Just a quickie from me - DH is getting our new car and DS is awake - but we're OK, Liebs is sleeping OK again, 2 wake-ups a night (usually midnight and 3-4am, then awake between 6-7 for the day - but he did do 2-8 one night). Whiplash - liveable with again (just pain, not agony). DS - adorable now he is sleeping at night. DH - a right PITA still, but now with a straight nose (op done Wednesday, he's been on the computer ever since - does he not know I need BB?). Funeral - I made DS sleep through it, he did wake up during the reading but I forced him back to sleep. Annoyed at DH and PiL - DH asked PiL to take me when I wanted to walk, so in a pencil skirt (only black skirt I have; others are dresses) squished in between two car seats then I have to sit with PiL, MiL wants to sit right at the front whereas I asked if we could sit near the back because I may need to escape with a screaming DS. We had to arrive a half-hour early too, I spent that time pacing up and down with DS to stop him screaming. Right at the front, so very conspicuous. Otherwise, it was a good funeral. Can I say enjoyable? But it was a great celebration of life. Then PiL didn't want to have coffee with everyone, so we were straight home. Oh, I wish I'd walked, even in a pencil skirt and 4" heels on my boots.
Love to hear about all the beautiful bubs, they all sound like they're doing well.
Now, a quick message for Kel: weight doesn't change a thing. Well, it actually makes people b*tchier if you lose weight (how DARE you have a baby and look thin?). I am now needing a belt to hold my trousers up again, but people have told me not to comment on post-baby weight... I have post-baby weight, I have a podge (albeit almost gone now), I can empathise about it all! Don't just think I shouldn't mention it because I'm back in my normal clothes... hell, I was in my normal clothes at 38w pregnant! Surely I can comment and offer tips (sit-ups and belly dancing worked well for me)! And I still rely on my coffee groups to add substance to my day, being narky with DH for being at home on Thursday so I missed my morning coffee group because I wasn't allowed to leave him unattended... he should have stayed in hospital if he can't even use a kettle, let alone be allowed to the loo on his own! FFS, I have a 3-month-old baby here! But that's my issue, not yours.
Anyway, it's not bad that you don't want people to hold Jem, tbh I think it's really odd when people ask to hold Lieby, although I am fine with it as my back aches from holding a 14lb (almost 7kg) baby all the time. I wouldn't be cool with it if I wasn't in pain.
For more in your life... are you involved in the local Church? I do a lot of things there - the Bible study mornings, the non-Christian play groups (just as a way to meet new mums and babies, although there is a Church service at the end of each term), the play visits with DS's little baby friends from Church... seriously, my social life bloomed since having DS! Because the play group things are structured for DS I feel I have a life and he's doing things; new toys, new babies to watch, new things basically. The coffee mornings, well, neither of us tire of hearing how gorgeous my man is! There are also baby signing classes, music and baby sessions, swimming classes... I don't do these, but they are around.
Plus, at three months old a baby isn't that responsive. OK, they look gorgeous in photos but I can't be the only one who thinks that photos are preferable to a baby sometimes - more portable and not screaming. (I entered DS for a baby photo contest today, he had the photos last week and I had to pick the entry, as well as spending £45/$100-110 on pictures.) It will get easier when you can have conversations (DS has stopped talking as his fist is permanently in his mouth) and they actually DO something. Until then, coffee mornings ahoy! You can also study from home if you want to improve your mind.
Right, GTG, DS needs a nappy change. Love and hugs to everyone and the babies too!
people in my life are not *****y and as far as they know I am basically at my prepregnancy weight, a HEAP of people didnt see me in the 3 months I was 15kg lighter as I was still wanting to be another 5 or so lighter.... (so in their minds i am in my prepregnancy clothes but in my mind they are my fat clothes...)
i am not worried at all about what people will think of the way i look as the fat really is 'baby fat' it really is in a different spot than it was when i was "fat" last year
my problem really is that i am putting a heap of pressure on my life starting or changing when i lose the weight....
does that make sense?
am thinking about religion at the moment while thinking about christianing and Jem's future.... I am uniting and hubby is catholic and his family strong catholics so i have awkward decision....
study a good idea but i dont really ever plan to go back to work and if so it would be in 6 years time maybe and by then anything i learn now would need to be refreashed.... i will think about it though... something to think about other than babies would be good..... i guess that is where it is hard too all my friends have actually had babies in the last 3 months there have been 4 or 5 of them so friends i could have escaped to also talk just babies!
glad the funeral went 'well'... my neighbours dad's funeral was last week, her baby was awesome at it thank goodness....
what kind of car are you getting?
I am so peeved... I wrote a HUGE long post yesterday and then the site crashed and I lost it all! Even hitting the back key didn't retrieve it! Anyway, here is a shorter version...
