i hope C comes home soon Kristi xxx how is she now , and just as important how are YOU right now ??

Milly , Its taken me 2 years to find something to smack nixon about ( not that i was looking , but ykwim) it scared the day lights outta me as most times i put gab in her capsule , then do a few odd jobs , like washing in the laundry , if nix had of done some thing like the park brake or something , i could never forgive myself ...

so the keys are way up high and safe ...

any way after my mini meltdown over dealing with a toddler i got my finger out of my bum and decided to do something about it , i googled tanturnms and found some advice that worked 1st time and has been working ever since ...

I have learnt to give nixon a choice , weather he was to eat break fast and co operate or misbehave and go to timeout ...

each time i have given him the choice , he has chose the 'good choice' .. which has got me feeling weary with releif , if he throws a tanty and wont co operate , i tell him that im leaving him where he is to calm down and sort him self out , then he can follow me and we can do some thing fun ...

"good choices make a good day.bad chocies make a bad day" , i also repeat this mantra to him ... its not to say he is an angel again but we are definatley getting somewhere ...

he is also having nightmares too .. poor thing , last night he woke screaming and all he wanted was mummy , he wouldnt let me go , we offered pandol but he just wanted me . he flung his tiny arms around my neck and did not let go till he was in a deep sleep , i tried to creep away but he started to cry , so i stayed for as long as he needed me to ...

as i left my bedroom to calm nix , i heard Gab wake so the whole time i was with nix i was paranoid gab would start screaming too .. but DH put a blankie on her and she slept until 5 am mg:

she has been a bit cranky today and is now having her 3rd sleep for the day ... her day naps are becomming longer and i have moved her into the nursery fopr day naps as its darker in there and less noisy ..

Day stay went well , with me finding the importance of having a routine for an unsettled bub, with nixon we didnt really have one as he was happy to do what we wanted , but Gab is different . she has taught me to really stop and listen to what my kids are trying to say ...

but right now im pooped and tossing up weather to take a nap or do up invoices for work .. i tink i will nap ..

gab is now 5.2 kgs and getting chubbier each day .. she is so strong in her neck and legs and always tries to sit or stand ..

but thats all for now , best go rest before gab wakes and nix gets home from kindy ..