Tara hun, it is well within your right!! Every job with an award in Australia is given 2 x 10 minute breaks a day plus a lunch break!! If you add all of those up you can get a 6 hour day off a week at least. Don't feel guilty, you will be a better mummy! Its not as if you are putting her into care at 6 weeks old full time in order to stay home and watch soapies. Its completely different.
I don't have time off kids except work atm, and its wearing. Exhausting. Tonight I wanted to take the dogs for a walk by myself, but... alas that caused a huge tantrum from Matilda because it wasn't in the "routine" *groan*. ARGH!
Thanks Christy and Nelly (and msn V ) i am feeling more and more positive everyday. Its also a relief because now i know IF i have to go back to work sooner than i expected then it's not the massive devastating drama that i have been anticipating for the last 2 YEARS!!
Yes, i know i still have chi-chi to look after, but he sleeps so much that i could probably leave him in his cot all day - i shouldnt joke about that lol
Am desperately trying to work it out for wednesday Nelly!!!
Jovie is sooo cheeky. She drew all over our hallway walls while I was reading a book to Matilda. I have no idea how she even got the texta. Then she came in & said "draw mummy" my radar turned on straight away... She was so proud of herself she said "cheese" for me to take a photo!!!! So I did.... soooo cheeky. Luckily I am in a good brain space atm.
wow Christy what creativity! It makes me think maybe I should put all of the pens up they are sitting in his easel tray.... a disaster waiting to happen??
Hope all had a good weekend - we had a lovely family weekend and spent yesterday morning at Bribie Island. We must have caught the best few hours of the day because it was raining when we arrived, so we jagged a great park bcos everyone was leaving, and clouded over ready to rain when we left! I took J's new stacking pails and he had sooo much fun playing sandcastles in the sand. I tell you what tho I was pretty amazed at the number of funny looks I got - must be the sight of a pg belly in a skimpy bikini lol, that or my HUGE boobs which is one thing I love about being pg!
Put the xmas tree up late arvo after we all woke from our family nap and Jake loved the baubles - there is a special one which was the last decoration my mum bought (we used to buy a special one each year and slowly replaced the grotty childhood ones) and it was the first one Jake picked up. It's now Jake's ball! Everytime he goes near the tree he says "where's Jake's ball?" and looks until he finds it - we move it every now and then too!
I had the weirdest dream last night too - I woke up with a start someone was locked somewhere and screaming my name and bashing on the wall / door to get out but I have no idea who it was. The house was silent when I sat up so wasn't Jake. The beginning of the crazy pg dreams...
Ive had a great weekend. My IL's arrived Thursday....i was sick however...but MIL took care of Jasmine for me.
Friday FIL installed a water tank and MIL looked after the girls while i done nothing!
Saturday Craig and i went and seen Wicked (**** FANTASTIC!!!!!) and then we stayed in the city over night and had a great time. Yesterday we came home and cleaned our wardrobe that FIL fixed for us.
Today the IL's leave and its sad...
BTW Jols.....those door covers are great IF you dont have a smart child that works out how to open them with in 3 hours of them going onto the doors...
Ive been getting bad pains....im just keeping watch but i dont think its the 'right' kinda pains..LOL
I am so devastated by Kerryn McCann's death. I first read she had cancer when I was just pregnant with Chino and i have thought of her almost everyday since, praying and praying. 3 children who no longer have a mother and their father without his life's partner. Their poor baby will grow up never knowing his mother...I cant even think about it....
If all we have to worry about is kids not sleeping/eating/behaving/talking then we should be so lucky.
these last few weeks i have had such a fear of something happening to me or dh or our children and this has bought it home as to how lucky we are.
lets all hug our kids extra tight tonight. theres no substitute for mothers
It seems like ages since I've been here. I got Nelly's text last week and it was great to get as it was a reminder you havent forgotten about me! (not to mention it came at just the right time)
Long story short. We had early contractions a few weeks ago. Was admitted to hospital as Twins and my Graves Disease puts me at risk of having a pre-term baby. Got some steroid shots and relaxants to stop the contractions. Had to stay for 48hrs. After that they found that I had a shortening cervix (maybe from the contractions) so I had to stay another 3 days. Was discharged last week and have been on bed rest at home with progesterone pessaries to strengthen my uterous.
I dont think my body is designed for Twins! LOL but we are doing well. They are both a great weight and coz they are girls they will do well if they were to be delivered early. (girls do better than boys) Each baby is the size of a single baby at this gestational age so no wonder they are giving my uterous a run for her money!!!!
Its SO hard to be on bed rest. Absolutely boring. I went from working my A@#se off before this happened and now BANG i have to rest. Suppose its a good thing.
I gotta admit i havent been feeling *connected* to this preganancy as I've just been so busy but now I have time to navel gaze. (literally)
tara - I had a weep too about Kerryn's death. Such a strong woman.
Kim - sounds like things are moving for you! We are trying to hold the babies in for another 8-10 weeks!
Ella is all grown up. She has been really affected by me being in hospital. She has become very dependant on her dummy and needs it all the time. She now wants to have the door open at night so she can hear us. Poor sausage. Still she knows why I'm resting. She comes home from CC and comes over and kisses my tummy (mummy's double babies).
Hi Ann! So glad to see you back - I am glad all is ticking along ok! I know how frustrating bed rest can be - I spent at least the full first trimester and some of the second on bed rest w Jake. My staple was Sudoku and trashy novels, but I also managed to start sorting a heap of photos too.
Poor Ella - if it makes you feel any better Jake hasn't been much better either and I think it was exacerbated by our week in Hong Kong w/out him - in fact last night is the first night in at least 2 months that he has slept in his own bed ALL night WITHOUT WAKING!!!! Yay! Of course I woke at least 5 times to pee and waiting for him to wake up!
