Wow the 2nd one Jols def makes you look different!!! Still cute though :)
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Wow the 2nd one Jols def makes you look different!!! Still cute though :)
Ok, am i the only one like this?! I know it's normal for them to be difficult at this age but this is beyond it. everything is a battle, everything ends in tantrums and tears...both me and evie. I just lose my temper so quickly because i am just worn down.
Oh i just read your post Nicola...I have a history of depression too and feel like its starting to get on top of me now. i have tried sorting it out on my own too, and will keep trying but i told dh today i am ready to walk away. my family is all in perth and there are 2 other grandchildren around the same age as evie so we dont get any alone time together at all
I hear ya Tara.....im at my wits end and im getting no where...nothing is working. Some days i ask why i had kids.....what am i doing wrong....why do i have a devil child. Im always getting comments how wild she is.....makes me feel great :(
Hi
Taralee it is hard when you have no family around and things are getting on top of you.....I just have to try and find some positives in the negatives and tell myself when Im down and wondering why I had kids that this wont last forever its just a phase and before we know it the kids will be grown up
also today I looked at Zander when he was mid-tantrum and thought how could he be my child, what have I done wrong?? or is there something mentally wrong with him???
:grouphug:
thought that was in order.
god I remember going from being the parent of one child to being the parent of two... and how incredilby overwhelming it was. we had moved from sydney to the sunshine coast, away from all our friends, and family (not that that was a bad thing!)not long after we moved here I fell pregnant with Nathan, and laura turned two... wasn't that fun!??!!! NOT - for the first three months of my pregnancy I was living on the sunshine coast by myself with a terrible two year old, and morning sickness that lasted 24 hrs a day. It wasn't until Nathan was 8 months old, and I found myself screaming at both of the kids, and locking myself in the bathroom sobbing, that I knew i had to do something.
talk talk talk... ask for help. if someone offers take it up. i hate that we have lost our sense of community. we may not be a physical community, but we are still a community of sorts. while we may not be able to do physical things for each other, we can be ears to listen. even being a voice on the end of the phone is immensely helpful. I have been the voice at the end of the phone for Nelly, Jols and christy. and Nelly and Christy have done the same for me. even if it is just to get you through the screaming times... when you need to refocus before you loose it totally.
Nelly - your beautiful hun. and that woman did have a tummy (and just quietly I think our boys were so amazing, and well behaved!!!!!!!) love you x
Nicola - you haven't done anything wrong babe - he is doing exactly what he should be doing. i know its incredibly hard, but try to disengage. try to remove the emotion out of it. I know it may sound easy for me to say it, aston is my third. most of the time (and I say most of the time- not all of time!) I can disengage from his tantrums. I say to him. yep buddy I know its tough, but that's how it is, and go about my business. as long as he isn't in any physical danger, i basically ignore it. disappear into my happy space. Nelly saw him chuck it today, because he couldn't have the whole container of grapes. when he didnt get the attention he was demanding - the fact that we ignored how he was behaving, he got over himself very quickly.
:hugs: as well.
We have tanties and stuff, but I guess compared to Matilda its mild. Jovie's one thing is following us around screaming to be carried. Always at times when you need both hands. When we say no, she gets on the ground and sobs and screams. You'd think we've been hurting her :rolleyes:.
I used to have such a hard time when Matilda was this age. Seriously, I would be crying on the ground daily. I felt like such a failure as a mum. Matlida would harm herself seriously, if I said "no" she would run into a corner, like a table corner or a wall corner, until she bled. She would hold her breath until she passed out and she would try to escape everytime she was outside. She refused to be held or cuddled and would scream 6 hours a day. I am NOT saying she was more difficult than other children, just that it sucked big time for me. I had no family around & friends didn't know how to help me or what they could do other than offer advice at what I was doing wrong. We went to a Triple P course which helped with parenting and a few strong willed child seminars. We started going to indenpendant parenting counselling sessions weekly. It was full on. Only NOW... 2 years later we realise that she may have Asperger's. It all makes sense what she was doing.