Kel - I understand where you are coming from with the weight thing. I too lost a heap of weight before getting PG only to now be carrying it all again. You wrote you are afraid you're setting yourself up for a fall with the weight loss because you don't think it will change things and I tend to agree. I believe it is more important to look at WHY you want to lose weight and what benefits it will give you. Essentially, life won't change that much. You will still be you. But with more energy and much healthier! That is always my focus when losing weight as I know I feel better when exercising etc. You wrote you are afraid your focus on your weight loss is resulting in you missing things with Jemima - you can include her in it and make it fun for both of you - whilst still helping her development. Pop her on her back on the floor and do push ups over her - every time you go down give her a kiss (don't have to be "real" push ups - do them on your knees to start with). Use her as a weight. I use Abbey as a weight and when I do bicep curls I pretend to eat her cheeks when I do the curl - she loves it! Go for walks with her in the pusher - she'll love the change of scenery! You wrote that you are struggling with motivation. I find it hard to get started too... but once I HAVE started I enjoy it. To get myself going I usually make a deal with myself "If after 15 minutes I'm not enjoying it I'll stop" or "if I get to the bottom of the reserve and I'm not enjoying it - I'll turn around" those kinds of things. You wrote that you are bored etc - have you thought about some volunteer work? There are plenty of things you can do with Jemima. A lot of nursing homes are often after volunteers to come and talk to the residents (it is sad how many don't get visitors) and you could take Jemima with you - she'd be a hit with the residents! Or there is meals on wheels if you have a car. You could contact your local community centre and see what activities they have on offer - often they have short courses or interest groups running.
Thanks for the info on the intolerance being a gradual thing! My doc didn't tell me that! Abbey's nappy rash has gotten REALLY bad. It is now covering her entire nappy area - poor chook. I don't think it is bothering her though. I shouldn't have stopped using the cream But using it again now and it seems to be clearing up again. I'm starting to query if it is the wipes... but she is still pooing so much it could be that. Will chat to the doc tomorrow. Tell your friend that Zinc (not Curash or Sudocream but straight zinc - mixed with water or something else) is the BEST thing for nappy rash. It doesn't come off as easy (when you put the others on it basically wipes off as soon as you put the nappy on) and gives a much better protective barrier to the skin. It cleared Abbey's initial rash in about 48 hours!
Ryn - glad to hear the funeral went "well". Those things are always difficult aren't they? Good to hear the whiplash is improving. And FANTASTIC that Liebling is sleeping better! WOOHOO!
Jen - how is Jett? What did the Doc say? Is he ok?
Lil -I know my DH needs a kick in the pants! I put the fear of God into him the other week and told him that if he doesn't pull his finger out then I am moving back to Adelaide until I go back to work! And I meant it! He was actually home at 5 yesterday (Army all weekend) and got home just in time to experience the full onslaught of getting Abbey bathed, fed, cooking adult dinner, putting Abbey to bed. It isn't easy - esp when she's not well! And last night was a particularly bad night (I ended up in tears) so I think it is starting to sink in to his thick skull that I'm not just telling him I need him home and to help for the sake of it! I still think we need to get that domestic boot camp happening! How is the move going? How are the boys?
Well girls, Abbey is starting to improve. I've spent the weekend trying to deal with a very hungry and tired baby. She hates the taste of the new formula and so was refusing to eat unless she was absolutely starving - and even then it would be a minimal amount. She seems to be getting used to it now though because she drained a full 200ml last night and took about 150mls at breakfast. Because she wasn't eating she wasn't sleeping well so we are both very tired. Her poos are improving. They aren't as runny but still aren't formed and she is still doing one at just about every nappy change. I'm going to get her weighed again this week I think because she looks like she has LOST weight! Other than that, she doesn't seem to be crying an hour after a feed any more (although that might have to do with the qty) and doesn't seem to have to push as hard to get her poo out. But she's not passing wind as freely now. Her cheeks have more colour though! I am really hoping it is a bug. Spoke to a friend last night because I don't know how she could have caught a bug and he said it is possible it came through the tap water (even though I boil it) because our reservoirs are so low!!! He filters the water for his little girl before boiling it! So I am thinking of getting a filter now... I just want to know what is wrong with her and get it fixed! Poor little mite...
Ok, the Princess is calling - she can't sleep again so better go help her settle... hope everyone is well!
But using it again now and it seems to be clearing up again. I'm starting to query if it is the wipes... but she is still pooing so much it could be that. Will chat to the doc tomorrow. Tell your friend that Zinc (not Curash or Sudocream but straight zinc - mixed with water or something else) is the BEST thing for nappy rash. It doesn't come off as easy (when you put the others on it basically wipes off as soon as you put the nappy on) and gives a much better protective barrier to the skin. It cleared Abbey's initial rash in about 48 hours!
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