Oh, no Mel! It sounds like she is getting stressed with the TT sicho. Actually, I think her brain has gone into overload with it. I'd say that the tack from now on could be to concentrate on her realising when she needs to go, rather than holding on. They are two separate concepts, really: recognising the body's need to let the wee go, and then progressing later on to holding on. She doesn't need to hold on, she just needs to let someone know she needs to go so that she can get help using the loo. It may be that everyone else is forgetting this distinction, too, and that's how it's getting too much for her Easy enough to do. Holding on like that as a self-enforced thing could be really unhealthy for her little system. I would even suggest not to make a big deal of ANYthing to do with toileting. Just ask her regularly and normally if she feels like she needs to go and if she does then just quietly take her to the loo without making a big deal of it. Rewards can be counter-productive with a lot of kids and the desire to please you and the family is probably adding to the stress of expectations. So, no fuss when there's a regression, no fuss when she uses the loo or tells you she needs to go. Just play it quietly. It might take a while to bring her back from the anxiety she's built up in her mind about it now. Poor chicken
Just got back from seeing Rai Thistlethwayte who was brilliant! I went with my GF and Oscar is with my parents. Might even go to bed soon...it's late enough...