:-( SJ *hugs* not sure what to say hun but give you one of these wish I was closer so we could do coffee and you could vent properly.I find it outrageous that the counsellors would allow her to make such an admission in front of him he has enough on his plat poor little mate. Could it be an aide to speak to DOCS again even though you did a few years back? am not sure what the solution might be but it cant keep affecting your family like this. I can imgaine its hard to becasue hubby is working so much you arent getting as much support and missing him. YOur going camping soon arent you? hopefully you wil get osme good time together tot alk things through and away form her.AM sorry am not much help but thinking about you *Hugs* take care ofyou
SJ. I was thinking you should try DoCS again. Maybe someone would actually look into it & do their job now? Or maybe you guys could at least apply for more custody than you have now?
Have you or DH asked him about it yet? How he feels? Kids are pretty resilient, & alot smarter than we give credit for. He may have already known something like this was going on, it was just the admission to it that rocked him.
It's admitting it to both of them.
It's a hard position to be in. Just make sure he can talk to you guys & ask what ever he wants, & I think you should come out of it ok. As long as he knows its not his fault.
Is it still true that kids can make the decision of which parent they want to live with at 12? I hope so.
Good luck with it all.
I really hope it gets better really soon.
**** SJ!!!!!!!! you poor thing what a crazy ass woman....... hope you are ok....
I am going nuts trying to get my house organised im sick of it being a complete mess all the time. i have thrown out 7 garbage bags full of clothes cos paige and tahnie empty their draws on the floor at least twice a week.
Summer took two steps yesterday and she is standing all the time without holding on so i think she will be walking soon, which will be no different cos she can crawl at the speed of light anyway.
Anyways im off to do some more cleaning and sorting!!!
Sorry for lack of personals i can't sit still for too long at the moment.....
Hi guys.
How are we all?
I guess we are all busy with christmas? Its so hectic here!
We were in Coffs today, then I'm going to Kempsey tomorrow with a friend, then coming home getting Jaz & hoing to a christmas party for the kids after school. On Friday Jaz is going to the water slide with her school for the last day, so I'm going to take the little kids too.
Then on Saturday we are having a small christmas lunch with my Grandma, before we all o away...
Then on Sunday we are going out to Coonamble.
Had Jaz's presentation night last night. She got an encouragement award. Cool. Plus we've had things on every day since Jesse got out of hospital.
I'm hoping when we get to Coonamble we can sit around doing nothing for a day or 2 before we go over to Anth's parents place for Christmas.
Then when christmas is finaly over, the birthdays all start. From January 1!
It never ends!!!
I can't beleve all our babies are going to be unwrapping their first christmas pressies in just over a week! This year has gone so fast & they've all grown so quickly!!
Before we know it they'll be running around & telling us NO!!
Trina, i was going to say after your last post that maybe Summer will be walking soon and thats why she is waking... omg she is growing up sooo fast - i guess its the other three that she tries to keep up with... MJ is really fst crawling, especially if she is making a run for something that she cant usually play with - like the cat or if the bathroom door is left open! Hope things are OK with you. Christmas is always a bad time with separated families, no one wants to miss out and sometimes the grown ups (im not implying you) forget that its the kids that matter not them I always dread christmas time, we have been asking for weeks and weeks whats happening and after me writing a letter we thought that we had an agreement, but it seems that she has changed her mind again... how f-ing hard is it to make a decision and then stick to it... it doesnt help with DSS's stability. Oh well, hopefully your X will think about whats right, not what suits him...
Thanks guys for your support, i do appreciate it. Feeling a bit better about it all, but it just sucks.
Skye, yep the age is 12 that they can make a decision, however the guilt and loyalty that DSS has (not to mention that he feels like her career) means that althou he probably would want to live with us, he wouldnt be able to make that choice in a years time, he just doesnt have the ability to seperate himself from him mum and her problems... so we just have to be there for him continually and make his life with us as 'normal' as possible
MJ is so excited with life at the moment, she is squealing and clapping and raising her hands above her head... she saw Santa yesterday at the Musical playgroup that we go to, she had so much fun... when i get a chance i wil upload pics... she looked so cute in her little outfit (it was a dress up day)
Right well i will have to leave it at that, Mum is coming up today so i can work for DH - things are insane atm, i cant wait til next Wednesday - maybe it will have settled by then - and hopefully DH can get to the shops o that i get a pressie for christmas!
Jazz keeps trying to grab the presents under the tree. The other day she'd actually taken my present and was holding it in her lap! The box was almost as big as her!
