He is - sadly he's handsome enough that most people let him get away with it.

I've realised how my parenting style is opposing DH's though - I let DS do what he wants, answer his questions and encourage him to stick up for his own beliefs. DH has now decided DS has to learn to read, so spent almost 2 hours getting him to say "a, b, c, d" as he wrote the letters. Not worth it: I use fridge magnets and talk about letters when DS is interested, not when I have some time and want to fill it.

As I said to DH, his persistance and knowing his own mind (ie stubbornness) is an asset to an adult, so don't wipe it all out! We're currently taking the line that he does what we say NOW and can ask us why as he's doing it. I will always give a reason. But he has to do as he's told. So he can ask why he has to come to table and eat (he usually gets that one though!) or why he has to tidy up, but he has to stop making a mess first. I've got a feeling that will be OK with DH until he decides it's backchat from DS... sigh, I feel like I'm having to teach the both of them!