Had a crappy night cause Bill was out and i am so tired today! why cant they both sleep at the same time just for today, not asking for much i dont think, hiccup boy just wont give in, at least Mason did
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Had a crappy night cause Bill was out and i am so tired today! why cant they both sleep at the same time just for today, not asking for much i dont think, hiccup boy just wont give in, at least Mason did
awwww Belinda! Its so hard, seems to be that when Matilda is asleep the only hour & a half I have off right now is spent breastfeeding... so at least I get to sit down :(. Its so tiring to just be going continuously, I don't know how you do it with 3!
Today i dont know how i do either lol :) But i am feeling a bit better now, woken up a bit, hiccup boy gave in but Mason never slept, ah well, over the idea now
On the odd occasion when i do the overnight feeds i so have newfound respect each time for single parents or parents whos spouse isnt supportive or helpful, dont know how someone can go to bed with the kids then open there eyes up to them every morning, i would go insane without some time out from them at some point
Chelsea had her check up last monday and the nurse said everything was fine with her. Then again at the time she wasnt vomitting after each bottle. I have another visit this Tuesday so i will mention it and see what the go is.
I try wrapping her up tight but she hates her hands covered and will wriggle and wriggle to get them free.
hi, remember me? just popping in to read up on everyone, have been very busy as dh has been sick, but he is a lot better now.. off to a 2 yr old bday party now:lol:
Hey Alison :) hope DH stays better
Kim: Hope they can help you out on Tuesday and my first son Luke couldnt stand his hands wrapped, i could never wrap him he would always get them back out!
Yeah thats what I mean Belinda... didn't come out too right, Matilda would not have herself wrapped & did everything she could to not be wrapped. Just trying to come up with some answers ;) Not that there always is one....
We have poor Jovie for the past few days drawing her legs up & straining big time, her face is going purple & she is pushing away... nothing coming out :(
KIMBAZ have you ever been shown how to wrap chelsea with her hands up near her face??? some babies prefer to have their hands up rather thandown by thier sides. either get the nurse at your next visit to show you or let me know and i will try and explain it in here for you if you like!!! that way you get the benefit of wrapping without the hand 'frustration'
-went to DH parents for the night 3 1/2hrs away, poor sophie threw up on DH 14yr old cousin i reckon two feeds worth of milk, i have never ever seem sooooooo much vomit in my life, all over her the leather lounge the floor, her, the kitchen bench every where...
christy i hope jovie pushes something out soon some big farts perhaps.
not long til christmas
No ive not ever been shown. I will ask on Tuesday if they can show me. if not ill post and get u to explain it!!
Oh poor Sophie, is she ok??
Hows Jovie going Christy....poor lil thing.. :(
Hi guys,
Just popped in to see how everyone's going. We're also having the same "wrapping" problems with Ella. Nothing keeps those little hands in. If she's not asleep she's fighting with the wrap!
We've been busy with xmas parties. Ella came home crying & screaming from the last one because it was too close to her "big sleep" time and she wasnt being wound down for the sleep. Instead she had 4 year olds running around her playing and wanting to touch her.
Christy - Ouch to the internal! Hope all of that clears up for you.
Ella's been chugging along. Growing longer and longer each day. She's as long as the older 2month old babies at mothers group. She's hopeless at daytime sleeps and will cat nap 15-30mins at a time then cries.... hopefully this settles.
Ann
Hello there!
Oh the wrapping with the arm up! I forgot about that one, I used that with Matilda a few times & with Jovie I hadn't even thought of it!! Thanks for the reminder.
Its hard with this silly season to get this little ones good sleep, I had to wake Jovie up from every nap today to get moving... after spending an hour getting her to sleep. She's still straining away. Her little face goes purple & she groans and I swear makes the same noise I did when pushing her out :O. But no poo a few farts. She's not done a poo since Thursday but apparently thats normal for breastfed bubs... I still think she's uncomfortable though.
I'm okay... I went to the GP Thursday for my 6 week check a week early because Jovie has oral thrush which has spread to my nipples & remember the stitch question? Well I didn't loose one, but they first thought I had retained some placenta so had to be on antibiotics in megadoses and today had my scan which showed that there are no bits left in my uterus which is great, but I have a 4.5cm cyst attached to my left ovary so now I have to go back to the gynocologist and have a repeat scan in 2 weeks to make sure it has gone down. At least I can stop the antibiotics and hopefully that will help Jovie's bowels.
