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Thanks Elissa...
Man o Man my house is so messy. I have been working at it for three days, and there is still so much to be done. You don't realise how bad it is for ages and then all of a sudden it's staring at you in the face.
It does not help having cyclone Katy around either! he he he She's a classic but a real terror at the same time....
Back to it. Off to hang yet another load of washing :O)
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leanne - yeah its not easy to try and do housework with a 2 year old helper! My house is atrocious, there are huge piles of dirty washing everywhere, toys strewn all over the place, rubbish all over the bench, the bathroom is hideous! I'm telling myself i will really get into it in the morning....
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i loved your ticker so much Leanne thati had to go and make one for myself!
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Well after a hard week and even though my head and eyes are sore from so much crying, I actually am feeling a little more confident this arvo.
I gave Riley a dreamfeed at 11pm last nite with no fuss, then he woke at 5am and fed him with no fuss. But his 9am feed didn't come off, neither did it at 11.30am (I attempted again - seeing as his 9am feed was bad). So I fed him at 3pm this arvo and no problems at all.
I rang my CHN this morning and she said straight away "reflux" - get him to the doc. She said she knew it was only a matter of time for us until I said I had had enuf. I have said a few things at times obviously but it was nothing we couldn't handle, but this past week has just been terrible and so so stressful.
So off we went to the doc at 1pm. Arrogant pig! Said to me all babies/children are different and he is never convinced it is reflux unless a very severe case like lachlan (my first son). He said I am using my past experiences get in the way. He offered no assurance or advice but did give me a script to try zantac as a trial only.
Gosh it is not like I want to go thru this or give my child meds but if it means we are both happy again..... gosh I sooo don't want to be here again, but I have no choice!
He asked me why I was crying and I looked at him and said well what do I do if he won't feed, got any suggestions. It is the stress of it! Which he obviously is oblivious too! See he was not worried as he is a big boy 6.5kgs, but he didn't even begin to think that his weight gain has been subsiding alot, didn't even ask! Just rude, but he is the only doctor in town.
I truely believe that people just don't understand unless they have been thru this. Yes my baby has been a good feeder till now hence his weight gains, but geez it is a mother's right to do what she can for her child in order for them not to go downhill. I feed him whilst asleep and during the night to keep the weight on.
A girl that works for us (which I truely adore), said but he is a healthy chubby baby (and she just kept repeating this - after me repeating but it is the refusal to feed that is just sooo hard). I know he has weight on him (luckily as Lachlan never did), but I don't want him too loose weight regardless. I just wish people would say nothing, esp when it sounds condesecending. I would like to see them in the same situation feed in feed out when your baby is in pain and crying and you can't no matter how hard you try get them to feed. I know if I had never been in this situation I would never understand the extent of the situation but I also wouldn't even try to begin to understand too and would just feel for the person.
Anyway after seeing the doc, it is confirmed he has no thrush/tongue tie is fine/no ear or throat problems.
I then walked across road to CHN. She gave me a big hug and told me I am doing nothing wrong. I asked her how often I should be feeding him and she gave me the confidence to feed him 5 hourly if it meant that we wouldn't fight and get so stressed and maybe he would have a really big feed and would have emptied the contents of his tummy from his last feed and we might have more success. I just needed to hear this from her. As it appears that is why we had a better feed at 3pm as his last decent feed was 5am. But geez that is a long time. Maybe I have been forcing feeds on him sooner then he wanted it. So hearing that is just what I needed and with her guidance we will get thru this.
Sorry for the vent and the all about us post. I will be trying very hard to get ontop of this and hope to chat to you girls soon with some good news. xoxo
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sheree - ia m so sorry you feel that you are going down the same path as Lachlan, huge hugs to you, I DO have some understanding of how awful a servere refluxer is and i am hoping so badly that Riley won't go there. It is great that you have such a lovely supportive CHN adn that you feel confident that you can get through this with her guidance and support. Try not to put so much pressure on yourself hun, things will be okay, Riley won't starve. I hope to log in here tomorrow and read some great news about good feeding x x
Arch is doing great at TT, however still has his fair share of accidents, hasn't done a poo in the toilet yet, but I expected poo totake a while longer than wee. He is at the stage now where he doesn't want nappies at all, he just wants his jocks, he only wears nappies for sleeping and if i know he's gonna be busy playing and not remember the toilet. I have taken him grocery shopping 3 times now in jocks and each time he has told me when he needs the toilet and we haven't had any accidents, YAY!!! The no nappy days are in sight now i think, maybe not for another 6 months, but not too far away
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Big hugs to you Sheree.... I don't really have much advice for you but am thinking of you. Hang in there.
Great Ticker Elissa! Love the photo. Well done Archie with your 'jocks'.
Our little is princess is up. She went down for 1 1/2 hours and now says she has a sore tummy. She had a boiled egg at lunch so I am thinking that could be it.
Anyway, I hope to get some sleep before work tomorrow so I better tend to my sore tummied princess and pray for some shut eye.
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leanne - i hope Katy's sore tummy was just a big pop off waiting to come out, and you got a good nights sleep.
I got to sleep in til 8:40 this morning! Unheard of in this house, Arch must have been nice and cosy in his bed, i know i was! TTing not great today though. Seems like he might finally be getting over his cold, has a chesty cough and runny blocked nose, hopefully be over it by the weekend. Am trying to make christmas this year more eco friendly, just bought a wooden semi trailer truck for Arch so thats a start.
