Sorry haven't posted much and might not for a while...just too tired and all over the place. I've been lurking a bit though. Once I get the energy to post I find that I've missed so much and it's hard to catch up and I don't want all my posts to be all me me me! HA like this one...
Tracey, I don't know you but I just wanted to say that Milana is beautiful and she looks so peaceful in that photo - brought tears to my eyes.
Anyway, I hope everyone is going well and bubs are settling in nicely. I'll try and catch up properly tomorrow.
Hi all, we had a better night last night, hopefully same tonight. Maybe its the lovely lavender massage she gets. Em has done well weight wise, worked out to be an average of 32g a day she has gained.
Tracey- she is gorgeous, thanks for sharing, I am thinking of you and hope you are all doing ok.
Laura- Looks like you made it to yr party! Cute pic.
Tarkine- Try get naps in when ever you can. Your right about getting outside, I feel so much better getting fresh air.
OP- Em won't settle herself either, I wait til she is really sleepy then pat her to try go off to sleep, sometimes works, in the evenings nothing works for long we have to carry her round to settle. Don't worry too much about it at this early stage they'll get there eventually.
Heaven- Yr weekend away sounds nice hopefully will be relaxing, prolly do you all good to get away.
Nai- Yay on rolling, Em is nearly there, tries to roll to her right, never tries the other way tho.
Ali- I can understand you being upset. Men somtimes can be inconsideret without meaning to, he prolly just felt he needed some him time without thinking about you needing some quality family time.
We put Em on her side alot but I put her more towards her back and her arm out so she won't roll onto her tummy. if that makes any sense. She sleeps so much better that way. And don't worry bout DPs family, you need to do whatever you need to do to get thru each day. Whatever works I say.
Holly- Hi. post whenevr you have the energy, hope all is ok and things settle down for you.
Lol I've missed alot desperate housewives writing this post. Em is asleep on my legs. If I lie or sit in bed with my knees bent she sits back in there and I rock my legs and she goes off tgo sleep. Not overly comfortable tho and very hard to type on laptop!
Hi! I am around. I jsut went and spent Thursday night at mums. Then she aksed me if I wanted to go t the beach house with her, so I did. DH met us there. We had a great time.
Got home yest,
I have a fair bit to catch up on, and I will later.
J is still being SUPER clingy. Just dropped him at childcare with him in tears. He also woke up crying last night.
It breaks my heart seeing him upset
"Woe is me" post... went to the Obs for my 6wk check, she checked out my epi and is very happy with how it has healed, but I have other issues down there... I can't remember what the Obs called them but it is apparently due to "over healing" - I have these little pink lumps, which caused the funny smell I had noticed.
Apparently very common, nothing to worry about. But she had to burn them off with a chemical cauterising stick thing... which hurt.
So now I am sore, again. And to make matters worse, she says no DTD for another week.
DH is very upset by this. I know it sounds ridiculous to some of you who aren't even thinking about sex but its really important for DH - something we've discussed over and over and he's really struggling. Sigh.
Guess I'll have to make an effort to be extra affectionate for the next week...
Meg - a stay at a beach house sounds divine! glad you had a good time.
OP - That sucks about you "over healing" - I'm sorry your pain has returned and for you and your DH's frustration.
SJ - How did you express for a week darl? A day and a half did my head in and had me in tears and panicing about not being able to get anything done except feed him, express and then turn around for the next feed!! You deserve a medal mate!!
AFM - Quick question - a few pages back some of you were talking about your bubs who were crying while feeding - so sucking and crying at the same time and jumping on and off the breast all the time. We've had three out of the last 6 feeds like that here today and Mr. J was doing it yesterday in the evening as well - does anyone know why they do it? It didn't seem to be wind and he eventually settles during the feed - usually on the second side. At first yesterday I was worried it was some type of nipple confusion because we'd been giving him half of his feeds from a bottle while I was expressing for 24 hours but he has fed really well since then and is agitated on both sides at times. He is making my fragile left nipple quite sore again! How long does it last?
Kaz- Em still does it and I've found its one of 3 things, a) pain, if I burp her for awhile or bounce her on my lap for awhile she'll feed better, b) If shes been on there awhile and feeding really well I think its cause she has drained it and getting frustrated cause usually then she'll take the other side fine, and c) if she is comfort feeding as she does in evenings she does it cause I think she is full and too much is giving her tummy ache. Its just what I've found since she started doing it so now I can sort of figure out quickly what the problem is.