Christy: i didnt realise you had posted about wrapping earlier as a suggestion to Kim i was just responding to what she had said about the arms being wrapped, reminded me of Luke :)
christy - glad there are no retained parts ofplacenta... I went for my 6 week check up with my ob last week and he thought i might have a stitch in my c-sec scar still as it has still been bleedingin one part. So, he then got out a razor blade and cut it open to have a look, that hurt. After all that, there was nothing there!
YAY we have poo!!! LOL. Finally and now she's sleeping really well...
Owie Alison at cutting open the scar to have a look:eek:
I'm so tired all the time right now, its awful.... between my appts & Jovie's I forgot all about friends Christmas shopping... I just don't think its going to happen now. Maybe I can arrange to see them after Christmas LOL... to figure out what I'm going to do.
How is everyone's bubs? Jovie is smiling after feeds, its so cute she looks around & sees you & does a huge smile. Then the wind takes over after a few minutes of cute noises & smiles... and she cries for an hour before falling asleep. She's just so uncomfortable. I can't wait until 12 weeks just to give her some reprieve from all of it (hopefully... I could be living in a dream world...). But I also know once one thing settles, something else happens to stir the pot.
Well hopefully not Christy
Alison: Ouch to the scar cutting
I think Cooper is getting sick, so annoyed if he is, not at him just in general lol
I had a couple of bourbons earlier and they went straight to my head, well they did when i got to woolies lol, so was wandering merrily around the aisles for awhile :)
Chelsea is doing much better. She slept like and angel last night, and today still an angel, think cos daddy is home :P
Has her 2 week check up today..even though its more like 3 weeks...lol.
Will be interesting to see how much she has grown since birth, and how much weight she has put on in a week.
OUCH on the cutting of your scar Alison!!!!!
Im bit worried bout my stitches actually...they seem to have gone, but not to sure...i keep saying to DH i feel like i have a 3rd hole now or my insides are falling out.... :(
Feels not quite right to me, so it will be the first thing i want checked out at 6 week check up.
Glad all my xmaz shopping is done. Am now packing ready for our 'road trip'. We are off to NSW to do the relo rounds on Saturday. Kicking off the leg at my parents for a few days, then DH's family, then my sisters, and back to my parents. We will be gone from 23rd Dec-1st Jan.
Hope everyone is getting into the festive spirit :D
:P YAY only 6 sleeps til Ho Ho comes:P I love Christmas.
Got a really big 2 weeks, I think after the New Year Im gonna fall in a heap though, at least DH will be on holidays.
21st Work Xmas party for the kids
23rd Dinner with MIL and DH family, DstepD (19) comes home for Xmas (she lives in SA)
24th Lunch (which becomes dinner also) with my family
25th Xmas lunch with my family, Dinner with FIL and DH family
26th BIL bday
27th Nephews bday
30th Nephews and my 30th bday
31st My bday party and New Years
1st Nephews bday
2nd Fall in a heap and sleep all day. :asleep:
The worst thing is dragging the boys here,there and everywhere. And having to pack and then repack the boys bags. Its not so bad for Baylee as he will sleep anywhere, anytime, but Xanders routine will be all over the place.
Hows everyone elses plans for xmas?
Baylee has been great, havent needed to use the gaviscon much lately, so hopefully he wont be as bad as Xander. And yes Christy it is beautiful when they look around, see your face and smile, it brings tears to my eyes. I cant believe 6 weeks ago he was 1hr old. OMG it goes so fast.
Alison- I cant believe he recut your scar OUCH. I hope you are feeling better soon.
Christy- Im glad Jovie is feeling better and that you dont have any leftover placenta. Hopefully the cyst will go down by your next appt.
Kimbaz- YAY Chelsea, why do they always behave when dads are home? I hope everything is alright with your stitches.
Well I better go now that I have written a novel. Bye.
Hello ladies,
Just wondering if I can join in here?
I am first time mummy with a now 3 week old little boy Logan (born 28/11).