Tara - FYI... She's been positively diagnosed with sensory integration issues and low muscle tone, but the ASD diagnosis is a bit further off. We moved and they wanted to do some more assessments which we couldn't do, so we are being transfered down here, and are on a waiting list for next year.
There have been definate days with Matilda where I have locked her in her room & stood outside breathing to get through it. We had to make her room like a padded room between 2yrs and 3yrs. So she could throw herself around & not hurt herself. She would recoil when we touched her.
Hi
Its good to know Im not the only one going through or has gone through this.
Zander does the intentional hurting himself sometimes....if he is near a wall when I say he cant have something he will just head butt the wall and if I say stop you will get a sore head he does it again...he is definitely strong willed.
He is also throwing things and hurting Wyatt. If there is an object in reach and he wants what he cant have he will just throw the object..whatever it is eg remote control,cup,fork and it will go flying. He intentionally rams his toys(big firetruck) into Wyatt and the other day he ran over the top of Wyatt in his peddle car, I heard Wyatt screaming and I went into the bedroom and he was sitting on top of wyatt who was face and head down. We put him straight into his bed when he is naughty till he calms down...we have put a nice mattress and pillow inside a portacot - its not as long as a normal cot but the sides are higher and its wider and he cant get out.......I am going to attempt the big boy bed in the new year.
Does he understand that he can hurt at this age????? or does he think its funny???
i just wanted you all to know that I haven't disappeared off the face of the earth, and I am practising what I preach... I'm letting you know what is going on in my world at the moment... read my blog. its explains it, and i just cant type it again.... so if you don't see me about... that is why.
Oh V i dont know what to say hun.....huge hugs is all i can do.....your a strong chick....take care of yourself as well ok? Im sorry you have to deal with that and all the best for your neice too.
V- im so sorry, huge :hug: for u and ur poor neice its just not fair, i hope everything goes well for her, im glad she has u V :hug: take care of yourselves
oh V :hug:
hugs hun you know I'm only an hour away xxxxx
awwww vicky hun im so sorry this has happened, but glad she is safe in your loving arms, i only hope that is where she stays
There is a good reason your niece rang you Vicky. In this whole crazy chaotic world she survives in, she knows she can trust you and that you will listen to her.
How are you today V?
Well had hossy appointment today....being sent for further tests on blood....they think i prob have GD....just great....3rd baby and everything falls to bits on me. Head very much engaged and head down....feel blah and so worried.
Have my scan this Sunday. The girls have combined birthday party on Saturday too!
Thanks my beautiful friends for the support. i'm ok. just keep doing things that keep me here in the NOW. my neice is doing ok. swinging from being distressed to being ok. I know being out of the chaos is a relief for her. just being able to do "normal" things like paint her toenails with Laura, and watch mama mia, and do teenage type things. dh has been amazing. he hates speaking on the phone yet has spoken to child safety on two seperate occasions, made up her bed in laura's room so that she felt safer, just came and said to me, "going to go over to the shopping centre this morning, and take L and Aston and Nathan. Thought I would get L something, to say thank you for doing jobs around here. might make her feel a bit better". Making me cry just thinking about it.
we have an appointment with Child safety on Monday. one day at a time is all we can do. so we are going to have fun this weekend. and deal with Monday on Monday.
Kim - I had GD with Aston. so if you have any questions hun ask away. :hug:
awww v your post gave me goosebumps :hug: glad she feels safe.
Ohhhh less then 20 hours til my scan!!
The girls had a great time at their little party....Chelsea had lots of fun playing with My friends little girl. And for the big news....Jasmine took 2-3 steps and was standing un-aided!!!!!!!!
thats exciting Kim. she will be running around before you know it! how exciting about your scan. I'm sure that bumblebee is definately a little boy.
I had a book party to do today, and Laura had her first mixed party (eek!) so DH took DN and the boys to the shopping centre. He picked up some sheets for aston, and gave DN some money to get herself a top. He said that she had a big grin on her face when he gave her the money, and was very thankful. She is starting to talk to him more, and even play a little which is a good indicator that she is feeling more comfortable and safe. She has major issues with men, so it makes me feel great that she is feeling safe with DH.
