Hi ladies, not getting much of an opportunity to post lately. Harper has had horrible screaming every night of this week which results in my curling up in bed with her and just holding her until she goes to sleep. I did take her to the dr's during the week though as i could no longer carry on just assuming it's 'normal'. The dr i saw said it sounds like silent refulx and perscribed Zantac and i'm a little confused as to whether or not i could say it's helped yet. The day i first gave it to her she slept for a couple of hours at a time which was just not happening at all (surly the medication couldn't take effect that quickly???) but we still had the full on scream of the evening. I've just been reading the reflux threads trying to see what i can find out and i'm fairly convinced she is suffering from silent reflux. I hear the swallowing, falls asleep then wakes up screaming, the knees and arms are going like crazy when she's screaming. I absolutely hate seeing her this way. Anyway i'm trying to help her i just wish we could have results so much quicker. She starts pretty much the same time DH walks in the door from work and from then on we handball her from him, to me, to my mum. We take turns in eating dinner, cleaning up and having showers whilst she cries her little heart out. DH wants to go away this coming weekend but we're hesitant about taking her to a packed camping ground with our evening routine. DH still wants to go if i don't but i've told him it's not fair that i stay home and deal with her on my own while he goes and relaxes and it's also Aidan's bday i don't want us to be all seperated on that day. He's saying HE needs to get away and he's going. Lucky for him he can be selfish like that... Anyway no whinging, i'm off to bed before little miss wakes up. Will try catch up with everyone soon, hopefully next week we will start to have some results and i get to have a evening wind down like i used to.
MadB how is your little lady going? Are your evenings settling down a little. I have noticed a huge improvement with Harper on the Zantac, we have still had the witching hour the last couple of nights but her days are different, she's going longer between feeds and is sleeping for more than an 40-1hr!!! Thanks for all your support and advice. Good to know your sister is ok and safe from floods.
PP how are things now that you've had a few nights to try what you learnt at the sleep settling class? It's great when you find something that works so keep trying i'm sure you'll get there. I don't think any DH's like being told what to do but when you're not looking i'm sure he'll give it a go We had crazy humidity here last week also, we had washing hanging everywhere because it just wasn't drying. Not to mention the frizzy hair Oh and on the isolation part, i just saw comments and photos on facebook of my cousins having a great time last night and no invite for me either. We still catch up with mothers group from when Aidan was born but there is only 3 of us. It was a larger group but it does tend to die off with people returning to work or just finding that 'mothers group' may not be their thing. We enjoy catching up though, one mum had her 2nd within a week of me having Charlie boy and the other has also had her 2nd and is about to her her 3rd so we still have lots in common. Glad you got to have a chat to DH, sometimes they just don't realise... Hope you enjoyed your beer, there has been many nights when dealing with Harper that i have fantacised about how nice a drink would be, something to calm the nerves after so much screaming. I've barely drank for the last 5 years
Georgi i hope you are well and truely feeling much better by now and are able to enjoy your little family without feeling so ill. How are you boys going? How has Byron settled with his new brother?
Kaz hope you're having a great day. How is your little man and the bfing journey going. I see you sucess in expressing is increasing. I hope it continues. DH and I had already discussed contraception and he's going to have the 'snip'. He's agreed to it willingly. Maybe you could be like us Kaz and have 2 boys and a girl!!?? It'd be lovely Call me crazy but i was thinking about a 4th the other day
Gosh Jules i want this thrush to go away for you and Jacob, i've never had it before but gosh is sounds terrible. The process to try and get rid of it sounds so tiring. I'm going to have to cut it short on your personals as Harper is waking after a 3 or so hour sleep!!!! Woo hoo I will be back to catch up with you lovely.