Had a wonderful birth thanks to a change in OBs very late in pg. Logan was breech and I changed to allow a vaginal delivery - all other OBs wanted to deliver by C-section. Good old "vaginal" Lionel Steinberg gave me full confidence in our ability for natural birth and that's exactly what I got! No real issues with the breech aspect other than a bit more work for mummy but it was all worth it to be up and about within an hour and feeling great . No drugs and just a few stitches.
Had been posting in the PAML forum throughout pregnancy as we have suffered 2 m/c's.
Realising now I am no longer pg and must break into new support group.
I see that many of you have 1 or 2 children already so hoping for a wealth of knowledge/experience
Loving my little man but feeling quite lost at times. He seems to be suffering from colicky issues and often looks very uncomfortable respecially in the evenings.
So far, the Hug-a- Bub sling has been the best remedy but there are times even that won't work
Have to admit he sleeps in with us at night as just cannot settle him in the basinette. He sleeps very well in our bed and it means at least I am staying sane! I am ok with the arrangement for now but not quite sure how to graduate him into his own bed.
Daytime sleeping is variable. Sometimes he will settle in the basinette but other days we are in the sling nearly all day.
Breast feeding is at lest going very well - no problems at all in that department ( he IS a boy and does love his boobies!!!)
Ahhhh - lots to learn eh?!
Hope to get to know you all soon.
welcome meredith, of course you an join in here, the more the merrier!!!
glad to hear all is going well, dont worry about the co sleeping you have to do what best for you and logan
ROBYN- boy you do have a busy week ahead!!! you;ll be glad when your birthday rolls around!!
BELINDA - i did the same last week when i had 1/4 of a glass of wine, felt like a had drunk 1/4 of a bottle lol, hope cooper isn't getting sick, fingers crossed for you.
CHRISTY- started to wrap sophie with her arms up during the day and she seems to sleep better, though at night using the old wrapping as she sleeps through, just a bad day sleeper...i hope her tummy pains get better.
KIMBAZ did you ask about the wrapping????
well sophies all good, still sleeping through, went 10 hrs between feeds last night!!! WT!!! so it's been great. we are going away at new year so hope the routine stays.
OMG!!! 10 hrs what a champ. Go Sophie.:
Welcome Meredith. Congrats on the vaginal birth and becoming a mummy. Good on you for finding an OB who is happy to do what you want.
Glad you can join us Meridith. I'm also a first time mum and found hanging out with these other *experienced* mums a great help. Welcome the world Logan!
AJP - 10 Hours! Fantastic. You must have great boob milk.
Ella is sleeping well during the nights, waking only 2 times around 1am and 5am. She's so alert and attentive during the day. Usually i get a morning smile when i peer into her cot. (awwwwww). Time has flown for us - i cant believe she's already 6 weeks old. We're moving her onto the bigger nappies and she's now well into the 000 outfits. She's over 5Kg and about 60cm long.
Its bathtime now - gotta go!
Ann
Welcome Meredith!!
Chelsea had her check up yesterday:
Weight: 3850gm (8lb 7oz) a gain of 190gm since last Monday and growth of 465 gm since birth
Length: 50.8 cm growth of 2.8cm since birth
Head circumference: 35.8 cm growth of 1.8cm since birth
All hips, reflexes, grip, head lifting etc all great!!
SO she is growing very nicely and the nurse was extremely pleased with her, said im doing a great job, which is the boost i needed for sure :D
I totoally forgot to ask about the wrapping :( with xmaz on my mind i didnt even give it a thought..sily me!
Last night she had a bottle at 8pm, went to bed round 10pm. She never woke for her 12am feed. I woke up at 4.45am and she was still zonked out. I was worried she might not have been alive (scared me alot cos i couldnt hear her breathing like i normally can in the monitor) got up to check and she was sleeping peacefully. But woke up not long after id been in her room. If i hadnt checked she would have missed the 12 and 4am feed. And i had to wake her then for 9am! It seems if i take her shopping for the day it makes her sleep!!!!!
