Thanks liz, i feel better about it now i think the time to myself is just wonderful and im sure he feels better for a bigger sleep. Hes never been a cot baby, everytime i go to put him down he knows and wakes. i told mum i reckon its the sense of dropping (as u put them down, if you know what i mean) but if i put him on anything my level where hes still against my body, eg, couch etc, he will stay asleep. i think he will be better in a 'big' boys bed when hes ready than a cot.