It was great to have some time out today for myself. the party i did was for very good friends, so it wasn't work - it was so lovely to spend time with them. I didnt leave until 2pm. Was just what I needed to do.
Tomorrow we are going to the beach and catching up with another BB friend and her daughter. so looking forward to seeing her. She has asked me to be present at the birth of her baby, I feel so incredibly priviledged and blessed to be a part of this.
Aston is asleep in his big bed tonight. he slept in it for his day sleep yesterday and today. we read stories on his bed tonight, and I asked him if he wanted to sleep there, and he said in a quiet little voice.. yis... and snuggled down into bed. feeling a little teary.. my little man is growing up.
BTW girls if you are interested in wanting to see what it is that I'm selling please let me know and I can send you catalogues.
thank you again for helping in keeping me grounded. it means a lot. x
V if you could send me one that would be great. I have a friend who does it...but still hasnt sent me any info but i know how busy she is and never online much to ask her...dont want to pester to much!
Thats so sweet of DN and Dh bonding....thats really great that she feels safe and wants to warm to him. How cute is Aston and his bed. Chelsea loves going to bed...its always a quick 'night Mummy' and the head snuggles into the pillow!
Happy Birthday Bilby!!!!
Gigi I hope you had a beautiful & restful day today :D
:happybirthday: Happy 2nd Birthday Bilby :happybirthday:I hope you have a great day Sweetheart!
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Iforgot to update on my scan...this the rundown:
BumbleBee is a BOY!!!! :dance:
Well there was no mistaking it....BumbleBee is definately a boy....we got the money shot in all its glory.
Heres how it went:
D (them): So do we know what bub is?
K (me): Yep when we were here last it was confirmed a girl
D: Well lets pick some girl music for your DVD
(Craig and i pick girl and boy..JIC)
K: Ok cool we have our girl songs and a few boys JIC
D: Ill start the girl music cos im pretty sure we were confident it was a girl
K: Ok then (hides smirk)
*Sonographer* 'Hold on D with the music.....'
K: Do we have a problem?
D: Ummmm no not a problem...but i am going to make you both very happy
K: Oh? *silently giggling cos i seen their faces drop knowing that they had stuffed up*
D: You are actually having a son...congrats
Craig and i act all surprised... :D
Took some face pics but he was using my placenta as a pillow so we were sent for a walk and then came back and he had moved....but gone to sleep....so after some prodding finally got a few pics....not the best cos he is a bit shy and wanted to cover his face with his hands then.
But...he looks soooooo much like Jasmine! Gorgeous little thing indeed.
Ill post some pics when i work out how to get them off the DVD...ive not had a look yet so might be easy..not sure!
You ok Nelly????
vicky so glad DN is warming to DH!! goodluck tomorrow!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BILBY!!
WOW awesome news kim!!!!!!!!!!!!!
nelly whats up hun?? you ok?
sophie is sick, spiked a 40.1 temp and is already in bed asleep no dinner, wonder what the next few days will hold
Aw get better soon Sophie....poor chicken
had a massive storm here last night. did it get you Tara and Nelly?
yay Kim - a little boy... awwww.
Happy Birthday to Little Bilby. Hope you and Mummy and daddy had a lovely day yesterday. :hug:
Hi everyone else. off to child safety this morning with DN. hmmmm.
Goodluck this morning V :hug: You are a strong woman to be helping her through this.
Us... well, we are getting there. I still need a wardrobe & getting to the place that I have given up hope of funky ones and will take anything we can afford just to get the piles of clothes off the ground.
