tk - I am glad you found a dr who would listen to you. Let us know how everything goes (I hope it all works out well).
Grrrr... I am sooo sick of being tired and grumpy and feeling like I want to leave my oldest 2 kids on the side of the road somewhere. They have been driving me to tears for the past week. All I seem to be doing is screaming at them and getting them in trouble - and not little things I can just ignore, but things like pinching, pulling hair (my son) and being extremely moody and throwing wobblies if the cat even looks at them the wrong way (my dayghter). But absolutely NOTHING I do or say changes a thing, they still fight and do naughty things. I am over it! seriously, it is just making me ssooo stressed out that I am not a pleasant person to be around and am starting to overreact to some of the little things that just don't matter.
And if I am being completely honest, I really resent the fact that I am struggling with 3 kids and don't even warrant a second glance, let alone a helping hand from anyone; when my sister who is a single mum to ONE four year old boy, who is in daycare 9-5, five days a week and spends most of the weekends with either his grandparents or his father (while she actually has a life and friends) gets all the attention and support and people bend over backwards to help her because "it's so hard being a single mum". Even if I ask for help (which is very rare) it is like pulling teeth and any concession I get off anyone is like pulling teeth and then I have to listen over and over about how helpful that person is being and what a favour they are doing me.
Sorry this post has just turned into a real rant, but I am just at the end of my tether here. The baby is the only thing that isn't causing me any stress in my life at the moment, and I just want to take Baz and run away from it all and let someone else deal with it for a change. Preschool starts on thursday, thank god for small mercies.
Baz has cut two teeth over the past week, he is enjoying trying them out by biting everything. And he has now started to pull himself into sitting position and is already trying (unsuccessfully) to pull himself up on the funiture.
Misty, just wanted to give you a massive . I am only have one bub so I can only imagine how difficult it can be with 3, especially when you don't feel very supported. Feel free to vent. Take one day at a time and hey, preschool starts soon. Hopefully things will settle down, maybe it is just a yukky week?
TK - Yay for a good Dr. I am so glad to hear of the plan you have in place. Here for you. Also, Happy 6 Months to your DD!!!
MFU - DS is def teething - its driving him nuts. Seems to be in quite a bit of pain, speaking of which I must go and give him some gel. Will be back later for other persies
Rach xx
misty - vent away! I can only imagine how tough it is with 3 littlies at home. My DS does my head in sometimes and he's only home 3 days. I really think SAHMs are unrecognised in the community. There appears to be more support and understanding for the working mums. Its a shame that sometimes we have to fall in a heap before anyone takes our requests for help seriously. Hoping you don't get to that point.
Anyway, M is whinging so might look at a feed and try to put her down for a nap (she only had a few minutes last time I tried).
TK - Im so sorry to hear that you have been struggling, im so glad you were able to find the help you need, and remember... you are not alone...there are so many mothers out there that feel exactly the same way, but unfortunately will never seek help. Good on you for recognising that things werent right and for taking the steps to make it better, i imagine thats the half the battle. Motherhood isnt easy for anyone, and those who claim its all perfect...LIARS!!!! I wish you all the luck in the world hun, and we are ofcourse always here to listen.
Tippytoes - ill see you on friday my darlin'! Cant wait! xxx
Misty - Oh hun, being a mother is a tough gig...beautiful (most of the time) but bloody exhausting! I feel like im yelling at ds1 a lot at the moment too...always telling him to be gentle around bubs, fighting with him to brush teeth, do readers
(homework in general), eat dinner...infact i get arguments for most things! Oh dear, i love the little fella more than i can say, but wow, the arguments are doing my head in!!!! Sometimes I look forward to bedtime for both of them so I can just sit...be still...and breathe!!!!! I have found that now I have more than 1 child, people are less inclined to offer help and babysitting, as more than 1 is harder for them. Im doing so much more on my own now than i ever did before, and i prob need it NOW more than i did before! Anyway...perhaps you can leave the kids with hubby and have a night out on your own, or with some girlfriends, just to unwind and feel like you again, that always helps me. Good luck, and breath, tomorrow you'll probably feel a lot better.