AJP: Thanks and seems Cooper isnt getting sick but in the mornings he is very snuffly, so might give him demazin if he seems the same tommorow. Glad Sophie is sleeping well
Welcome Merideth :)
Kim: Glad she had a good sleep for you, it is a worry when they sleep so long at first, i had a panick with Mason once as i woke up before him, but he was fine of course
Cooper didnt wake up till 10am this morning! He does get fed by DH before he goes to work but normally wakes up at 8am, must of needed the sleep i guess, he is always up till around midnight though, cant wait till he is going to bed around 8pm and staying there for the night
Thats a great sleep in Belinda! I'm having issues here because Jovie will usually wake up at around 4 for her morning feed & would go back to sleep if it weren't for her big sister waking up at 5am and carrying on until everyone is out of bed. This morning I had Jovie back to sleep & then Matilda kept running back into our room checking to see if "Jovie's asleep mummy!" Grrr.... and that was after Jovie woke up at 3.30am and took an hour to get back to sleep, so I've been awake since 3.30am. :( I would have at least had a few hours straight sleep if it weren't for Matilda waking up at 1am screaming.... I'm very tired & emotional today.
Geez Christy i can see why you are! Sorry it wasnt the best morning for you and hope that you get some sleep tonight at least
that tag team thing drives me mad, two asleep at the same time is just heaven to me, dont achieve it very often though!
Cooper is having a huge sleep today, so i am guessing he will be up with me till midnight again tonight, have heaps to do and could of done it all while he has been sleeping and mason is playing but what did i do? sat here catching up on threads and forums lol, oops
Isn't this time of year just manic! Today is the first day in a couple of weeks that I have had two mins to myself. I have had the house to myself today, and its been very lovely.
Aston is thriving, I swear everytime I pick him up after he has slept he has grown more chubby - working on the dimples in the knees and elbows, and those cheeks! I love it!
Hi Meredith, good to see you. Most babes are unsettled in the afternoon, evening. The witching hour!! For the life of me I don't know why. I'm sure there is some perfect explanation floating around for it. That is when I find Aston the most unsettled. Some people recommend a bath around that time, then a feed and bed, but do what works for you. Don't worry too much on the co-sleeping front. Logan is only very little still. Aston usually comes into bed with us after the early morning feed (4/5am) then sleeps til about 8. I like it, mummy, daddy and the little man. DH and I usually spend the first hour or so gazing at him in amazement...lol. then eventually fall back alseep. Glad that you having success with Breast feeding. Aston took to it like a duck to water, which I am really happy about. I love breast feeding. I don't do pregnancy very well, so its nice to be able to do that well.
Belinda - Aston has been snuffly too - he sounds like a little puffing billy sometimes. I'm not sure if its a cold, or just congestion... can babies get hayfever?? both my other kids have it...
Kim - glad things have settle a bit for you. Some days are good, some days are lousy eh. I had written a post in reply to your last post, but lost it, and was too tired and cranky so switched the computer off in frustration!
Wow Luua - your baby girl is thriving. good to see
AJP - 10 Hours!! oh what I would do for 10hours sleep....sleep - I'm a bit obsessed with it at the moment. maybe because of the lack of it!
Christy - good news about no retain placenta. How lovely that Jovie is smiling now. I can't wait for those first smiles - the ones that are real. they are the best. I hope she is feeling better soon, and that you find a solution.
Anyone else I've missed - sorry. Hope all of you and your bubs are doing well, and that sleep deprivation isn't driving any of us too insane.
I can't beleive it is Christmas next Monday. Where oh where has this year gone!!!
Take care
Thanks for the welcome girls. Sorry if it takes me awhile to get to know you all. My brain isn't at its peak atm!!
AJP - I can't believe your litle one sleeps for 10hrs! I am amazed if Logan goes 2 1/2 - 3hrs.
Ann- Ella sounds like she is doing great also. Are the night feeds taking you long or does she go straight back down again?
Kim - Yeah for a happily growing Chelsea and a good sleeper also! My maternal health nurse says they often start to sleep longer/better when they hit the 5kg mark. Hoping for myself this is the case!
Christy - sounds like it is tough work with two young ones on the go. We will probably be trying for no2 within the next 12mths - not sure i am going to be prepared/able to cope with another but I guess millions of families do it and survive.
Vicky - thanks for the reassurance. I am going on my instincts atm and doing what works and keeps us all the most content. I don't like the "right" and "wrong" theories on how a baby should be raised - they just cause me anxiety if i think about it to much. I am not going to tell people about the co-sleeping anymore as everyone (other than in here) is so negative about it - I don't want to feel guilty about doing something that feels right and means I am getting some sleep!
