I had a lightbulb moment, as Oprah would put it....after trying to do the pantley technique thing in BJ's cot...it suddenly clicked as to why you do it in a chair then put him into bed when he's not quite asleep....DUH SHELLEY!
We don't want him associating his dummy with sleep anymore, so why give it to him in is cot....god I'm soooo dumb sometimes!
So from now on, our bed routine has been modified to include cuddles (with dummy) in the chair til he's dopey, take the dummy out as per pantley technique, another minute or two of snuggles, then nice quiet settled boy gets put into bed...I did it tonight, and after 25 minutes (yeah yeah big woop!) not a peep!

We shall see....besides, its a bucket load more comfy from 2-30 til 5-30 in the rocking chair than kneeling on the floor beside the cot!!!

I'll pop back later for personals (least I'll try!)