Thanks for that Christy.....im a;ways being told my child is wild or ferel....im beginning to think ive raised her wrong.....ill plug along and know im doing things the right way and its just the age!
Man... IKWYM, my mum can't remember us ever having a tantrum. MIL says "oh well... .its all normal". Then she comments on every little move the girls make
Matilda's tantrums were labelled as extreme by GP's, paediatricians and social workers... so I felt better knowing that what she was doing was extreme, but at the same time everyone had to comment on how it was my fault in someway. Actually coming closer to a diagnosis of Asperger's gives me heaps of relief knowing there isn't much I could do for her anyway.
Jovie tantrums... I thought I was let off easy the second time around... but she does. She certainly knows what she wants & I think has learnt that if she has to have, she has to do something about it. Last night she finished dinner and left the table.... there was a lot of "Sit down Jovie" and a whole lotta "NO!" going on. DH started to get frustrated, but I said "nah, not our battle tonight" and let her go.
One of the best things a child psychologist said to me when Matilda was 2 was "Pick your battles". I kept saying "but but but" but he was right. He said your battle this week is "staying at the dinner table" and thats it. Unless its a safety issue, don't battle it. IF it is a safety issue say "you are going to the thinking chair because you didn't listen to mummy & its unsafe" and leave it there.... don't waste energy and time over those battles....
I forgot about that advice actually.... I think it will help with this move. Jovie's been a right turd, up again last night for a few hours. Matilda's been a gem in comparison!!! LOL... never thought I'd ever say that.
Ill right a list of battles!! Thanks for the advice....appreciate it.
Well im back from the hsopital, had my GD test, BumbleBee went crazy over the drink! Check up went good, measuring 32 weeks, BP was fine, Head down...only concern was odema and now im being watched closely. Go back in 2 weeks time.
good advice Christy - It helps to remind ourselves that sometimes we need to let them
"win".
i'm crap... ended up with aston's bug. and so did nathan and laura. they are on the improve, and I am still aching all over. hopefully tomorrow will bring sunshine and I will feel human again.
Bizarre Christy! I just gave DH the whole 'pick your battles' speech today!
yes, evie is fantastic at pushing my buttons, but i read an article somewhere (i'm desperately trying to find it now) about tantrums and how when toddlers do tantrum they are in a certain amount of physical pain but because they are so immature they just cant stop it...so us getting angry really just perpetuates it..sometimes its helpful to remember that when its happening and you can feel sympathetic...SOMETIMES lol
Hope all those sick bunnies are feeling better soon!
I cant believe we've rolled back round to birthdays again already!!!!!!
Have a great day with Sophie tomorrow Jols!!
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HAPPY 2nd BIRTHDAY SOPHIE!!!!
Yay Jols!! 2 years down....LOL
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