fuming currently - why do DHs (or maybe just mine) have no trouble inviting people over for dinner the night before you're due to fly out for the weekend with other guests arriving on the day you get back (so would like to be ready before you go away) and then ask you to pick one of them up at the airport and do the shopping for the dinner stuff all while knowing that you will be doing the packing for the family trip away, tiding the house for the guests and the prior to leaving cleanup (which he never believes in anyway), waiting round for the phone man to come to fix the phone and looking after a 3mth old who I've been saying for the last week has lost his belief in any significant daytime sleep and I've been frequently suffering terribly from headaches again (of which I have one today) - and when you ask DH whether he thinks this manageable and maybe its not such a great idea to have dinner or maybe someone else can do the airport run his response is oh don't worry DS#1 is at daycare that day and I"ll pick him up on the way home so that will make it easy for you - aghhhh!!!! I sometimes wonder how he thinks some things around the house get done - it must be the magic fairy that visits unbeknownst to me!!!LOL (not realy laughing and probably don't have time to be sitting here but had to vent.
ETA - Karen - neither could I but I certainly won't be expecting a repeat performance in the near future (I can dream though LOL)
Grrr Jaspen! It's not just your DH. DP thinks I have time to look after Oscar, do the washing, clean the house, organise dinner...and then wonders why some of these things don't get done all in one day! He stopped saying it, but in the first few weeks he had the audacity to ask me "so, what did you do today" when he'd get home...with the tone of voice that said "what DO you do with your day" and even had the nerve to lecture me on time management... Ignoring him has seemed to have succeeded somewhat. The house is messy, the bathroom filthy, but at least these days the washing gets done. The really grrr thing, though, is that I normally fold his clothes and put them away (albeit I sort of sometimes just throw them in the cupboard!) and last night I put some clean clothes on the bed, folding my few pieces and putting them away before I had to tend to Oscar again. DP went to bed and when I finally made it to bed I walk into the room and his clean clothes are now thrown on top of other clothes on his chair...because I didn't fold them or put them away! He can bloody well put his own clothes away. Just cos he's at work during the day doesn't mean that I have all the time in the world. The thing he doesnt get is that I'm nurturing and cleaning all day...and then at night again...and HE complains when Oscar disturbs his sleep, which by definition means that I'm also awake comforting Oscar. I think men refuse to see these things because the guilt would be too much for them, so they delude themselves into thinking they do their share. I mean, when I'm cooking and Oscar is unsettled, DP thinks he's done enough if he's been holding him for 10 minutes, then has the nerve to put the boy into the bouncer so that he can get back to the computer! I mean, Oscar wouldn't probably be such an easy baby if I didn't invest my energies during the day making sure he doesn't get upset by comforting him and anticipating his needs. AND, get this, DP tries to give me the guilts when I'm too tired to get the dog bowl and feed the dog!!!! So, it doesn't surprise me that your DH doesn't realise you'd need superhuman powers to get the stuff done that gets done - honestly, it's as if the housecleaning fairy does it! Our place is falling into such a state that DP is slowly starting to realise that the fairy is on leave. I think he wanted a medal for cleaning the floor over the weekend...where's MY medal??
Ok, having put the washing out, Oscar is still asleep and hasn't made hungry noises yet. I might have to risk him getting hungry on the way out to the pony cos I can't wait around waiting for dark!
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