Tara - we were shocked by news of Kerryn McCann's death too. So sad - her youngest is just over 1 yo.
Keep thise legs crossed kim!
Hi Jols!
Hi Gigi - my gosh Bilby is so beautiful! You have done a great job and she looks no different or less healthy than any other kid so don't change what you are doing!
Vicky read your blog - big hugs for you xxxx don't forget the retreat offer at chez nelly
Christy - how was operation clean up texta? maybe you need to turn that tank tap on again and let them go crazy in the mud!
Me - I am personally a little disheartened atm w/- some of the BB community. Made a *vent* post which most of you have prolly seen about my frustration w the $1000 bonus and how my bil exP will waste it for the 4 kids who are not even in her care most of the time. It was a vent not designed for debate hence why I posted it in the boohoo room and I was just shocked and upset by some of the nasty comments going around. It has turned into this massive debate and all I wanted was to get something off my chest in a non-judgemental forum. I was so upset I could not believe it... I was called self-centred amongst other things and it just really hurt... Poor Vicky copped me in tears on the phone - all she needs right now - and I have since unsubsribed to the thread bcos everytime I read a new post it made me more upset.
On a good note Jake slept the whole night through so we are on the up and up!
Nelly - shake it off hun, shake it off. don't let a few silly people mouthing off take away the good things that you have gotten from here (she says coyly pointing to herself )
Hi everyone else - i'm here - just. I'm reading and lurking, but just don't have the energy to post anything. I'm so sad, and despondant at the moment, that just getting through the day is hard enough. I was laying on the bed with aston tonight, silently listed the things that I am grateful for, to help shift my focus - and the biggest thing I am grateful is the gift of my children - of the honour of having them in my life, and the opportunity to be beside them as they journey through this world.
I'm glad nelly. I would miss you terribly. I feel so lucky and glad to have met you & the girls in my Belly Buddies... I do. We are a special lot!
Vicky but a big squishy hug.
Us... I just had an emotional blackmail conversation with my mother, who is coming out for 6 weeks soon, and then both girls have screamed for the last 20 minutes since I've gotten off the phone..... not a good start to the day.
My mum... she said she was coming out & I said "Great!" Then I said I'm working 12 hour days between Christmas and New Years and could she come out the first week of Jan. So yesterday she sent her itinerary and its Dec 28th... I work the 28th, 29th, 30th, 31st.... 12 hour days. So I phoned today and said that, she said "oh, so you want me to cancel my tickets? You don't want me there" *groan* 45 minutes later, we finished the conversation with me saying "I'm sorry mum, I DO want you to come out, I just won't be able to see you the first 4 days except after 7.30pm when I will be tired" What a great way to start the whole thing She's here for 6 weeks. EEEEEKkkkkk!!!!
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Nelly, i think when you make a cake with
- one cup of very tired women who are too tired to read original posts very carefully and might only pick up HALF of what you said, and go off on a tangent
- half a cup of hormones going mental due to preg, post baby etc
- add these dry ingredients to a bowl of anythign to do with money
it can all turn mucky VERY fast. So that is not an indictment on you, i think it's just circumstances.
and often stuff that COULD be worked out very quickly IRL "but i meant......" - whereas in cyberspace, no poster is told "you are misunderstanding me" when they write their reply, they're off on their solliquoy - cos that's how forums work. it's not interactive.
so please don't leave Nelly!
Christy - was it your mum who had serious health issues early this year?
i am cringeing for you, that you so clearly explain about the dates, and she just ignores you - eeek!
is she staying AT your home, or nearby? or using your home as a base for flights off around Australia to sightsee?
has she come to visit before? i detect you holding your hands over your eyes, like you know what's coming!!!
is she good with the girls? does she get on with your dh?
good luck!!
Vicky - thinking of you and the DN situation hon. relatives - they make fiction sound boring!!
Gigi - Bilby is just gorgeous!!!! Can i ask you, and please dont get offended or take this any other way than me just asking - are you or dh south african? i went to school with a girl who was south african and my goodness, the likeness between her and bilby is uncanny
Christy - what a shame about your mum - mothers!!! cant live with 'em, cant live without 'em!!!
Nelly - dont be disheartened about people - gigi put it really well i think with her cake analogy
Ann - Glad to hear you are all doing well. i wouldnt worry about ella with her dummy and needed the door left open, it'll be good if those comforts will transfer when the babies do arrive so she feels a bit of consistency - not that you wouldnt offer it to her, but thats something thats HERS and i'm sure she'll appreciate that!
Jols...anyone home? where are you? yooooouuuu-whhhooooo?
Helllllooooooo everyone else...i gotta get out of this room BLECH, hot and yucky here today
Vicky - dont worry about lurking at least you are keeping a handle on reality with all the things you are blessed with.
Kim - you still around? more pains?
Nelly - thanks Nelly I've been doing a lot of reading, online shopping and dropping into the hospital for scans. things have settled so that's good news.
Tara - YOur absolutely right. We have to try and get her to settle and make sure she has what she needs for emotional support. She's very close to DH now which is fantastic and she loves to cuddle the "Double babies" in mummy's tummy.
Gigi - going to check out Bilby's new pics now...!
Still here Ann.....pains still come and go...i have to go to hospital tomorrow at 11am anyhow to get checked out. 36 weeks today and cant come quick enough
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) i am feeling more and more positive everyday. Its also a relief because now i know IF i have to go back to work sooner than i expected then it's not the massive devastating drama that i have been anticipating for the last 2 YEARS!!
oh hun.... there have been so many debates about that & everytime someone posts, it brings out all the nastiness....
She's here for 6 weeks. EEEEEKkkkkk!!!!
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