tara. adjusting from going from a one child family to a two child family takes a little time. don't be too hard on yourself hun, its only been a few days! Laura was 2y8m when nathan was born, and she was lovely with him,. but bloody horrible to me. and I took it personally too! like christy and blanche suggested, special books, or tv shows. I managed to get the knack of feeding nathan, and reading laura a story. sometimes she would sit down and breast feed her baby doll. very cute. As blanche said it does get better - its just an adjustment time for all of you. be kind to yourself hun.
I went and caught up with my friends yesterday, and had a lovely cuddle with their precious daughter. Mummy is not having fun at all, understandably. Its hard enough adjusting to becoming a mum, let alone throwing serious health issues into the mix. It was so lovely to see them, and just sit. especially after the on going dramas of my sister, and her complete and utter f@ck ups.... sigh. i'm so over it, i'm not even bothering going into it other then to say, that we are now on the rage part of the cycle that is her life, which will be followed by something major happening, then slide into depression.... sigh. I know that she has major mental health issues, but it is how her kids are affected that upsets me so much.
congrats Jols on becoming a moderator btw
christy how goes the organising/packing etc etc?
Blanche - Jack all better now? he is so delightful, I love looking at his piccies, I just want to eat him up lol. cheeky little monkey. How is big sis going?
kim - just over two weeks to go til we find out if its a prince or a princess... or are you going to keep it a secret??
gigi - how goes everything in your world hun?
Ann - how's that baby x2 bump going? have you taken any pics of it yet?
nelly -
I don't thikn I have forgotten anyone...sorry if I have.
V ill be sharing the surprise with everyone this time as a way of dealing with it all...im 110% certain its a girl so need to get it out in the open now rather then when she is born.
V big to you, so sorry to hear about your friends daughter i couldnt even imagine what they must be going through..my thoughts are with them.
Jack is going well he is such a happy little man always smiling, so cheeky aswell!! he will be drinking his bottle and ill look down and he will be staring up at me with big eyes and a cheeky smile all while he is still trying to suck!!
Emelia is turning into such a big girl its quiet sad really that she is growing up so fast, but she is so much fun, always making us laugh, when i say no now she will turn around and point her finger at me and say no!!! (i didnt even know i did that!) last night Leigh was playing with her on the floor and she was looking through her book and Leigh grabbed it off her, she reaches over and says "dont touch my book" "no daddy" even pointing her finger lol. Leigh and i just looked at each other totally in shock!!!
Thanks guys, i'm dealing with it a bit better. I don't want to be melodramatic and i said this to DH too, it's almost like i'm "grieving" for our before baby life, but at the same time, i love this new baby so much and am guilty that i feel like that because he didnt ask to be brought into this world, neither did evie...oh i know i cant be supermum and i'm being too hard on myself.
Today i put Chino in the rocker on the floor in the kitchen while i made Evie some dinner, she goes up to him and does really gentle pats and kisses and then just pulls on his legs like she's going to pull him fair out of the rocker. then i get mad at her and i just crack. anyway, he's slept for hours so i got to do all evie's bedtime routine and i still just kept crying..at the drop of a hat. i eventually had some iced bun and felt better.
Which reminds me....does anyone remember what's normal for those early days? i know it won't last and i can't complain but chino sleeps for 4 hours at a time, has a wake and feed for around 2 or so hours and then is back asleep. I didnt want to get into the habit of waking him for feeds but i think i might have to.
plus he has a blocked tear duct which isnt very nice either. bm seems to make it stickier
anyways, sorry i havent done personals, will be back to my old self soon i hope
oh Tara take your time :P Don't rush back... its called babymoon because its all new again every time. It took us 6-8 weeks to remember that morning was morning, and arvo was arvo...
tara. adjusting from going from a one child family to a two child family takes a little time. don't be too hard on yourself hun, its only been a few days! Laura was 2y8m when nathan was born, and she was lovely with him,. but bloody horrible to me. and I took it personally too! like christy and blanche suggested, special books, or tv shows. I managed to get the knack of feeding nathan, and reading laura a story. sometimes she would sit down and breast feed her baby doll. very cute. As blanche said it does get better - its just an adjustment time for all of you. be kind to yourself hun.
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