Matt got some more presents for her yesterday: some floaties that go on the arms, a donut ring seat floaty thing and a bath toy. Does anyone know if you're allowed to take your own floatation devices to a public swimming pool?
Tonight I'm going out shopping alone and one of the things I'm gonna get is some felt to make a giant stuffed J shaped hanging pillow type thing (like the "E" that was on Friends for Emma (Ross & Rachel's baby) if anyone remembers that). Don't think that will specifically be for Christmas though, doubt I'll be finished it by then.
Jazz is sort of taking steps when I'm holding her. I'm starting to do the hold her by the hands and walk encouraging her to take steps thing.
My sister, brother-in-law and nieces will be in Adelaide from Townsville on Christmas Eve. I can't wait to see them!
I am sooooo tired.... I am over waking at several times a night to settle DJ..... argh I just want him to sleep through the night.... sorry to vent....Tooth still only 1/4 the way through, still a while to go.
DJ is good though, doesn't want to have his 5-6pm sleep anymore, prefers to play around..... so is awake for around 5 hours before heading to bed.... still doesn't sleep through the night. If I put him down at 7pm he would wake up alot earlier..... doesn't work for me.
SJ - OMG how horrible!!! Are you ok? Big hugs.... sorry I am a bit late in posting.....
Prama - yeah i know what you mean about daycare. DJ loves going to daycare, he does paintings, texta drawings, playdough, playing with sand. So I find it is a really educational experience for him. He watches what the other kids do as well, so I think it is good for him to be around other babies regularly. In the new year I am extending his days there probably to 3 days per week, 1 day with my stepmum again and then 1 day at home with me. I will wait until he is a year old though. What do you do for christmas? Does Steve's mum come down or do you go see her?
Skye - it is such a busy time of year hey? I have to go to the beautician this afternoon to get some waxing done so dropping DJ off at Doni's work since it is his last day and going to beautician and picking up DJ's christmas layby I was going to try and get myself a pedicure done but don't think i will have time doh!!
Danni - how did you go with your christmas shopping? get it all done?
Trina - wow on Summer taking two steps, that is amazing, won't be long at all before she starts walking now. She was always pretty early in the development milestones hey?
Bron - how are you feeling from your treatment? has it gone ok?
Better go girls, have to leave soon to take DJ to Doni's work then head to beautician for some waxing!!
So much for getting Jazz only one thing and wrapping up some existing toys...we've completely blown the budget!
SJ: hope you're doing ok
Shell: Hoping you can get some sleep
I got some christmas cards and will try to get them in the post in time for Christmas...sorry if you get them after Christmas though.
Not long till my sister arrives in Adelaide...can't wait!
Oh yeah. Last night Jazz said Mum so clearly...heaps of times. I didn't think it was possible to fall in love with her even more, but when she kept saying mum my heart melted and I had happy tears in my eyes. At that moment she could have had anything she wanted! This morning by complete fluke while I was giving her some breakfast I said to her "what's my name" and she responded "mum"
Well I'm off tomorrow to Coonamble for Christmas. Yay (that was sarcastic) I've got another 10 hour drive ahead of me! Best be gettin to bed!
Hope you guys all have the best first chrissy with your little one's.
Just to let you know what I got Jesse
a few clothes & things, a wagon & sand toys, a cool toy hummer towing a dune buggy (SO neat!) a plastic 'Cars' ride on bike/car thing & one of those bikes you strap them on. Its a 10 month - 3 years one. Its red from Target with a sun canopy on top. Its soooo groovy!
Anyways, I'll pop in here & there. ill be back next Sunday coz I have to sign the lease. Yay!
Probably be busy though with sorting & unpacking our things.
Finally have a chance to sit down and type for a bit.
I just wanted to take some time to thank you all. Whilst some of us have met face to face most of us havent and yet we have formed this bond of motherhood together. Your support your advice your senses of humour and your wisdom in times of trouble have been amazing. Nobody can ever tell me that you dont form a bond with some one over the internet.I count myself very lucky to have met an amazing group of woman who are diverse in their culture, upbringings, life experience and personalities and know I for
one would have been lost some days If I could not have come on here to vent or share sorrows and joys.
There have been some huge ups and downs this year for us all but the one constant wonderufl thing we have shared is the joy of our children and I feel incredibley blessed to have been given the gift of a child to nurture everyday. I hope that if you celebrate christmas that its a day to enjoy your children even more. I get very sentimental at this time of the year and I Know it doesnt always have the same meaning for other people but for me its baout sharing, remembering, laughing and creating new memories. I hope its a magic time for you all in one way or another. Thankyou from the bottom of my heart for the shoulders to cry on , the laughs and the huge amount of support.