OP- Sorry to hear bout probs down there, maybe extra cuddles, always other things you can do besides sex. Sex is last thing on my mind! I'm sure the next week will fly by quickly.
Meg- Good to hear from you, beach house sounds great. Hope J settles soon, I'm sure he will. Just hard for you at the moment.
Nothing new here, Em actually settled in bouncer so making most of it. Decided we're gonna try bottle formula tonight and hope she sleeps little bit longer, I need sleep!
OP - can you promise DH a pretty darn good time if he waits?
Kaz - Alex gets fussy when he's been on the boob for awhile and he's overtired, but he's never cried while on the boob - its the only thing that shuts him up.
AFM - Alex slept for 3hrs yesterday afternoon, then kept me up most of the night! Two hours was the max sleep - loads of one hour sleeps. Had to go to the hospital for DH's checkup for the stint he did in hospital early feb and waited three hours to be told nothing to worry about. Alex was a good bubs and was cooed over at the hospital. Came home with one side really hard, and expressed 120ml without any problems, so DH is on one feed duty tonight!
Kaz - that can be caused by reflux. I will come back later and quote from a book *wanders off to get book* Ok - It says that there can be breast refusal because of starting the minipill. There can also be refusal because of reflux. it says if they refuse feeds for more than 12 hours, you should seek medical advice. Hope that helps
Shell - UI will be interested to see if she sleeps longer on formula. I may give it a go too.
tarkine - hoping you get a better night tonight.
DH is on annual leave for a month at the end of next week. Might head up to the other holiday house in Bright. (one house is owned by my parents, the other is owned by my grandparents.) J just has such a good time at the houses. It is also a great stress release.
Sleepy vibes for all.
ETA - Miss E has a terrible cold. Thanks to her big brother.
After my awful day/night yesterday I tried really hard to make today successful.
You see I think my problem has been that I over feed DD as it is the best way to settle her. But its a catch 22 because then by overfeeding she gets so much wind and that stops her from sleeping.
After not being able to get her to sleep yesterday for more than 10min at a time up until 11:45 at night I finally got her to sleep.
We co-slept last night as I was so exhausted!! Both had eyes shut by midnight. Well I woke up to DD's whingin for a feed and to my shock it was 6am!! SHE SLEPT 6 HOURS!!!! I then fed her and she went back to sleep until 9am ANOTHER 3 HOURS!!!! I fed her and then she went back to a light sleep and I fed her at 11:30am. My sister then came over and DD was crying. I was so tempted to feed her to settle her but my sis said it was okay and that she was happy to try and settle her for me (Oh I was so relieved to hear this)! Well it worked even after all that screaming she settled her and got lots of wind out of her and then she left and DD then slept until 2:30pm ANOTHER 2.5 HOURS!! I then fed her and then SIL came over and settled her for me. She slept from 3:30pm- 5:30pm! ANOTHER 2 HOURS!!!
I then fed her and had a bit of trouble with her waking up as soon as I put her down but managed to restrain myself from putting her on the boob as I knew that my sis and SIL could both settle her without resorting to that so I knew I just needed to perservere.
It was hard work and have had lots of almost asleep and then eyes wide open but I finaly put her down 15minutes and she has stayed down!!! (Touch Wood)!!
I feel really proud of myself today and need to give myslef a but also couldnt have done it without my sis and SIL being here to help and show me that it can be done.
Anyway I am so sorry that that was long and "all about me" but I really had to share with someone as I feel it was a big accomplishment for me
Heaven- Bouncing on the fitball really helped me to settle DD.
Nai- How clever of Juliette rolling over!!!! Ali- IKWYM, it takes so long to get organised to go anywhere! And just when you think you're ready they need a nappy change or a feed! I give DD the boob to settle her too, lol, no wonder she's such a chub. But sometimes it's the only way, if she's not being fussy that is. Yay for your sis and SIL, what a big help! Holly- lol, I find it hard to keep up too, hope you're feeling a bit better and got some sleep Shell- I hope you got some more sleep last night! Meg- Yay for DH having leave for a month! That will be so good for you! OP- Bummer about no DTD for another week, hope it gets better quick for you! Kaz- Oh expressing for a wk was hard! So lucky I had DH here to do everything else, lol, so I could fit it in. Between steralising and feeding and expressing that's about all I did!! So glad it healed before he went back to work!! I don't know about the fussing at the breast, DD is still doing it and it's so frustrating!! When I went to the MCHN today there were lots of ppl there with bubs about the same age and I heard them talking saying the same thing is happening to them, lets hope it's just a phase. It usually happens on the second side with DD so I'm thinking maybe she's had enough and just wants to comfort suck and the flow is too fast for her coz when she comes off milk goes everywhere. But it's hard to know bc sometimes she's still looking for it so I feel like I'm starving her, lol. But I spose if she was really hungry she would take it.