Hi guys
Got knocked for six after my last post here. Had one of those vodka premix drinks when DD went to sleep. I don't think I felt it at all
Jules, I wanted to ask about the thrush. DD has it too. I didn't bother with teh nilstat - can't see how it would work with a newborn - and have been using the gel for us both, but it isn't budging. My nipples have been ok though, thankfully. They were a bit sore and itchy, but seem fine now (fingers crossed). How long is it supposed to take? You've had it for weeks, right?
That makes sense Kaz. Hope you're having a good birthday.
That's good news Myboys. Hopefully the arsenic hour stuff will ease up soon too.
Yup, Kaz, we want Millie to be a big sister. Hopefully a couple more? We'll see what happens Four of DH's 5 siblings have 4 kids each! One planned on 3 but got twins on the last pregnancy There's no medical issues in the way for us, and at 32 and 33 it's not inconceivable (haha) that we could have 2 or 3 more by the time we're 40. Hooray for your uninterrupted dinner! Isn't it awesome when that happens? I was starting to eat like a pig for awhile there - stuffing my food down pronto before Millie woke up. Things have settled down quite a bit. Oh yes - and happy birthday!
Jules, don't feel embarrassed by the crying. I think people can see how little they are and most people are understanding. Mind you, a young couple got up quick smart yesterday when DH and I sat down with a squalling Millie... but they were replaced by a lovely old couple who were so sweet (She had a bottle in her mouth by then and was her usual sweet self.) The lady was a retired primary school teacher who said all the Amelias she ever taught were very bright *proud parental glow*
Hey MadB, sorry you have thrush too I used the gel in Millie's mouth, Mothersafe recommended daktarin cream on nipples but I used MooGoo antifungal cream. It worked pretty well.
Myboys how is the zantac panning out? I'm starting to wonder about reflux with Millie too - it's not a constant thing but she occasionally does very biley-smelling clear spews... could explain her snuffly nose and occasional coughing as well. I will see the clinic nurse on Tuesday and pick her brains then.
I hope you can spend Aiden's b'day as a family. It astounds me how selfish the most wonderful DH can be at times. I desparately needed a big block of sleep last night so asked DH to take the night feed (he was planning on getting up to watch his German team play football at stupid o'clock anyway). He agreed, but when Millie woke up, I of course got up too - automatic, I thinkI was out of bed before I even really woke up. He held her while I got her bottle ready, but when I came upstairs thinking I was going to go straight back to bed, he handed her to me and said, "I have a headache, can you do this feed?" Then told me not to look at him like that!! WHAT? I have done every night feed since birth, headache, boob ache, fatigue be damned, and I ask for ONE NIGHT off now that she's on formula, and you wonder why I shot you a filthy??? Saturday night is the one night I feel okay about asking - Sunday through Thursday nights he has to work the next day, Friday night I figure he needs to wind down. No wind down time for me, apparently.
Gosh, sorry. Had to get that one off my chest.
Anyone else having trouble sleeping (when you actually get to put your head down, I mean!) Millie is sleeping well at night. Not great during the day, but generally very good at night. I'm not sleeping so well though. I find myself dreaming of her - the other night I woke in a cold sweat, I dreamed that people were chasing DH and I, and they took her out of the back of the car because they knew I'd get out of the car if they had her. I lie awake for ages after she's fed and settled making sure she doesn't stir. I have real trouble sleeping during the day, and often when I do get down for a nap, Millie wakes up ahead of time so I don't get to it. So I am feeling very fatigued - last night's little spat didn't help matters at all. I talked to him a bit about the fatigue today... not sure if it got through.
Hey all, will try get some personals done while I wait for Jacob to nod off again…
Picketty – Great to hear from you again – sounds like you’re figuring things out over there, we all have bad days but sounds like you’re managing just fine. Connor is such a good boy only getting up twice during the night!! And going straight back to sleep? That’s great!!
