Lisa, you are so motivated I am sure you will do well with the STAT. BTW, how about an updated photo of Kobi on your site!
I'm applying to do the course externally through Charles Darwin uni (Darwin!) as my first preference. It's 4 years part-time and numerous weeks of practicals that I can do in South Australia. Not that I wouldn't mind a trip to Darwin, but it wouldn't be much of a holiday!
Re. family and where you live - I was just feeling sorry for myself today about not having any family close by. Sometimes family can drive you crazy (but you still love them, of course!). I think i had "the grass is always greener" syndrome but in reality I might be cursing having my mum living around the corner!!!!
Laura, sure sounds like you love Melbourne. You certainly sound like a Melbourne type of girl! (not quite sure what that is, but anyway..). Lisa's right - go with your gut instinct. It's usually right. Hope the ears clear up soon. Sometimes people say that physical things happen for a reason and perhaps there is something that you 'don't want to hear' from someone else or yourself??? Maybe to do with moving??
Hey Jillian, hope you're feeling better, too.
Sal, good to hear things are going well with the cot. How much did Miles weigh again? Clarrie must be a little less as he's not on the ground yet. Oh, your poor back!! Sending sympathetic vibes re. Miles taking forever to go to sleep. Is this only at night? We had this with Clarrie a while back but I started picking him up quite quickly and then popping him back. Sometimes it took a couple of times and then he would sleep and now he tends to put himself to sleep most of the time. Opposite to what Lisa said, but I guess each babe is different and you just do what seems right at the time. With babies nothing stays the same, that's for sure!!! God, I am learning this very quickly!!
How's the tiredness going?
The meditation classes for kids sound great, Lisa. I think that it's so important for kids nowadays (especially nowadays in our frantic society) to be able to slow down and have some sense of 'inner peace' and contentedness without having to be *doing* something or being entertained.
Forgot to mention our day today. We had mum's group and Clarrie was very upset, as he often is at mum's group. I've come to the conclusion that he doesn't like it. Thought I'd share this as I've realised that this taps into something in me - that basically I'm shy and don't feel good in groups! :eek: But I push myself to do it. So I'm beginning to feel that I am pushing him into social stuff with other babies. With adult groups he is pretty much okay, just with babies - so much noise and so many toys, etc, etc.
Anyway, after some self-psychoanalysis - hehehe - I think I will go to mum's group but sit a little separate initially as this seems to make Clarrie feel more secure. Then he might feel better after while and be able to join in. I also thought I might try the Bach rescue remedy (John's suggestion) - Laura - didn't you say that babies can take a drop of this? Maybe I'll take some too!!!
And if he is still getting upset after a few weeks I'll give up going for now and just try to visit some other babies and mums separately.
I guess that I don't want to push him too much as it's important to me for him to feel secure, which he is not at the moment.
Okay, just wanted to get that off my chest, and any suggestions welcome!!
well I'm still deaf. infact despite being on antibiotics for 2 days it has not gotten any better... possibly worse actually.
Lisa - I was just thinking about the emotional reasons for this ear thing.
firstly - the Dr said that adults don't usually get this type of ear thing... this is a kids thing.
SO maybe I'm being a bit childish and I think the not wating to hear something or even a feeling of not being heard is very possible.
I've been trying to find my Louis Hay book... but can't. If anyone has one, can they look up ears and see what it says?? I think I might need a healing mantra.
Oh just went to the book shelf and it jumped out at me. I swear I looked for it for like 5 minutes the other day.
right - this is waht it says about ears : represents the capacity to hear (well duh)
the mantra is: I hear with love
for earache is says : Anger. not wanting to hear. Too much turmoil. parents arguing.
the mantra: Harmony surrounds me. I listen with love to the pleasant and the good. I am a center for love.
Ok - so I've written it down on post it notes and will stick them around the house. I also looked up furuncle... as I had one in my ear a few weeks ago.... turns out is has a similar thing... anger at not being heard.
Right I think I need to do some self psychoanalysis also.
I think I've been a bit quietly angry or at least frustrated with DH lately. Not becuase he's don't anything bad... it's just that he's so busy with work and then doing work at home that I hardly get to talk to him or spend quality time together anymore.