Saffi - GL with the move to the cot. I also started by putting bubs in there for day naps, then made the big move to night sleeps about a week or two later. He seemed to handle the transition just fine (better than me anyway ).
Cheezlemonster - good luck with starting solids. It seems to have come around so quickly doesnt it? I feel like I just established breastfeeding! Time flies!
Ellee - enjoy your trip
Hello to Trish and Megsmum and everyone else I have missed (i know there are others but ive run out of time to read over past posts...sorry ) and a big WECLOME to MELLY!
Thanks for the support girls. I am hoping things calm down a bit once DD starts preschool 2 days a week. I think her and DS1 need a break from each other.
Poor Baz is a little crook at the moment. He has a runny nose and red eyes. Hopefully it doesn't turn into anything too bad, and the other two don't catch it.
I forgot to tell you all, I now have my liscence! Got my P's on friday
tippytoes - Hope those teeth pop through soon, teething is no fun. I know Baz was alot better once the teeth actually got through the skin.
Misty - congrats on getting your P's!!! Do you have your own car yet?
The big news here is that M is teething!!! I was feeling around her mouth earlier and there it was a little sharp edge. She isn't showing any symptoms at all so I would have totally missed it. She is now pulling and biting at the nipple and it really hurts. Me thinks we'll be weaning very soon!
Made up the cot so I'll try her out in it tomorrow.
Hi Ladies,
Just wanted to pop in and let you know that my little princess Lucinda arrived 6 weeks early on Jan 27th and may I add totally perfect and quite easy to spend all day totally admiring her !!!! so smitten with her lol ( so is her dad lol )
I can't believe that your bubs are 6mths already wow time does fly !!!!!
You ladies were the drive behind us trying for our little princess... so Thankyou to all you lovely ladies ( you know who you are )
mrz - so happy to hear of little Lucinda's arrival even if a little early. Enjoy your babymoon and believe me before you know it she'll be 6 months too.
Oh Em.....CONGRATUALTIONS LOVELY LADY!!!!!! WELCOME TO THE WORLD LITTLE LUCINDA!!!! Im over the moon for you and your DH darling, the news brought a tear to my eye and has made my day. Enjoy your little princess hun, and I LOVE the name!!!!
Misty - I'm hearing you. It's hard sometimes with 3. My DD has just started school and if anything, it makes our days more hectic with the drop off and pick up! Hope you get over this hump soon Congrats on getting your Ps! I was a late bloomer too, I didn't get mine till I was about 22 I think.
Saffi - Happy 6 months to Immy! Good luck with the cot transition, we are already in our cot but thinking of moving him into his own room soon.
mrz - Congratulations on the arrival of your little girl
TK - How did your appt go? I hope you are feeling better soon. Motherhood is a huge adjustment for everyone, so be kind to yourself.
Trish - How's the Safe-t-sleep going?? How is Joel liking school?
We are doing well. Still not having great nights around here but it has improved slightly over the last week.
Question for those with good day nappers - how many naps is your bub having now? We are still doing 3 but I'm finding the timing isn't working well any more. He wakes at about 7-7.30am and I get him up for the day because we need to get ready for the school run. We get home at about 9.15am and he goes straight down for a nap, usually sleeps till about 10.30-11.00am. So then he's ready for another nap 2 hours later, generally about 12.30pm-1pm. This is where it gets hairy....he generally wakes at around 2.30pm but sometimes as late as 2.45pm. I have to wake him at that time in any event to get to school to pick DD up. But then if I want him to have another nap before dinner, he has to go down by 4pm (4.30pm at the absolute latest) and I wake him by 5pm if I want him to go down well at night. Problem is, he's just not ready for another nap at 4pm most of the time, but going from 2.30pm to 7pm is too long to stretch him out The last two days he has woken from his second nap at about 2pm so has gone down for his last nap OK (sleeping from 4-5pm). But then has been very hard to settle for bed that night. Today he woke at 2.45pm so I tried to put him back down at 4pm (so he'd only been awake 1 hr 15 mins) and didn't want a bar of it. I tried for about 1/2 hour then gave up.
