Babies Born June 2007 #9

[Muffy]

hi everyone again!!!
god i cant keep up with all these threads lol im so slow!!!
just popping my head in before i head off to bed!

[PinkPalace]

Hi girls sorry for the selfish post but i need to vent!
I am sooo upset right now.

I might put a post up to get peoples opinions in the main forum but here we go for my june mumma's!

DD has been back in day care 1 day a week - this is week 3
Week 1 - they said she cried the first 2 hours straight and had to be rocked in a pram until lunch time, only slept out of pure exhaustion @ 1pm for 1 hr.
Week 2 - as soon as i left they said she cried and wouldnt stay outside(she loves palying outdoors) and still only slept after 1 hour of rocking for 1.5hrs in the afternoon. When i went to pick her up she was crying non-stop (before she saw i was there).
Week 3 (TODAY) - i said good bye and she starting crying again. I hung around to talk to admin (as i decided that perhaps she isnt ready for care and gave 2 weeks notice to pull her out) - this took me 1/2 hr... i walked back to get my pram and could hear her from inside (she was outside).. screaming in tears ma ma ma ma.

I burst into tear and left before they saw me cause i am so embarressed i am not handling it like every other mum seems to,

What the hell am i doing? Am i paying someone $60 a day so that i can make my daughter cry non -stop and think that i dont love her? She isnt enjoying it from what i can tell (i mean sure she probably has moment of new discoveries and fun) but its so hard to watch her cry.
Especially when i am at home and could have her here with me.

I put her in cause i thought it was the right thing to do to get her socialised with children her own age but she cries when one comes near her and has started hitting my friends children (and she had to learn this somewhere).

I am only letting her have a half day today as she is comoing down with a cold and i need her to have a decent sleep - so i am getting her in about 3 hrs.

I just feel so bad.

Sorry for the vent

[MumofLewis]

Oooh PP, you poor thing. And poor Ashley What do the staff think because I know alot of kids take a while to get used to being in daycare, do they think it is normal behaviour or is she particularly stressed compared with others?
Do you take her to playgroup? If so what is she like when she is there, does she go off on her own? I think it must be so scary for them at first, I am DREADING putting Lewis in, but most kids do seem to get used to it after a few sessions.

Another thing is that most day cares don't recommend one day a week as it's like they never get used to it and have to start all over again each week. Maybe that is why she cries still? Could she do a couple of half days frst and then progress to full days?

Other than that, maybe she's just not ready yet? Or maybe you have to be cruel to be kind and persevere. I know of so many mothers who's kids cried at first and now love going. It's a tough one. I would def post in the main forum I bet theres loads of people can offer you advice.

[Charlyfrog]

Oh PinkPalace! I have no experience so don't feel like I have anything wise to say. Maybe she's just not ready? Maybe, like MumofLewis said, she may need more than one day so half days might be easier and not such a hard slog iykwim?? I know that this is slightly different (as the ages are different) but my mum pulled my brother out of kindy as he just wasn't coping, he still needed his mum. The rest of us kids loved kindy! But mum waited and then when she took him back after some time he was like a fish to water. I don't know if that helps at all apart from, if its stressing you out, is it worth it?? For someone so little, imo, playgroup times etc are fine for the socialisation. I just hope you don't feel pressured and think that you have to put her in daycare iykwim?? You know your daughter best so just make sure that what you are doing is because you want to, not what you think you should thinking of you sweety


Celsie - on the nipples!!!!!!! Ah hahahahaha! Maybe he just thinks, oh buttons! DD#2 does this with belly buttons, lol! Oh you cracked me up! And yay on being kept informed!! Mwa!! xx Ah yes, the belly hair... What is with that?!?!?! I find some pg things just plain weird!


Well just quickly, before I take drinks out to my little gardeners, DH & DD#1, hehe......

