Oh how sad, Jessica. I'm sorry Ashley's birth wasn't what you'd hoped for. There are some good threads around here about birth de-briefing, and gender disappointment too. If you haven't already found them, go hunting and you'll receive loads of support from people in a similar position as you've been.
They are so worth all the hassle, aren't they? Sometimes I get really angry with Natty - she can be so needy sometimes - and then we'll share a cuddle and she'll gently pat my shoulder and I'll think, "Ah, this makes it all worthwhile"
Chon, I haven't spoken with my friend just yet - I don't want to crowd her out because I know she's got a lot of family who will be wanting her time and attention atm. But when I do get a chance to call her or visit with her I'll ask about why she chose Maya for her little girl.
Why did you choose Maya? Do you pronounce it My-a or May-a? I have only ever seen it written and so in my mind it has always been My-a, like the ancient culture from South America...
Natty enjoys books too, though she's not as advanced in her language and comprehension as Maya by the sounds of things! LOL, she sounds like an absolute star!