 2008 #1

[alittlegrubi]

grubi does your dh go out often at night? can you ask him to do some of the nighttime parenting? i so often wish my dh would help but in reality there's not much he can do at this stage, especially since waking him would mean waking ds (they're in the same room) and that's the last thing i'd want to do.

My DH was going out at least twice a week, but we had words a while back and he has cut back on how often he goes now. He does his share other than the sleeping thing and that is largely because DS just won't let me evict him. DH asked DS if he wants to sleep with Daddy but the answer is always the same - "No thanx, I sleep with Mummy."

fire i second your mum's comment on night parenting. does your dd sleep alone now? if so, is she happy with that? my 4-yr-old ds still wishes he slept with me - and he could, except with dd waking all the time it wouldn't be so great right now. but i do feel very bad about having had to evict him from my room, even though he has dh with him.

I don't find DS is disturbed by DD waking at all during the night, it is only if it is after 5.30am that he might get disturbed, but three in the bed can be a bit too much sometimes. MGM Has your 4yr-old given you a reason for wanting to sleep with mummy?
Meg - Congrats on the engagement and too.
GTG DS is making too much noise and might wake DD, got to see what is going on.

[mgm]

congratulations meg! how exciting.

wrote a post last night and put it in the other thread by mistake. this split-thread thing is too confusing for me in my sleep-deprived state!

[Fire]

meg - congratulations!
dd begged for her own room so she got it,btw. we don't see her all night (and i miss her). she even gets cranky the nights dh sleeps on the floor of her room to get quiet sleep. we have told her she is always welcome back but she just high tailed it outta there (doesn't like sleeping with the baby). so it is true that when their need for dependence is honored and they can progress at their own rate, they do become more independent and less fearful in the long run compared to others their age. she isn't afraid of the dark or being alone and goes to bed before her bedtime. it worked out well.

steph- continnum concept take a look around. the book is amazing but i've found The Vital Touch to be just as good if not better.

My mother has some rather antiquated ideas about child rearing and assured me that if I keep her close to me like that she'll end up clingy and needy. I'll take my chances...

ask her if she thinks those huge tribal men in the jungle are needy and clingy and dependent. they all cosleep and are carried constantly and comforted by the breast in childhood. so are gorillas! nuthin' weeny about a gorilla!

i'm in eczema hell right now so haven't got long. doing gut healing on myself to heal ds. it just sucks. i'll come back when i'm feeling positive.

[Fire]

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[alittlegrubi]

As always... thanks Fire for sharing your research, I am beginning to see where I am going so tragically wrong. It is my inactivity that is causing my problems by the look of it and why DD is fine at night, but not during the day. Am going to make an effort to be more active and see if it makes a difference.

[Beatrix]

well just thought i would pop in quick

Been at the hosp most of the day with Mj, poor thing needed to be put on some oxygen. This bronciolitis is really knocking her about. she hasnt been feeding well for the last 24hrs and i had gotten so engorged. Luckily a good dose of oxygen and she was able to get a really good feed in.

ok best be off

[Sharon19270]

~Beatrix~ poor MJ hope she starts to get better soon, poor little sweetheart.

[Fire]

oh no beatrix! well wishes for mj.