.....phone rings at 8am today to inform DH & I that our friend had her little girl in the wee hours of the night ..........................ON HER LOUNGE ROOM FLOOR!!! Her DH & MIL are now Dr. DH & MIL!! She was out at the car about to leave and her MIL checked and ordered her back inside as there was a head!!!!!!!! Eeek!! Thankfully, mummy and bubby are doing completely fine but OMG!!!! Crazzzzzzzzzzzzyyyyyy!!!!


And on that note, bbl sweeties!!

Mwa!!

[Celsie]

PP - Huge hugs honey. I think you did the right thing! Children at this age really do need Mum and Dad and will thrive in that environment. Children don't learn from peers until the age of 3, so there is no real need for her to be "socialised" as such from a learning point of view. I do however agree with playgroups and babygym. Little ones can learn and explore under the watchful eye of Mum or Dad and know that if they need you, you're right there. I personally believe (this is just my belief) that children who are allowed to take steps towards independence at their own rate are more settled and more self confident.

I was taking Caeleb to the creche at the local gym and he HATED it. I'd take him, sneak out and within 2 - 3 minutes, he'd be crying. I said every time I went in there that if he cries for more than 5 minutes, come and get me. They never came and got me even once, and he was crying every time I went and picked him up 45 minutes later. They broke my trust and for that I will never forgive him. I've never taken him back since. Caeleb was extremely clingy and fretted a lot in the following weeks. I'd say it's taken me a good month or two of going to playgroup, story time at the library and having playdates with friends, letting him play with the kids there, for him to let go and go off on his own again.

So, child care/creche isn't for Caeleb yet. He's just not ready. I want Caeleb to know I'll always be there for him, no matter what. My heart goes out to mothers who have no choice but to place their children in care and the child reacts like Ashley is. I'm not saying that childcare isn't right for ALL children this age, just in some cases, they're just not ready.

I used to be a child care worker. We had a little boy called Blake, about the same age as our little ones are now. He'd cry and cry and cry all day. It would break my heart. He formed a bond with me and would be comforted by a cuddle, but the problem was, I only worked part time, so I dread to think what it was like for him when I wasn't there. It took him a good 6 months for him to stop crying for hours when his Mum dropped him off... and he was in 5 days a week!

[MumofLewis]

I think it depends on the child too, some are ready much sooner than others and they do develop speech etc so much quicker when they attend daycare. I will definitely want to send Lewis with in the next 6-12 months as I think he will benefit from it, he loves being around other kids. I will just dread the first day that I have to leave him

There are twin boys at our play group who are 1 month older than Lewis. They are so different, one of them just goes off on his own and doesn't look for his Mum the entire time. The other one screams if his Mum as much as goes to the toilet! He is inconsolable and he doesn't even find comfort in his twin being there His Mum is due to have a baby next week so she is wondering how he will cope with a new baby around.

Anyway on a different note, I have finally decided that I would like to work in Children's nutrition. I have been thinking of what I can do for a career change for ages now, I wanted to work with kids but not in daycare. So anyway I have been doing some research and am going to take a certificate in Childrens Nutrition. Plus a few one day courses. I will probably start off working in a daycare kitchen and then my aim is to do nutrition counselling. I'm SO EXCITED!! I have been really unhappy in my job for a while so I have a new spring in my step!

[PinkPalace]

Hi Girls
Well she seemed be ok when i picked her up - except they put all the kids down for their sleep at 1130 - i got there at 1230 and she is running around on her own having a blast! lol she sleeps 2-4...
I took her home for a snooze

I have pulled her out - i mean i will be a SAHM and i will juggle the 2 bubs in a few weeks. OMG a few weeks!!!! 49 days my ticker tells me. And look into playgroups for her for interaction.

Anyone from NT? - wondering what it would be like to live there?,,,, looked at rentals and holy holy nothing under $600/week!

Mof L - what a great time for a career change. I have told DH that i will not be returning to full time work , instead i am going to do my midwifery studies when #2 is a couple of years old (it will be 5 days/fortnight work and study) so practically working full time. ANd then go back to full time work when #2 is 5 and at school.