Mind you, I would like to get Logan out of our bed sometime in the nearish future just so we can have "mummy - daddy time" !
Glad Aston is doing well. Did your other children breast feed ok as well? What do they think of their brother?
Went for maternal health nurse check up today - early given it will be xmas when he hits 4 weeks.
Logan has put on almost 500g in 9 days and is now just of 4kgs!!! Guess the hospital was wrong in saying they thought I might not have enough milk.No wonder I am hungry all the time! Probably also at least partially explains his colicky symptoms - trying to digest too much food poor fella1
Anyway at least he is thriving and i think (don't want to jinx myself) settling a little more. certainly seem to be getting some longer sleeps during the day.
Sounds great Meredith!
Well things not going much better, same sleep last night/this morning. I'm more tired & emotional today... poor DH can not do anything right. Poor Jovie is suffering big time with all the antibiotics I was on & now have to go back on. Seems that maybe a stitch got infected? Remember how I thought I popped a stitch? Well seems like that is what happened. So will have to go back on more antibiotics because the ones I was on wouldn't help this infection.... blech.
So I won't have a settled baby until I finish all antibiotics & the only way I'm going to get better is rest, vicious cycle....
MeridithD- Ella is a fast feeder. She's usually only on for 5mins either side. Including a nappy change i'm usually back in bed in 30mins. With only 2 feeds a night its not really a problem.
But last night she was up every 3 hours so i was exhausted this morning. I would have tried to get her to sleep in if i didn't have mothers group this morning. She did have a long snooze this afternoon so i caught a few zzzz's too. :)
Cant wait till Andrew's off work to help out with the nightly feeds.
Ann
Christy: Sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch with it all at the moment, i hope the new year brings you some nice sleep and your stitches drama is all fixed up :)
And i think i am mixing you and Kathryn up again, i swore your Mum was in hospital but was just reading threads from Kathryn that her mum is, so sorry if i was posting to you about your Mum that might not be in hospital at all lol, aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh i am so confused, kirsty and kate confuse me too, but dont worry i call Cooper, Mason Cooper because i never ever get his name right! Maybe one day it will all just click and i will have some of my intelligence back!
LOL Belinda everyone in my house is Matilda atm... I think I even called DH Matilda this morning... I can't wait to get my brain back... I keep saying by 2020 I should be able to think again ;) (remember that by Christmas we would be having our babies?? LOL)
Merry Christmas everyone. I hope you all have a good one, and happy and safe 2007!
As of tomorrow i will be in NSW until 1st January so i wont be online during that time, i am going to have a lot of reading to catch up on things when i return!!! :)
Chelsea is slowly getting into a feed pattern now. Day time she barely lasts the 4 hours in between feeds but of a night they are 5-6 hours apart, which means im getting the housework and the like done then, but going to be bed late still...... therefore still no more refreshed of a morning as im not sleeping!!!
Christy-I hope you feel better soon, your having a bit of a rough trot.
Belinda-I keep calling Chelsea our cats name (either blossom on minka)
Luua-Wow Ella is a fast feeder.....on a good day/night i can be up, nappy change, feed and burp in 35-40 mins....thats if she dont want to play and carry on with her hissy fits of head shaking and trying to eat her hands and suck bottle at same time
Meredith-Logan sounds like he is growing very welll!!
Vicky-Aston sounds like a cutie (looks it too). Hopefully in the new year things will calm down and u will got more then 2 mins to yourself. Im looking forward to DH being on holidays so he can take Chels and see 'a day in the life of mummy' and just what i go through all day. Only thing he hates doing is feeding her because she takes to long and he things its to time comsuming to him!!
AJP-Hows Sophie going.... still sleeping and getting your 10 hrs a night!??
Now ive said enough for the day.. i best go... Chelsea is asleep and the bags need to be packed and house to be cleaned!!
Have a good day ladies :D
Gosh where does the time go in the day now a days. 4 weeks ago, I was sooooo bored, and now - well blink and the time has gone from 8am to 10.30 in what seems minutes!
Aston has had a very snuffly nose, and not been very happy. Got some Fess from the chemist, and it worked a treat. Other then me feeling very stressed putting these drops in his little nose, and trying to hold him in the same position for a min or two, it was very successful. At the time though he wasn't very happy about it!
