About the sleeping thing. I've decided that you can't make things worse. They're gonna do what they want until they're ready. You're not doing anything wrong - you're doing what you need to do to get by, to cope. As for the dummy thing, I was desparing a few months back that I would never have to stop getting up, but she's sorted that out and the dummy menas it's bed time for her. She has about 3 in there just in case though.