"so I'm glad I pre-emptively bought him a croissant for this morning" <--- that made me laugh! I know the feeling.... and I try to keep frozen croissants in the 'fridge for occassions like that too... DH took the futon into the nursery a few weeks ago and tended to Niall ALL NIGHT so that I could catch up on some sleep. Out came croissants for brekkie the next morning, just the way he likes them: with honey and cheese.
Thanks girls I do feel a bit better today. Wade was able to go to Kinder today and DH is at home (with his cold getting worse over night). I spent the morning cooking a pumpkin pie and trying to remember the stresses and pressures of being in the paid workforce! LOL Rory, everything you said makes sense: especially the bit about either extreme suiting different personalities. No use a brilliant professional woman who excels in a role (and all it's demands) forcing herself to be a SAHM if she acknowledges that she just can't deal with the, for example, isolation, to the point that she is a irritable mummy day in day out. And no use a SAHM forcing herself into the paid workforce where she is so distracted by worrying about her children that she can't perform her role. However you are also right about most of us fitting into the middle ground. I think that I have a split personality when it comes to these things. On the whole I see the worth of me being a SAHM but I know too, like you, that I have a lot to offer the broader community and I want to get out there. You know me LOL I like to exercise my brain and enjoy meeting new challenges etc... there isn't a lot of scope for these during my usual SAHM week. I'm not saying that I "am above" doing the drudge, infact I think doing housework is a very healthy occupation for the soul... it keeps our ego in check, IYKWIM.... we all don't want to turn out like Paris Hilton do we? Nobody should put themselves above cleaning the toilet! But on the other hand, everyone has a right to use their God given talents... and amongst us we have teachers, lawyers, administration officers and a budding doula that are needed by our communities. Dee, you're 100% right about the "process being more important then the end product" with art education and reading that statement really gave me a sense of longing to return to the profession of art teaching because there is so much I want to share. And Mel: you are so good at being ultra organised I agree; you are such an asset to the education industry as well! I know that when I was stdying the most challenging thing about it was dealing with the uni admin staff in our faculty... trust me girls, the world of uni admin needs the likes of Mel!!! So basically I believe that as long as we find that balance of serving our communites and our families then all is good. Edit: ...and this applies to our men too!
Re-reading over that it seems a bit all over the place... I hope you all know what I mean.
Niall awake now... better go fetch him...
ETA: Rory: how is that lump on Flynn's back?
ETA: Dee: I think Maytag make 10kg industrial washing machines... we had one at the ELC I worked at.... it was wonderful... I want one of those! (they cost a packet but very well made etc).
Last edited by Bathsheba; August 1st, 2007 at 02:57 PM.
I do feel a bit better today. Wade was able to go to Kinder today and DH is at home (with his cold getting worse over night). I spent the morning cooking a pumpkin pie and trying to remember the stresses and pressures of being in the paid workforce! LOL Rory, everything you said makes sense: especially the bit about either extreme suiting different personalities. No use a brilliant professional woman who excels in a role (and all it's demands) forcing herself to be a SAHM if she acknowledges that she just can't deal with the, for example, isolation, to the point that she is a irritable mummy day in day out. And no use a SAHM forcing herself into the paid workforce where she is so distracted by worrying about her children that she can't perform her role. However you are also right about most of us fitting into the middle ground. I think that I have a split personality when it comes to these things. On the whole I see the worth of me being a SAHM but I know too, like you, that I have a lot to offer the broader community and I want to get out there. You know me LOL I like to exercise my brain and enjoy meeting new challenges etc... there isn't a lot of scope for these during my usual SAHM week. I'm not saying that I "am above" doing the drudge, infact I think doing housework is a very healthy occupation for the soul... it keeps our ego in check, IYKWIM.... we all don't want to turn out like Paris Hilton do we? Nobody should put themselves above cleaning the toilet! But on the other hand, everyone has a right to use their God given talents... and amongst us we have teachers, lawyers, administration officers and a budding doula
that are needed by our communities. Dee, you're 100% right about the "process being more important then the end product" with art education and reading that statement really gave me a sense of longing to return to the profession of art teaching because there is so much I want to share. And Mel: you are so good at being ultra organised I agree; you are such an asset to the education industry as well! I know that when I was stdying the most challenging thing about it was dealing with the uni admin staff in our faculty... trust me girls, the world of uni admin needs the likes of Mel!!!
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