Just a quickie from me - DH is getting our new car and DS is awake - but we're OK, Liebs is sleeping OK again, 2 wake-ups a night (usually midnight and 3-4am, then awake between 6-7 for the day - but he did do 2-8 one night). Whiplash - liveable with again (just pain, not agony). DS - adorable now he is sleeping at night. DH - a right PITA still, but now with a straight nose (op done Wednesday, he's been on the computer ever since - does he not know I need BB?). Funeral - I made DS sleep through it, he did wake up during the reading but I forced him back to sleep. Annoyed at DH and PiL - DH asked PiL to take me when I wanted to walk, so in a pencil skirt (only black skirt I have; others are dresses) squished in between two car seats then I have to sit with PiL, MiL wants to sit right at the front whereas I asked if we could sit near the back because I may need to escape with a screaming DS. We had to arrive a half-hour early too, I spent that time pacing up and down with DS to stop him screaming. Right at the front, so very conspicuous. Otherwise, it was a good funeral. Can I say enjoyable? But it was a great celebration of life. Then PiL didn't want to have coffee with everyone, so we were straight home. Oh, I wish I'd walked, even in a pencil skirt and 4" heels on my boots.

Love to hear about all the beautiful bubs, they all sound like they're doing well.

Now, a quick message for Kel: weight doesn't change a thing. Well, it actually makes people b*tchier if you lose weight (how DARE you have a baby and look thin?). I am now needing a belt to hold my trousers up again, but people have told me not to comment on post-baby weight... I have post-baby weight, I have a podge (albeit almost gone now), I can empathise about it all! Don't just think I shouldn't mention it because I'm back in my normal clothes... hell, I was in my normal clothes at 38w pregnant! Surely I can comment and offer tips (sit-ups and belly dancing worked well for me)! And I still rely on my coffee groups to add substance to my day, being narky with DH for being at home on Thursday so I missed my morning coffee group because I wasn't allowed to leave him unattended... he should have stayed in hospital if he can't even use a kettle, let alone be allowed to the loo on his own! FFS, I have a 3-month-old baby here! But that's my issue, not yours.

Anyway, it's not bad that you don't want people to hold Jem, tbh I think it's really odd when people ask to hold Lieby, although I am fine with it as my back aches from holding a 14lb (almost 7kg) baby all the time. I wouldn't be cool with it if I wasn't in pain.

For more in your life... are you involved in the local Church? I do a lot of things there - the Bible study mornings, the non-Christian play groups (just as a way to meet new mums and babies, although there is a Church service at the end of each term), the play visits with DS's little baby friends from Church... seriously, my social life bloomed since having DS! Because the play group things are structured for DS I feel I have a life and he's doing things; new toys, new babies to watch, new things basically. The coffee mornings, well, neither of us tire of hearing how gorgeous my man is! There are also baby signing classes, music and baby sessions, swimming classes... I don't do these, but they are around.

Plus, at three months old a baby isn't that responsive. OK, they look gorgeous in photos but I can't be the only one who thinks that photos are preferable to a baby sometimes - more portable and not screaming. (I entered DS for a baby photo contest today, he had the photos last week and I had to pick the entry, as well as spending £45/$100-110 on pictures.) It will get easier when you can have conversations (DS has stopped talking as his fist is permanently in his mouth) and they actually DO something. Until then, coffee mornings ahoy! You can also study from home if you want to improve your mind.

Right, GTG, DS needs a nappy change. Love and hugs to everyone and the babies too!