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I spoke to my mum yesterday and told her i was look at coming down to Melb soon but flights were way too expensive ATM....She then offered me $1000 to come down which of course I was wrapped and said I'd talk to Chris about it. I told Chris about mum offering the money, he said why can't she use that money for them to come up here? Fair call really as they haven't seen our new house (which is a yr old this month) and my dad hasn't been up here since Jayden was born, but I told Chris that I wanted to see my friends too, its ok for him all his friends are here! So I told him that I will tell mum that I'm not "allowed" to go! I asked him if he was scared I wouldn't come back, in which he didn't reply. When we got home he said that I hadn't even asked if he wants to go, but he always says he can't get time off (like when Ash was born), he doesn't like hanging out with my friends....It annoys me that he expects me to justify why I want to go down there!!
Elissa: YAY for the sleep in, and sorry I couldn't chat earlier....its a PITA when Jayden doesn't sleep haha.
Sheree: YAY for your CHN visit today!!
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Hi Girls!
Sheree - I'm so sorry to hear that Riley has reflux. What a w@nker that docter was!!!
Tania....JUST GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You will have the best time of your life! You do not need permission from any man to go and see your family. The time away from Chris will do you some good.
Why do you feel that you need his persmission to go?? If your mum if offering to pay than book those flights girl!
Me going to Rockhampton was the best thing. I had such a great time and although I was glad to be home, I miss being there already.
Honestly hun, I would just bite the bullet and books the tickets!
Elissa - That is the cutest photo of Archie!!! YAY on the sleep in!
Well my weekend was pretty massive! I was naughty and drank Thurs, Fri and Sat nights!!! Boy was I crook Sunday. My new found freedom (when the girls are at their dads) is great!!!
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I'm going to tell him tonight that either I take the money and I go down there or they can come up here and then I will go down there regardless because I still want to see my friends, so basically mum pays for it or we do!
I don't really feel I need his permission as such, its more that if something happens or we run out of money or something I don't want him to blame me because I went to Melb. I think the time away would be good too, I honestly don't think he thinks we have a problem with our relationship.
WOW on your weekend!! OMG I can't remember the last time I drank Fri and Sat nights let alone a Thurs as well LOL good to see you are having fun!
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Well i hope it all works out for you hun!
You deserve a good time with your friends!
How far is Bundy from Rockhampton?
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Thanks hun! I have already spoken to him this arve and said either they pay for it or they come up here and I am going down anyway, so we are looking at him coming down for a week and me for 2 or 3wks...good comprimise I think LOL
Rocky is about 3.5-4hr drive, I was only thinking the other day when you were there...I should go for a drive up there when your there next and also see what Sheree is doing if she can come too....Not sure how far it is for her though I cant remember.
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Great!!!!
I was thinking the same thing. I will be down from the 28th of November to the 2 of December. I won't have the girls though.
I will be down for a 40th (and to see my "friend") then.
I'd love to meet you guys!
Tieri is about 4-5 hours from Rocky i think. Sheree will know better than I.
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Oh, I'd love to meet the girls too. That's ok though, can't wait to meet you too. I've gotta arrange this melb trip first then see if I we can afford another trip then. Do you fly to rocky? It would be too far to drive.
My angel is stirring and jayden is naked. Better get back to being a mum LOL
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Yeh i'll be driving. Flights are going to cost over $500. Too much for me. I'd rather have a car down there so I can go wherever I want IYKWIM.
If you can't make it thats fine. I'd rather you go and have a great time down with your friends than worry about coming up to see me. I'll be down in Rocky again in May next year for a wedding so we might be able to organise someting then if we can't meet in November.
But we can talk about it close to the date....
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tania - sounds like Chris is being selfish again, sorry to hear that, you are right, you do not need to justify why you want to visit your family and friends! Gorgeous new pic of Ashlea
sara - so great to hear that you are enjoying your new 'you' time, you spending time at Rocky sounds like me spending time in the Mount, its great. I dont know how you ca cope with 3 nights on the p!ss, your a better woman than me!!
Oh i am so jealous of you guys possibly meeting up!!
I have just posted in the boo-hoo section about DH and I if you're interested, feeling a bit bluergh...
I have a little boy sitting on the couch next to me who spent about 5 hours sleeping this arvo and now isn't tired....
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Tieri to Rocky is about 3ish hours away. I will be there around the 17th November for Lachlan's specialist ENT appt and I will also be travelling through around the 10th ish of December for our trip to Bundaberg/Hervey Bay and Brissy just before xmas. Wonder if we could all work something out.
Whats going on Elissa. Can you provide the link for me, I would never find it, rarely surf the other threads these days.
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sheree - i have no idea how to do links, but will give you a quick run down - its all sorted now though, back to the happy couple we always have been, just me making a mountain out of a molehill.
DH has spent quite a bit of time away from us staying in the city for blocks of Uni for his job. This has meant that Archie and I have spent a lot of time staying at mums without DH and we started to get used to life without Jay. Jay and I have just lost contact a bit and don't seem to communicate like we used to as our lives have been so seperate lately. Anyway we chatted about it and he only has one more 2 week block at Uni which is next month, after that he doesn't have to go away for 2 years. So we have promised ourselves to have lots of date night without Archie just to get to know each other better and get back to being best friends again.
So its all good, i just can't wait for his next block to be over and done with so we can be a normal family again (well as normal as we get anyway! LOL)
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