Jovie and Matilda have settled in really well here. Jovie starts her new centre tomorrow and its scary because she's always been in family day care. Matilda starts school tomorrow!!! OMG.... I know its weird starting mid term and she's not even old enough yet, but mentally it will be the best thing for her. She doesn't cope in large centres & we can't afford the Montessori around the corner, but her school she's enrolled in next year is so good they have offered to have her start now rather than have to sort something else out and then change things again next year! Crazy stuff.
hi girls
happy birthday bilby, hope the second year round for you sits better gigi and you are coming to terms with her birth
well done kim officially a boy yay!
good luck V call if you need me
we have croup / asthma flared up again, I 've managed to hurt my back lugging plastic around this weekend and sleep is currently a luxury in our house. all good tho!
love yas xxxx
helllllllllllllooooooooooooooooooo!
are you bored darlin?
thanks for all the birthday wishes for bilby
her party was a success, i am so drained now, just want to sleep for a week. it was such a tiny party really, but big for me (to organise and prepare and set up).
Kim, i have no idea how you kept a straight face with the sonographers!!
Nelly, congrats
Vicky - keep us posted.
Christy - maybe funky wardrobes will turn up later in the piece? is there a Sydney "Freecycle" yahoo group? Wow, Matilda at Big School! Hope Jovie likes her childcare place.
i'm about to find out if our CCC will let me continue to breastfeed bilby, now she's two and about to go into PreKindy Room, leaving the Under Two's room at the end of this year. My PND social worker was very adamant that i shoudl NOT be bf-ing bilby at this age, at childcare. but it's the first thing she asks for when i go to collect her. i walk in with her sippy cup and offer her that, but she says no, and asks for a breastfeed. I saw the PND social worker talking to the CCC director today, and they went quiet as soon as i walked thru that part of the building. I don't understand the opposition.
i took in organic vanilla icecream for bilby's birthday at CCC today, i'm trying so hard to take in something healthy and yummy for the kids and the reaction from the workers is that i brought in some weirdo stuff. The kids loved it though.
oh Gigi *pffft* to them yet again! I would actually be complaining about the PND social worker! WT? You are getting joy from feeding Bilby? Why take that away???
As for healthy food, its hard. At Matilda's Montessori, one of the mum's cut a watermelon into a basket shape with melon balls inside it for a birthday. It was beautiful! Another decorated cruskets with things... we had allergy free things, so you had to check the allergies for the room and then could bring whatever you liked. I brought icy poles for Matilda's goodbye day. The fruit ones ;)
Its NOT weird. Its wonderful.
Our new CCC encourages people to bring in cakes *groan* That means my kids get left out of every cake except the ones I make. I may stock their freezer with some cupcakes for Jovie.
Woohoo on a good party Gigi...any pics of it? The cake sounds yummy too! I agree with Christy on the CCC...thats wrong....id keep BF...its what Bilby knows and wants..so do it :D
Hows the house settling in Christy...is everyone healthy again?
Hope everyone else is going well...anyone heard from Ann and how the twins are going?
AFM: Not much happening here. MIL goes home tonight *huuuge cry* but will be back on the 4th Dec to take the girls to her place for a week (OMG how am i going to let my babies goooo). Im still in awe over my little mans scan....i cant wait to hold him now....of course im so scared cos i have no idea how to care for a boy....eeeek! I have my GD test again on Thursday (will come to you V for help if it all turns out nasty and i have it..LOL).
I better go...the whole house is awake..except Craig and i need to get the girls organised for FDC!
Scan pics are back from 4D scan:
- BumbleBee | Facebook
great pics kim! I need to post my nts scan pics - I couldn't believe we got 3D pics!
Well it seems im doing something right with the girls....their check up went really well! CHN was impressed with how far Jasmine has progressed in the last 6 months, and loves how advanced Chelsea is and amazed how active and how much a chatterboc she is....so i say thats thumbs up all round!!
New stats (19/11/08)
Chelsea - 24 months
Weight: 13kg
Length: 86cm
HC: 46cm
Jasmine - 12 months
Weight: 11kg (OMG....and thats just from milk and the last 4 weeks small things like yoghurt, jelly, custard...not 'real' solids yet)
Length: 78cm
HC: 45.5cm
So the difference between C and J:
Weight: 2kg
Length: 8cm
HC: .5cm
great news Kim!