I think it's just one of those awkward phases where he is not quite ready for 2 naps but doesn't always need 3
Em - Congratulations on the arrival of little Lucinda What a beautiful name!
Saffi - Yay for a tooth! But unyay for biting E has been a bit of a biter too, but has finally got the message that its not OK thank goodness. Good luck with the cot too, we haven't had much with ours LOL
Misty - Yay for getting your P's! And sorry to hear about the kids, my DD1 was the same over the holidays too, really bratty at times. But she has improved out of sight since school started so hopefully yours will too.
tk - So glad you found a supportive GP Hope you are feeling a bit better now.
Cheezel - Hope the solids went OK and yay for the sleeping! Sounds like the swimming was a hit LOL same here - its so cute you're right.
Issy - I managed to find one of those mesh thingies the other day, wasn't even looking for them at the time so I was very excited LOL
Hi Melly and welcome!! And hi to Trish and Ellee and anyone else I've missed
AFU, happy 6 months to E for tomorrow We are starting solids on the weekend too, I thought I'd just wait and do it then because week days just seem to be such a rush ATM. I know I'll have to fit it in somehow, but want to take it easy the first couple of days KWIM? She looks like she is ready - she is fascinated with watching us eat and loves sitting up at the table with us - so hopefully she will go OK.
The kids have been good today (mostly ) So hopefully they are over the stint of rattiness (lnock on wood).
Willow - Well at least I managed to get my liscence before my 28th birthday in April, I am actually loving driving everywhere. As for the day sleeps, we are having similar problems - Baz has around 3 sleeps a day, but there is no consistency as to when or for how long, and lately he has been wanting a sleep around 6pm which messes up the night time sleeps. Mind you, it doesn't help that DS1 likes to sneak in and wake him up to "play" whenever I do get him down.
Megsmum - Yay on starting solids. I have started them, but always forget, so he will go 2 / 3 days between having them. The other night after we all ate dinner, I had Baz in the highchair and was making up some rice cereal - when I came back I discovered he was covered in chocolate. My DS1 had decided to share his milkyway with the baby. The rice cereal didn't have a chance after that. So one of my baby's first food was a milkyway: DD didn't try chocolate until 18mths, DS1 was 12mths and now DS2 had chocolate at less then 6mths.
Saffi - they generally grow out of the biting the nipple very fast (particularly if it means the boob it taken away when the do it). But "ouch" it's not fun is it.
Well, Baz is definitely sick at the moment. Poor bubba. He is all clammy, red eyed and runny nose. He is a little clingy at the moment too - wants mummy.
Will be back for persies a bit later girls xx
Just had to congratulate Em on the arrival of Lucinda (one of my fav girl names ) I am so happy for you and so glad she is healthy! Just wonderful! Rach xx
Misty - We are the same, today he wanted to go down at 5pm and that is just too late, and crazy time around here getting dinner etc ready and the older kids fed and bathed. So I held him out until 6.15pm and then had to put him down, he was beside himself. Not going to make for a good evening me thinks...
Willow - We are the same with the sleeps - 3 a day and TBH I think she needs it. She can't get through the day without turning into a blubbering mess if she doesn't have the 3rd one. We are up at 7, do the school drop off at about 9 and she usually falls asleep in the car on the way home. After this our day is pretty unpredictable LOL What happens next depends on how long she sleeps for, anywhere between 30 mins and around 2 hours. But she is usually awake for the school pickup at 2.30 (but thats changing to 3.10 the week after next) and if she isn't she wakes up when we get there because its so loud. She also won't settle for the night until DD1 is asleep (about 8.30) and until I am there (we cosleep) so she goes to sleep fairly late anyway, but I find if the last nap is after about 6pm then we'll be awake until 11pm Not good! Sorry I'm not a lot of help really, I'm trying to just go with the flow - easier for me cause I don't have another LO at home either! - but the only thing I can think of is wake him up a bit early from the 2nd sleep maybe? Would he be too grumpy if you did that? I guess its sometimes a case of grinning and bearing it, hard to do I know when they are not sleeping at night much either I feel for you...and I'm sorry to hear you've got the cold thing happening too
Misty - Oh no about the chocolate! I guess at least DS1 was sharing.....Sorry to hear Baz is sick hope he's feeling better soon.