I think I got my first "Real" smile this morning. It was in response to my voice, and then again when he saw my face. It was different to those "practice" ones. Made my day... I think daddy is a bit jealous though lol.
Well done Meredith with the feeding! I swear I put Aston down to sleep and pick him again and he has developed a new dimple some where on his body - lol. I love chubby babies. both my other two were great feeders too, so its nice to know that I can do some thing well. L & N love their baby brother to bits, and are both great helpers. Nathan gets very emotional when he is cuddling his brother, I think he is overwhelmed with the way he feels about him. Its lovely. Good on you with going with what feels right too Meredith. Lots of people are going to offer you advice - unsolicited and otherwise. I remember when I was a first time mum that I took what worked for me, and discarded the rest. My ex MIL was the worst though! In the end I had to explain to her that things had changed dramatically since the 30 years that she had had kids, and I backed it up by saying "research has shown...." that usually shut her up. lol. I reckon the first 6weeks are the worst. You and bub are adjusting to each other, and the whole sleep thing just about send you around the bend! The suddenly you start to fall into some sort of rythm, and before you know it you are 5 months down the track wondering where it went to!
Kim - I bet you are looking forward to having DH around. It will give him a whole new appreciation for just how demanding these little bundles of love can be. I hope you can get some "me" time, and go and do something that is all about you!
LOL Christy to everyone being Matilda at the moment. I keep calling Aston Nathan, and even called DH Nathan and Laura. My brain is not functioning yet....brain cells are leaving my body via my breast milk I'm sure. I wonder if that will mean Aston will be super intelligent lol
Hope everyone else has had reasonalbe nights. Can you believe that it is 3 days til Christmas!!!!
WOW ONLY 3 SLEEPS TILL CHRISTMAS!!!
Well i;m glad to see that everyone is doing well
CHRISTY i hope wee Jovie gets all her wind out this year and starts fresh for the new year!! sorry to hear your also having problems 'down there' lets hope the new year brings good things for both of us
VICKY DD had the snuffles as well a few weeks ago, the fees and extractor worked a treat i also foung that tummy time helped bring the boggers down as well, saves the distress of saline squirts!!
KIMBAZ enjoy your trip to NSW it's so nice to see that Chelsea is sleeping longer fot you
BELINDA hope you dont mix up your presents for the boys or put the wrong name on them!!!
LUAA boy Ella is a real power feeder!! i bet you'll love having Andrew home, such a special time of year, hope you enjoy it
sophie with the warmer weather seems to have gone from 1/2 feed to an hour!! still sleeping very well at night, on average down at 9pm then feeds at 6am then back to bed for another 3 hrs which has been fantastic, were going to NSW over new year staying in a caravan with inlaws so dont know how that will effect routine but we'll see.
i took the first big stpe on Wednesday when i rang my MCHN ans asked for help as i think i may have PND, it was hard but she was fantstic with her advise and organised info for my to read through and boy things make sooo much sense now,\ with what i was feeling, still feel like i dont have the right to complain though, i have a fantasic baby and husband, i guess it strikes so ramdonly, so seeing dr on wednesday and will go from there. the night i sopke to MCHN was the first night i wasnt moody with DH, such a weight lifted off my shoulders.
well enough rambling from me hope you all have a fantastic christmas with your loved ones and that the new year brings all that you wish for!!!
AJP- Sorry to hear about the possible PND. But well done for taking the first big step of admitting you may have it. That always seems to be the hardest. I have 3 sisters and 2 (who happen to be identical twins)suffered badly of PND, but once they received the help they each needed it made a huge difference. You are lucky to have an understanding husband, it makes a huge difference. My think having understanding husbands was what helped my sisters also and having a close extended family. Good luck, and dont be afraid to talk about it as it will help.
Christy- My heart goes out to you with all the problems you and Jovie have been facing over the last few weeks. Hopefully all will be good soon. LOL at getting your brain back by 2020.
I hope everyone else is having a good spell being so close to xmas and all.
