Boisey - sounds like you are having the same problems as me!! I have just finished reading Sleeping like a baby, by Pinky McKay, and she was all for holding your baby, picking them up when they are upset etc etc...She reckons it makes them feel much more secure which in turn makes them more settled!!?? Thats the approach I am trying to take at the moment, so we'll see how we go. We tried the controlled crying thing with our first and it was so distressing for everyone (although she became a really good sleeper...but was also quite clingy during the days)who knows if that was the reason.
Fee - Your little one sounds amazing. He seems to sleep so well...hope he stays that way for you .
Gotta go and get girls from school
take care all