quick update as im exhausted and poopy's got mild gastro, so we got kicked out today!! haha
i found some personality traits seeing him going thru the settling process and playing with other babies. he's been very stubborn in accepting the new routine, but seems to be getting better. slowly but i t hink we will get there, and he will learn to go to sleep himself w/o being rocked etc.
the other thing i found when he's playing w other children is that he loves playing with all the kids, and goes around playing with each one of them, but at the same time is independant and will go off and explore other things by himself. the downside i found is that he's got toy envy.. he wants to play with whatever toy another baby is playing with!!
he's starting to self-settle. i feel a lot more confident and now can distingush his different cries, just plain protest or him being upset. and know when to go in and comfort him. it is tough love, bron.. but it also taught us that he has to learn to accept what he teach him, instead of the other way round. it was really hard at the start, my heart would tear into a million pieces w each cry but i got more confident and understood how he's feeling. it wasnt so bad as the nurses stood w me outside the door and explained to me each time, what he was going thru and we didnt let him cry for more than 5 mins.. it was all up to me when i wanted to go in.. and tehy guided me. that's the SS in brief...
as for his other routine, they said at his age of almost 11 mths, it should be like this...
bf before bfast
bfast
sleep for 1.5 hrs
play
lunch
formula
sleep 1.5 hrs
play
dinner
bath
bf
cuddles/story
bed.
im going to bf morning and night and ff in the afternoon as he will be in daycare.
danni - maybe you could talk to an MCN to workout a routine for daycare days and weekends for jazz.
everyone - thanks for your thoughts and support. self settling is hard work.. but we are trying... xoxox
we met some lovely parents and bubs, lakshman bonded with another boy 2 weeks younger than him and a girl 15mths old. the boy and poopy would sit next to each other in their highchairs and hold out their hands and hold hands. and during play, they would play w each, seek each other out and play w one arm over each others shoulders.
so we are going to keep in touch and see each other again.
Have been back for a while, but been really busy.
Sorry wont reply properly to everyone, but will try and catch up
Prama- glad you are ok and learnt loads and you sound positive about the experience which is fatastic good on you
Trina - WOOOO HOOO
Bron - luckily we were all OK by the time we left.. DH had the poops though (not the bowel ones) and made the trip quite unpleasent, he was so grumpy all day it was terrible.
The weather was so bad which made everything so much worse, it rained the first night and DSS tent leaked, so we eneded up buying a bigger one and he had our... also we decided to move camp sites after the first night - we ended up at a better one, but it was 2 days of setting up instead of one.. also he broke the trailer on the way down and as it was Dad's he had to fix it, but that annoyed him too.
It was the coldest start to Jan in history, it rained every day except NYE and the day we went home! MJ was so cold at night she had to sleep in my sleeping bag with me at night and needed feeding 2-3 times overnight.
If DH had of been able to put a positive spin on the disasters it would have been fantastic, TBH i enjoyed myself, but it was harder as she just grumped at everything...
We have however had a night apart and sometime to think since coming home and had a massive chat about the effort required in a relationship etc etc etc and things have been heaps better - so i guess a good thing came out of it... also we have decided to buy a caravan as we are NEVER going to tent it again!!!
there were some highlights, but i wont go into them all, loats of walking, biulding a dam in the river and I MANAGED TO STAY IN CLOTH WOOO HOOOOO despite the rain
Skye - congrats on the move/house, once you are set up you wont know yourself... Yep still totally BF here... going back to work PT in 3 weeks (sob) and will be leaving EBM for her and expressing at work...
Danni - sorry things are bad between you and Matt, maybe the time a part will give him some time to think and evaluate... you too, but you seem to know what you want and need... hope things work out for you
Shell - still in cloth full time here - have you tried a strip wash of your nappies? they get a build up of powder after a while and also with the teething wee, they tend to have a stink that you cant get out. I did one and the nappies are so much better now...
let me know if you want the details of a strip wash.
re the cows milk... i am going to ntroduce goats milk first as apparently it is closer to BM than cows and it is easier for them to digest.
when she hits 12 mths i will start introducing, but am still planning on BF too - it will just help during the day when i am at work... will also be giving her water and diluted apple juice ( planning on juicing myself - but will see how i go )
Hi lily - nice to hear from you again...
well i think i will leave it at that, sorry or the novel, i guess thats what happens when you are away for so long Sorry if i forgot anyone/thing
How are you all? I am pretty good, just watching Little Women on Foxtel which always makes me cry haha
SJ - my friend gave me recipe for strip wash but I have lost it, can you please let me know what it is. I remember bi-carb soda and vinegar etc.... just don't remember measurements.
Prama - wow sounds like self-settling is working for you. I really need to start something like that because DJ is becoming very clingy and alway whingy for me to carry him or cuddles. I blame our week away when he didnt' have the freedom to crawl around. He just doesn't like to be alone anymore, needs company. I need to stop picking him up all of the time and coming to him everytime he cries.....