I hope that 2009 brings the changes, the new babies, the joys and fun that you wish for and some precious time for yourselves.
Lots of Love Bron xxxxxxxxxxxx
Bron, what a lovely message. We don't hear from you often, but when you do post you always seem to have something very important to say.
Don't think there'll be any new babies for me in 2009. I told Matt last night that I don't want another baby with him until his depression is much better and things with us are good. As it currently stands I really don't know if we'll still be together this time next year. To his credit though, he's really making an effort.
Last night Jazz started really standing (while holding things). She's spent heaps of time kneeling up on things but now she's standing for long periods of time. She took what looked to be some huge falls coz she was jumping while holding things, but I dropped everything waiting for the tears and all I got was her looking at me and laughing at my reaction! Silly girl hehehe.
This morning when I got her up she threw up all over me so had to give her a bath and sponge myself off. Put everything in the wash. Just before I got her up I thought about getting dressed for work, sure glad that I didn't!
bron - thanks for the beautiful message, you are so right, I feel the same way too.
Having Lakshman wouldn't be the same without all of you, the journey we've had together.
I really hope we'll be friends for a long while..
One day we'll meet up girls..
danni - hope things get better w matt, depression affects both partners. is he getting help?
Oh Bron have tears!!!
You are an amazing person and you are right, what a year it has been for all of us... the good the bad and the ugly. You said it all, THANK YOU
MJ has gastro she work Sunday night vomiting and came into bed with us and vomited every hour then went back to sleep... Monday morning she had a big spew after her morning booby feed followed by diarrhoea... then that was it, i thought it was all over, she was a bit tired but hey she had been up all night and if im spewing i dont feel great. Well 6pm last night (i gave her no solids all day) she had a feed again and then a spew (all stomach contents - she really heaved and then was fine... she was playing with no nappy on, stood up and pooed everywhere - it was just liquid what a mess, i was struggling with the dog as she wanted to sniff it and MJ was moving her feet and i didnt want her standing in it.
She slept well over night, but again this morning she had a massive diarrhoea (my first ever nappy leak) followed by a smaller one after that.
At lunch time (still no solids) she again had more diarrhoea and this time she was sitting on the potty and i thought that it was a wee it came out that liquid. poor little mite...
Rand Nurse on call - give starchy solids (like rice and potato) and keep her BM feeds up.
Diarrhoea may last 5 days
OH and to top it off my washing machine has gone on the blink and i have poo everywhere - DH is going to look at it when he finishes work tonight.
He has not been to the shops so no xmas pressie for me and i have done all the shopping myslef for both families.
Im tired and over it. I love christmas, but this year i have missed out on so many of the things that i enjoy in the lead up cos DH was worked 16hr days and hasnt had a break for weeks, and the stuff with DSS cntinues so yeah had enough.. grrrhhhh
sorry girls, didnt mean to whinge, i will be back befoe christmas with something positive to say, i promise
bron - thankyou. It feels good to know we can always come here for anything at all and we are supported and not judged at all.
You guys are my answer to just about everything. Pitty you can't take the kids ear aches away and get jesse to sleep for me!
SJ. I was thinking you should try DoCS again. Maybe someone would actually look into it & do their job now? Or maybe you guys could at least apply for more custody than you have now?
and she is standing all the time without holding on so i think she will be walking soon, which will be no different cos she can crawl at the speed of light anyway. 
I always dread christmas time, we have been asking for weeks and weeks whats happening and after me writing a letter we thought that we had an agreement, but it seems that she has changed her mind again... how f-ing hard is it to make a decision and then stick to it... it doesnt help with DSS's stability. Oh well, hopefully your X will think about whats right, not what suits him...
she work Sunday night vomiting and came into bed with us and vomited every hour then went back to sleep... Monday morning she had a big spew after her morning booby feed followed by diarrhoea... then that was it, i thought it was all over, she was a bit tired but hey she had been up all night and if im spewing i dont feel great. Well 6pm last night (i gave her no solids all day) she had a feed again and then a spew (all stomach contents - she really heaved and then was fine... she was playing with no nappy on, stood up and pooed everywhere - it was just liquid what a mess, i was struggling with the dog as she wanted to sniff it and MJ was moving her feet and i didnt want her standing in it.
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