Actually I htink that's pretty much it.
MAtt is so freaking awesome.. really. I couldn't hardly ask for more becuase he cooks and cleans and does chores without asking. He cares about me, he always tell me how much he loves me and I know he does.... He is supportive of EVERYTHING even all my crazy ideas... like getting a mohawk.
the thing that bugs me is that his job is taking up his whole life and it feels like there isn't room for luxxe and I anymore.
of course that's not true in reality... but it feels like it's true when you're stuck at home and no one else to talk to.
He only works so hard because he wants good things for us.... but in the process, we never see him, he's working 16 hours a day... and that's not really exagerating either.
he leaves for work at 7.30am and get's home at between 6-8 and then we have dinner and then he starts working again til about midnight. and in between all that he will be getting calls or have phone conferences etc. THis is mostly becuase he has clients that are overseas and due to time differences has to work heaps after hours.
I said to him the other day that he loves his work more than us.... he of course got upset. I didn't even mean it... I was just frustrated.
I think that's the only reason why I want to move back to Perth... coz then Dh would have to get another job and I'm hoping it won't be as full on as this one. Or if it was, at least I'd have family around to fill in the void.
Oh and this holiday we meant to be going on - well the only thing that is stoping me from booking it is that Dh can't give me dates when he can take a week off. So I think I'll just have to book and tell him when we're going.
honestly - most days I feel like a single parent...one that has no family around. IT's just me and Luxxe.
Ok so I am angry. but it's hard and frustrating and lonely. I know something needs to change.... just not sure what or how.
HARMONY SURROUNDS ME. I LISTEN WITH LOVE TO THE PLEASANT AND THE GOOD. I AM A CENTER FOR LOVE!
Lisa - yes - one drop of rescue rememdy for babies. you can either put it in their mouth (under the tongue if possible) or rub it on his forehead or wrists. It totally works. The other night Luxxe was so grizzly from what I assume was her teeth... and one drop in her mouth and she was asleep with in a few minutes.
Luxxe is similar at mother's group she will very happily play at home on her own for a bit or we will play together... but at mother's group, she just either cries or won't leave my arms without screaming.
The other babies seem to just be happy to play together... oh well. I figure it was becuase she doesn't usually spend time with more than 2 people at a time. and usually it's just me at home....I don't even have music on so it's pretty quiet at home and we just talk and play...
I think i'm just being a whinger today.
I'm going to try and resolve it though. I'm going to just book the holiday and I'm going to have a talk to Dh about stuff tonight.... assuming he has time... maybe I should ring his secretary and make an appointment! :P
sorry to vent.
xxx
L
ps. the antibiotics seem to have given Luxxe the poo poos!
Hey Laura, vent all you like! I know that I went through a real period of getting angry at John for not getting home at at decent time. And he is usually home by 6/6.30pm! I can understand that you would be frustrated. One part of my brain was saying - hey, John is soooo good with Clarrie and does so much, but on the other hand I just felt grumpy - you know - why couldn't he finish work at 5pm!!!!!
Do you have good friends in Melbourne that you can visit? Anyone in the mum's group in the same boat? The mantras sound good. Sometimes I wonder about that stuff, but then it often makes such sense and works. So, I figure that I might as well use whatever feels right at the time.
Thanks to you all for what you said about the mum's group. Honestly, last night when I got in the car to drive home I was absolutely exhausted and wondering why I was doing this. I'm sure Clarrie felt the same! Lisa, you are so right about Clarrie picking up on my stress. Even though I was thinking that I wasn't stressed, obviously I was because I felt so exhausted at the end.
I think that I've been in a tizz about it because I've been called quiet and shy all my life and it ****es me off! And I was projecting my fears onto poor Clarrie.
#4 from my Mindful Parenting book - "Be mindful of your expectations of your children and consider whether they are truly in your child's best interest" . Hmmmmmmm...
Sal, I never would have picked you as shy from your posts. That's probably a silly thing to say. BTW, I love your wicked sense of humour. I often have a good chuckle.
And Lisa, I would love to catch up if I ever get to Melbourne. I love Melbourne - especially the Brunswick area with so many great vego cafes.
BTW, how about an updated photo of Kobi on your site!
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