How is Poopy's gastro? Is he better?
He will love being at daycare and mixing with the other babies, DJ has been great this week since being back at daycare, back to his routine.
Bron - the south coast break sounds awesome - so nice to get away. Yeah we are both looking forward to going away in July. It will involve alot of saving this year but worth it
Danni - any consolation, DJ doesn't drink from sippy cup either and I bought two of them. I think I will give it a go again when he is 11 months old and try some cows milk, hopefully it will work. He won't drink his water from sippy cup, actually he doesn't drink alot of water at all, only has it from bottle and then realises it is water.... arghhhh very frustrating.
Skye - I think I will start cows milk around 11 months as well. It will be different not having to pack his formula each day for daycare etc.... So how many milk (cows milk) feeds do they need during the day then?? I think I better do some reading....kehehee Sleep without a bottle, yeah very interesting.... Glad you are settling into the new place well.
DJ has yet another bruise on his head, side of face this time, he fell down and hit the silver bar of coffee table, so Doni took it off this morning. Poor thing the side of his face is swollen. We are starting to think we need to put a helmet on his head haha
Well better go, DJ due to wake up soon so better get his bottle ready
Jazz has a really good routine at daycare, I just have to remember to keep it going on weekends which has been easier while Matt's been away. He comes home tomorrow night.
sorry another me post.. im sick now.. vomitting all night, and now i think i have gastro too. poopy's better, only one vomit today but still not wanting to play a lot and just wants lots of cuddles...
my poor little itty bitty. he's having jus a little to eat, mostly bread and plain rice. no formula at the moment, so fully bf. formula will make his gut worse, cos it's dairy.
im going to start cow's milk the day after his birthday. (he might be overwhelmed on his b'day so dont want to start something new). some theories say gradually add cow's milk with their formula, other's say just give it to them and see how it goes. im going to see if he'll take just plain cow's milk
once they are 12 mths they need 600ml of dairy in their diet daily, this includes milk, cheese, yoghurt etc.
poopy still fights his self settling during hte day but at night he seems to go down ok. he slept from 6.30pm to 5am. i saw on the baby monitor he stood up and whinged a bit for a couple of minutes or so and then lay himself down which he has never done. and went back to sleep till 6.. so that's something good.
Oh Prama, i know exactly how you feel... its awful isnt it.
Hopefully you have the same one as me.
Vomiting for the first night, then no more real vomity nausea.
The next few days were just diarrhoea and i felt really weak. DH found that if he ate boiled lollies he had enough energy to do stuff and he went back to eating quicker than i did and seemed to get over it quicker.
At the hospital the information sheet that they gave me said after the first day, not to restict normal diet other than high fat or rich/spicy foods in MJ as the food help push it through.... i must admit for the first 2 days i cut out her solids as i didnt think they would help, next time i will give her rice/toast for the first day or two and then back to normal diet. I found as soon as i put her back on 3 meals her diarrhoea cleared up.
I hope you and Poopy are feeling better soon and that Steve manages to avoid it. We also found that if someone didnt get it within 48 hrs of the last person they were safe - fingers crossed for steve.
Hope you get to put you feet up and have a rest, take care of yourself
Oh forgot to mention....
In DSS's christmas letter he asked for MJ's first tooth... Christmas night at about 6pm we saw a slit in her gum and a tiny bit of tooth poking out - ahhh the magic of christmas, we told DSS that he gave MJ her first tooth as he asked for it
thanks heaps SJ...
Yeah i was having vomity nausea all of yest,but heaps better today. little bit of the runs last night but heaps better today. steve's good so far so hope he's avoided it.
poopy's having 3 meals but bland stuff, bread, plain rice, pasta w vegemite..im making him some very soft rice w carrots and swede for lunch, hope he goes ok. if he's ok w that, i'll go back to our normal meal but will wait and not give dairy till tomorrow i guess.
hooray MJ - what a wonderful x'mas gift!! DSS must be so pleased...
so poopyremains the last toothless wonder!!! hahaha
no pictures, i didnt want any of it to find its way to her face or mouth EWWWWW
went to see FDC people yesteday and again today, i hate it, i dont want to leave MJ with any of them, non of them will love her like i do and how do i know that they really will do the things that i ask them too... will they leave her to cry.
It was awful i was almost in tears at the ladies place... dont get me wring, she was lovely, but i dont want to do it
will u leave mj at fdc when u back to work? it's so hard isnt it.. im finding it so painful to think that he's going to be there 5 days and im going to miss him and everything he does so much. he's growing up so quick and i wont be tehre.
i feel the same, will they give him cuddles, it wont be the same as lying on his mummy's chest when he's tired or feeling icky. will they stroke his hair and comfort him. they wont kiss him when he's sad.. of cos i dont want them to kiss him.. but i know he will enjoy it, he loves kids and new things.. but im being selfish and wanting him.. i love him so much, my heart just overflows..
he's calling for me now.. he'll always be my itty bitty poopy
good on you 
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not long to go now!
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