Laranna- I have formula fed Amelie since she was 2 weeks and I did feel sooo guilty about it. But at the same time I was miserable breastfeeding her and I didnt want her to pick up on that. I even considered going back to breastfeeding when she was about 6 weeks but if It didnt work out again I wondered what impact that would have on her and she was and still is very happy on formula. I will try harder next time to breastfeed as I do still get attacks of the guilts but I think that is just part of being a Mum questioning if you are doing the right thing. But she is happy, healthy and very loved and thats all that matters in the end.
Kristale - thanks for sharing that. I've been having the same thoughts about wondering if I'm doing the right thing, not only with feeding but everything else too! I said tearfully to DP last night "I have no idea what I'm doing!" I've been doing everything under the sun to get the feeding right, at least to get DS to put on more weight. It will be interesting to see how much he has put on this week since I have been comp feeding with some formula. We are off to the paed on Monday.
But you are so right, as long as they are happy, healthy and loved then that's all we can ask for
Anyhow, wish this horrible weather would go away, it would do me and DS wonders to get outside for a nice walk in the sunshine.
laranna - like you said, as long as they are happy & healthy. That's all that matters. The guilt trips will never end. Whether it's the way we feed them when they're babies, or whether we go back to work or stay at home, right through to them being teenagers and not letting them go to that 'very important party on Friday night'! It will never end. You need to do what's right for you, and what you're happy with.
I know it's been hard with you, with the minimal weight gains, but every baby is different. Some gain little weight as babies, and thrive as kids or adults. Other babies get chubby really quickly, but are stick then as kids. You're doing everything you can, and to the best of your ability. You can't do any more than that. Give yourself a pat on the back. You're doing wonderfully.
I wrote a post in here the other day, but it didn't appear. Weird. And I can't remember what I wrote!
Everything is going great here with Emily. Me on the other hand, I have the flu It's pretty bad, I keep getting light headed to the point that if I don't sit down then I might faint. And I'm getting the shakes and aches and pains as well. It's a PITA that all I can take is panadol. That's not doing a huge lot to get rid of it.
aaaah well, hopefully it'll go away soon. I've gone through 4 boxes of tissues in 2 days!
Weird Jodi. My post disappeared too. Gremlins. Hope you feel better soon. Not nice being sick and having to look after two bubs.
Laranna - I absolutely agree with what the others have said. I formula fed Isabelle from 13 weeks and I gave myself such a hard time about it. In the end, I ended up being happy, my baby was happy and that's all that mattered. Be prepared for some negativity from people but just remember you are the one that knows yourself and your bub best. Happy mum = happy baby. And like you, I said I was going to do everything I could to bf this time. I am, but I have to admit I don't enjoy it and am only still doing it because (A) Ellie won't take a bottle and (B) I know how much more work FFing is - anyone who says women ff for convenience has never had to do it!
Still struggling a bit here. They're both such good girls but Izzy has 3 teeth all coming through at once so she's grizzly and clingy. Elena is going really well but is still feeing every 3 or 4 hours, 24 hours a day. She also uses me as a dummy (and won't take a dummy), so I'm so tired. Every now and then I'll get a good night but they are few and far between. Hanging out for the day it all clicks for her and she sleeps longer at night consistently.
Thanks girls ...I'm feeling a bit better about it all, starting to realise that I am doing all that I can.
Jodi - I hope the flu disappears quick and in the meantime, I hope you have someone to help you out so you can get some rest.
Lulu - to you too...I hope things settle down for you too. I am also looking forward to having even just a block of 3 or 4 hours sleep. J feeds every 2 hours round the clock, some is just comfort though plus I am doing the comping every 3rd feed or so...very tired!
How do you tell when they start teething? And when they do, how long before the tooth breaks through? J has been drooling heaps the past few weeks and today I noticed a little white dot on his bottom gum that feels quite hard. DP apparently got his first tooth at 3.5 months and I've heard getting teeth early is hereditary.
laranna - I too have heard that getting teeth early is herediarty. Nina started teething at 12 weeks, but the first tooth didn't actually appear until she was 7.5 months old.
lulu - 3 teeth at once, ouchie! Poor little chicken. I hope Elena starts cutting back ont the comfort feeds soon, that must be hard
Jodi- I hope your flu gets better soon.
lulu- sorry to hear you are struggling a bit with your girls.
Well me and Amelie are going great she is sleeping from 10:30pm (her dream feed) to between 5 and 6am which is amazing I am so happy with her for that it makes me feel so much better after that big block of sleep. She is so smiley all the time and always wants to stand on her feet now I keep telling her she is still a baby. How quick they start to grow up I miss her little baby stage already. We also had some family photos on Saturday and they look so great we chose to have some skin shots in big prints framed for our house we all look great. But very expensive!!! Any girls in Perth if you go to Viva be prepared there photo prices are insane but the photos are gorgeous.
It's pretty bad, I keep getting light headed to the point that if I don't sit down then I might faint. And I'm getting the shakes and aches and pains as well. It's a PITA that all I can take is panadol. That's not doing a huge lot to get rid of it.
I hope the flu disappears quick and in the meantime, I hope you have someone to help you out so you can get some rest.
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