I also felt exactly the same as you with the settling. After the cs I couldn't do much so DH was doing all the settling and then I felt like I couldn't do it and he could do it so much better. But by the time he went back to work (after 3 wks) I was feeling a lot better and found it wasn't as bad as I thought and I could do it. I was really worried too and used to cry to DH thinking I wouldn't cope with him at work. So try not to worry, you will be fine!! Promise. tarkine- that's great news about your DH!! det- Yay, what a great weight gain!
Went to the MCHN today and DD has put on another 220g this week so going well! Now if she would just quit it with the fussy feeding!!
Hi girls, went to the MCHN today and Ash has put on 240grams in 10 days. She is now 4.23Kg. SH ehas also grown to 56cm (4.5cm in 3 weeks). She is inthe 95th percentile for height so I think she is going to be a tall girl like her dad.
In regards to the feeding it wasnt so much that she was overfeeding but she was 'snacking' too much and therefore more often and its a bad habit to get in to if she continues that way. THE MCHN told me not to worry about rocking her to sleep, cuddling, etc yet, its by about 3 months that you need to get them out of that habit as that is when habits will start.
OP- i have the Baby Love book as well. Havnet read it yet, but heard good things about it. Hope that you heal up down there soon but not overheal again! Just make sure you keep tellin gDH how much you love him and tell him it wont be long. There is light at the end of the tunnel!
Kaz- I think the settling thing is just a patience thing. Today I have really had to just be patient with the settling as I'm on my own again but at least I now know that it can be done. Just enjoy make the most of DP while he is home. How is the fluid thing going? Any prgoress on healing?
Meg- Hope Miss E's thrush clears up. Do you know how they get thrush??? Is it something we eat that off balances their systems or can it just happen?
Ali- Ash used to be like that, snacking constantly and it did eventually get to a point where i couldn't go out and leave her cause she was so dependent on the breast to settle. That why this time I do whatever else, dummy, rocking etc cause at least anyone can do that whereas only you can do the breast settling. yay on the big sleep last night!
meg- Hopefully going to the chiro will make her more settled. How has the nights been? We're having an at home day today, don't want to go out in the hot, tho its not overly hot.
Heaven- Thats a nice weight gain, thats about what Em puts on in a week. Nice to see it cause then you know your milk is doing good!
AJP- yes love the new look!
Det- I'm looking forward to a 7 hour stint, tho I'll prolly end up laying there listening to her breath and worry if she is ok!
Kaz- Try not to stress too much, you'll be fine, just take each time at a time, sometimes what works one day won't work the next, Em some days settles well and days like today needed alot help. I try all different things, rocker, battery operated swing, my hugabub, pram, patting her bottom in the bassinet, dummy. Remember if you feel anxious he may feel it so just try be calm and relaxed and see how it goes. Don't think you can't do it, tell yourself you can! It does take awhile to learn what they want, i do find it a bit easier 2nd time around, with Ash i had no idea, so I used to chuck her on the boob anytime she cried!
Tarkine- Hopefully he'll have more of those 3 hr sleeps and hopefully overnight for you!
Well Em slept from 7 til 10:30 last night so only gave 50mls formula and rest breast casue thought my boobs will pop if I don't feed her. I'm just relieved she took it no probs, Ash flat out refused bottle til she was 9mths and I ended up getting really down and felt trapped with it cause it meant I could not have anytime out to myself, and cause she used boob to settle as well if I did ever leave the house without her it was for like 2 hours max. So we'll prolly give it to her every few nigts just to keep her used to it. So glad she had no probs, such relief! She then slept til 2:30 then til 6:30 so good night.
SHE SLEPT 6 HOURS!!!! 
but also couldnt have done it without my sis and SIL being here to help and show me that it can be done. 
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