thanks everyone for reassuring me that i wasnt being selfish bout the inlaws. turns out the other day MIL called Dh and asked if we wanted to come over to their house after the Zoo on Ben's birthday for coffee and cake. I said to Dh no way. I explained that i wanted to avoid having to "host" so i could enjoy the day with my son and not worry about anything. And Ben is my son, not hers, there is no way im letting her take over.
THEN after a big confusing "what the heck do we do" converstation we got nowhere. THEN I said that a few family and friends can come over after the zoo for a little party. BUT dh told MIL that we agreed not to go the the zoo at all, and just have people over at our house. aghhhhhh! It's just that, Ben is at home every day, and i wanted to go out and do something different for his birthday, so that we will remember it... I'm annoyed, but what can i do. It's not about me, It's about Ben.

Ben is going well, still only walking with his walker, but he is so fast! I cant wait till he can walk not holding onto anything. Nadine, like you, i just dont want to have to carry Ben everywhere! and the shoes part im looking forward to aswell!

Today we are going to see a parade, Im looking forward to it, its nice and sunny today.