PP – When you use fess on Millie, do you use the little sucker part or do you just use the spray? I’m too scared to use it on Jacob, I feel like all I do is put things down this poor little boys throat for the thrush that I can’t bear any extra treatment to him at the moment. Feeling isolated over here too, I am so far away from family and friends back home and although I have a few friends that I’ve made here it just isn’t the same as being with people I really know. I feel sad cause I’d love to be sharing Jacob with family and friends, instead of being stuck in these four walls just him and I. Hope you enjoyed your beer and yay on your mum coming to visit! Hope you have a great time. I’m hearing you on the fatigue…I don’t get a break over here either – even if I have an expressed bottle, DH has long gone to bed and doesn’t like being disturbed so I just don’t bother any more, I have just resigned myself to the fact that I’m going to be there for every feed. Men just don’t get it sometimes do they…they often have good intentions but I don’t think they really think things through.
Kaz – Excellent news on the 25 mls! Keep up the great work!! Happy Birthday too!! Hope you’ve had a wonderful day!!
Myboys – I know you weren’t meaning to whinge and neither am I, but that sounds pretty typical of a male…I have been thinking the same thing about my DH – he’s able to just go to the gym, out and about where ever he likes whenever he likes and doesn’t have to worry about a thing! I love Jacob and all the time I spend with him but it’d be nice if he’d make some sacrifices too! I hope you can come to a compromise for the weekend. Wow!!! Three hour sleep!! GO HARPER!! What a good girl she was for her mummy here’s hoping it’s a sign of things to come
MadB – sorry to hear you have thrush too! It’s the pits. PP and Millie had it too but they were lucky enough to beat it without too much trouble I think! I was giving Jacob Nilstat, Daktarin Oral gel for my nipples and Daktozin for his butt and this has been going on since just before Christmas!! But it’s now been changed that I only give him Nilstat twice a day (to help with the bottom side of things) and oral gel four times a day that I have to rub in his mouth. I called 13HEALTH the other day to ask how long it should take to get rid of it and she said 7-10 days!! Yeah right… it’s been going for sooo long. I am apparently doing all the right things. I even use bicarb on my nipples every day and put vinegar through my wash cycle (all recommended by the health nurse). I hope you start having results quicker than me.
Best be off, Jacob is still fighting sleep so I think it’s time I just take him to bed with me so we both get some rest!
Jules - with the fess, we use both parts. I had some horrid trouble getting Will to stay attached, he was a bit snuffly so I used the fess, and it didn't feel like we got anything out, IYKWIM, but he was no longer snuffly and attaching and staying attached. So may be worth a try for you???
You know something that's weird? With Pip, I didn't co-sleep. I used to have horrid nightmares though that I had suffocated him in my sleep - and that was from when I was just playing with him on the bed! With Will I co-sleep, and no nightmares - go figure?
Thanks for that Kaz! Gave it a shot as Jacob has sounded snuffly also and he has been breaking off while feeding quite a bit... Wow, what a difference!! He sounds loads better. I don't mind co-sleeping occasionally, it's sweet having him so close by! Didn't need to last night though, he was fast asleep by the time I put the computer down and stood up!! He is such a faker sometimes!!
We had crazy humidity here last week also, we had washing hanging everywhere because it just wasn't drying. Not to mention the frizzy hair 
Oh and on the isolation part, i just saw comments and photos on facebook of my cousins having a great time last night and no invite for me either. We still catch up with mothers group from when Aidan was born but there is only 3 of us. It was a larger group but it does tend to die off with people returning to work or just finding that 'mothers group' may not be their thing. We enjoy catching up though, one mum had her 2nd within a week of me having Charlie boy and the other has also had her 2nd and is about to her her 3rd so we still have lots in common. Glad you got to have a chat to DH, sometimes they just don't realise... Hope you enjoyed your beer, there has been many nights when dealing with Harper that i have fantacised about how nice a drink would be, something to calm the nerves after so much screaming. I've barely drank for the last 5 years 
Call me crazy but i was thinking about a 4th the other day 
I will be back to catch up with you lovely.
Four of DH's 5 siblings have 4 kids each! One planned on 3 but got twins on the last pregnancy 
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