Morning nap around 9:00am (usually falls asleep on the way home from school drop off)
sleeps for around 40 mins to an hour and a half.
Midday sleep - 12-12:30pm - sleeps for 40mins to an hour and a half.
Afternoon sleep from about 3:30-4:00 till about 5ish.
Bedtime around 8:00-8:30pm.
He is usually a little difficult between 6 and 7, but we stretch him out with dinner, cuddles and bathtime, sometimes I let him have a quick nap (maybe 10 mins) at about 6ish to get him through. Bed earlier than 7:00-7:30 results in waking up 2-3 times a night, but bed by 8-8:30 results in a good night sleep for all of us.
So there you have it. I find bathtime the best way to stretch him out because he is so distracted by it.
Our day sleep pattern is pretty similar to Lochies'. We went swimming today and it was soooo fun. Great to see the boys in the water. Eli went under for the first time and was really good! Lochie was just cracking up laughing, loves the water! I also have some very exciting news. Some people may know that issy is my BF and we were lucky enough to share our PG together and study our teaching degree together too. Well, I am so lucky and honoured that I am going to be Lochie's god mother! I am so happy I get all teary when I think about it! So Eli and Lochie will be god brothers! Had to share my happy news.
Misty - hope Baz is doing better. Could it be the dreeded teething playing havoc?
megsmum - how are the sleep going? We are still up evert 3 hours. It will pass! hopefully!
Rach - Awww, that's so lovely. We had our christening on the weekend and my two best friends were D's godmothers
Well it sounds like we are in a very similar routine to most of you.
Last night however was HORRENDOUS! It took me two HOURS to settle him off to sleep. I'm not sure if he's teething again because his bottom gums are all red and inflamed or if it was just a bad night. I guess I"m getting a little disheartened because I really don't want to go down the same road we did with DS1, it seriously nearly did me in. In the end we went to sleep school when he was 10 months and although I don't regret it, I don't want to go back again. I'd feel like a total failure D was such a wonderful sleeper to start with (and still is during the day), I seriously don't know what's happened. I'm just trying to ride it out for now but some nights it does my head in.
We are doing a bit better with solids this week, tried sweet potato and corn and he loved it! He also surprised me by sipping water out of a sippy cup today, one of the Tommy Tippee ones with the straw I'd be pretty happy if we can just skip straight to those cups.
He had his check up with the paed yesterday and he was happy, we don't have to go back for another 4 months He is a whopping 9.8kg and 68cm long. His HC has only grown by about 1cm in the past 3 months so that was good news.
Better go, someone needs to be fed!
Last edited by Willow; February 12th, 2010 at 03:44 PM.
. I am only have one bub so I can only imagine how difficult it can be with 3, especially when you don't feel very supported. Feel free to vent. Take one day at a time and hey, preschool starts soon. Hopefully things will settle down, maybe it is just a yukky week?
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) and a big WECLOME to MELLY!
The last two days he has woken from his second nap at about 2pm so has gone down for his last nap OK (sleeping from 4-5pm). But then has been very hard to settle for bed that night. Today he woke at 2.45pm so I tried to put him back down at 4pm (so he'd only been awake 1 hr 15 mins) and didn't want a bar of it. I tried for about 1/2 hour then gave up.
What a beautiful name!
E has been a bit of a biter too, but has finally got the message that its not OK thank goodness. Good luck with the cot too, we haven't had much with ours LOL
So one of my baby's first food was a milkyway: DD didn't try chocolate until 18mths, DS1 was 12mths and now DS2 had chocolate at less then 6mths. 
Not good! Sorry I'm not a lot of help really, I'm trying to just go with the flow - easier for me cause I don't have another LO at home either! - but the only thing I can think of is wake him up a bit early from the 2nd sleep maybe? Would he be too grumpy if you did that? I guess its sometimes a case of grinning and bearing it, hard to do I know when they are not sleeping at night much either 
everyone else!
I am so happy I get all teary when I think about it! So Eli and Lochie will be god brothers! Had to share my happy news.
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