Baylee slept from 9.30pm-6.30am fed and went back to sleep til his ratbag brother woke him at 7.45am. Im sure he would have slept longer. He didnt sleep as much during the day as we were out and he was being passed from one person to the next and his reflux was bothering him a bit, so Im not sure if that was why he slept so long last night. Hope not coz it was wonderful, but OMG my boobs felt like they were going to explode this morning.
Well have a great day ladies, only 3 more sleeps YAY!!!
Hi AJP
Firstly well done on asking for help. That's the first step to being ok. I wish I had taken it alot earlier then I did. With my son Nathan, I was in denial for 8 months. I kept telling myself that "when this happened, or when this was over, things will improve" trouble was the thing would happen, or finish and nothing got better, and I just got worse. When I finally got help something that I did do was write down all the things that I think had contributed to my state of mind - other then the hormones of course, and identified the things I could do something about, the ones I couldn't and applied that well known prayer - you know the one... god grant me the strength to change the things I can, accept the things I cant and the wisdom to know the difference...or something like that.
The biggest difference I have found from when I had Nat 8 years ago to now, is that there is a lot more help out there. Even when I was pregnant this time around I was amazed at the questions I was asked when I went to my first antenatal visit, the whole screening test that is done now didn't happen 8 years ago. That in itself put my mind at ease, because getting PND again is something I am very conscious of, especially as I have a predisposition for it (I have also been treated for PTSD and Acute anxiety disorder - which both are all good at the moment)
Anyway AJP I just wanted you know that your not alone, and that "talking" helps heaps. Don't try to be superwoman, you are only human, and take one day at a time. and sometimes you just have to take one minute at a time.:hug:
thanks vicky, it's amazing although i have spoken to DH in recent weeks regarding my feelings i think to a degree we both though 'it' would pass. what made me really realise that maybe i did need dome help was on wed night i caught DH checking out my posts on BB looking for 'something' that would explain things because he realised that i did need help, now that is something he would NEVER EVER do, he doesnt snoop, so after talking to him again (after i had torn strips off him) in bed that night, id ecided that the best thing to do was to ask for help, thats when i rang my MCHN the next day, i had a good cry to her and she organised some more info inwhich i collected the next day.
what amazes me is that since then i honestly feel sooo much better already, i havent flown off the handle at DH for no reason, my mood is already better, all from just telling someone, i hate that i left it this long, but like you said i have made the first step and will speak to my DR next week. I just need to talk to someone to get my feeling out. i love that prayer it so true, my other quote is dont worry about things you cant control, i apply this to everyday life and it helps alot
thanks for your sharing your experience and wish you all the best for a very merry christmas.
PS have you really been feeding Aston for 6 months!!!!! amazing wonder women ..lol
you beat me!!!! you obvisously noticed as well, 3 weeks sounds much better
Opps I typed a post earlier & deleted it! URgh...
AJP with Matilda I had PND pretty badly & it was DH who picked it up. I too kept having reasons for feeling the way I did. And everyone agreed with me! Matilda had reflux, screamed 6-8 hours a day, fed every 2 hours for a minimum of 45 minutes... it was awful and I kept up a good face until I finally realised it was too much for me. And that was at 5 months... so good for you! Like Vicki said, try not to be super woman... there is no super woman, all babies do not sleep, and all do not feed regularly ;) Most of them cry and scream for some time during each day. It does not make you a bad mother. And if you do a load of washing in the day, you have done an amazing job!!
what i'm having trouble dealing with is the fact that i feel i have obsolutly nothing to complain about, DD sleeps through- 8-9 hrs every night and has been for 3 weeks, feeds well, doesnt cry except when hungry so there fore nothing to feel bad about...........i read what others, like yourself christy, are going through and thats when i think i have no right to feel depressed. i seem, so far, to have it pretty easy compared to others and feel guilty for even posting about it. alto of the issues i have is the lack of a good relationship that i have with my mum and my hugh fear that i wont have the bond that i desperatly want with my DD. mum didnt have a good relationship with her mum and so the cycle contineud with me, she has a great relaionship with my sister though she hasnt got a life and i am extremely happy with where i am in mine, it hurts that i constantly feel left out. i am the black sheep in my family but get along extremely well with my MIL which helps. hopefully with some help in the new year dealing with things and getting my 'down stairs' sorted out as well, things will get better.
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hanks again guys must go, my boobs are in demand..