functioning on 3 hours of broken sleep. those storms were mega and DH had to drive home from Brisbane in them so i didnt sleep until he got home at 2am :(
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functioning on 3 hours of broken sleep. those storms were mega and DH had to drive home from Brisbane in them so i didnt sleep until he got home at 2am :(
oh Tara, i'm glad your dh is ok! no wonder you coudln't sleep until he got home.
have we got any brissy people? is gold coast close to brissy?
will vicky be in affected areas?
Us: apart from damm vandals who have cost us $1,000 in three weeks, and nasty neighbour making threats, we are ok. bilby went to Gymbaroo today again and loved it, although 3.5 yo boy with autism, who doesn't know his own strength, hurt her arm, literally dragging her around by her arm, until i saw it and yelled STOP, sprinted to scoop her up and rescue her (he towers over her). i'm not sure he realised what he was doing, but she was so upset, she clung to me for rest of session. The boy reacts to certain foods, his mum has him on Failsafe, but yesterday, someone gave him a food he shouldn't have, and his behaviour was all over the place, as a result. His poor mum was so embarrassed.
i am finally getting bilby's photos done on Sunday - luckily i paid for it BEFORE second vandalism attack, otherwise i might have called it off. (insurance excess x 2 + $1,000 that we didn't expect). I organised a photographer so it will happen this time. am all ready with denim shorts and white tops for bilbs as i've been told is a good place to start. botanic gardens is where they will be done.
Family Assistance Office want the entire sum they gave me (over five grand), for 06/07 BACK, because dh hasn't put in a tax return for that year yet. He has a list of excuses a mile long for why it isn't done. i dont' know what i can say to get him to do it. I can't do it, or ask an accountant to do it, cos i don't have the group certificate and superannuation documents for that year. otherwise, i would just take those thigns to the nearest accoutnatnt and just say Please do this pronto to get me out of trouble with centrelink etc. and pay for it to be done. This huge debt is in MY name, because of something dh did not do. he's supposedly been wroking on his tax for eight months now!!!
oh Gigi :hug: OMG
Tara :hug: mate if you need to phone or vent or scream or cry its okay. I hope you are okay. I found the first year with Jovie to be really hard. Having two.
We still own our house in Brissy.... I wonder if its still okay...
we've had a lot of rain, thunder, lightning, winds but we're all safe...i would assume v is flooded in...
thanks christy, thanks to the storm last night i switched around my bedtime routine which worked a treat, so much less stressful.
bbl...a pooing baby on my lap and a lovely toddler pulliung my handbag apart. typing one handed aint easy
oh sorry gigi...what happened with the vandals? i missed that. good job on the photographer...poo about dh's tax return!
i'm not flooded in yet. the creek is very high, and if we get more storms as they are predicting, good chance that we will be. oh well. i'm getting used to it now. :)
Hi Everyone
Kim...You are so lucky having a boy after 2 girls!!! I wouldnt mind having another bub and I would love a girl but the odds arnt to favourable..after 2 boys!!! did you guys try anything like timing intercourse etc to tip the odds??? Im tracking my cycle as we are using natural family plannng. I have been looking at the shettles method etc but there are a couple of conflicting theories....has anyone tried any of these????
Im taking Zander to lollipops playland for his birthday next friday and I have ordered him a bob the builder birthday cake..we wont be having a party as we dont really know any other kids, my parents are coming up from brisbane for his birthday and we will be going to the aquarium and to magnetic island together so that should be fun.
Anyway its been getting really warm and muggy here...over 30deg during the day and an overnight low of 26.....so my daily mission is to keep everyone cool and make sure the boys are having enough fluid..better go hope everyone is doing ok..bye for now
Hugs Tara...
Not good about the vandals Gigi...little buggers arent they. Poor Bilby being pulled by the arm..is she ok now?
Glad your not flooded in (yet) V!
Nicola we did gender sway for a boy this time and was a bit worried id muddled the timing up....but i guess i was spot on!! My GP says its easier to get a girl then it is a boy.....so give it a go, can only end up with a 3rd DS! I was actually told at 19 weeks i was having a girl....then at 21 weeks a boy!
AFM....just got home fromt he hospital...im GD free!! Yeehaw! Bub going well...the OB said from feeling around bub is going to be small....(ill believe it on D day...), still head down and engaged. Asked about delayed cord clamping and she was impressed i was even considering it!
whats delayed cord clamping sbout kim?
Its not clamping the cord until it stops pulsating. Jovie's cord wasn't clamped until it stopped pulsating. My midwives were all super happy to hear it... one asked me about lotus birth, but I wasn't prepared to carry around a placenta until the cord fell away.
Yep Tara what Christy said....
Im thinking of delayed clamping and then they can jab me to get the placenta out...i was thinking of a physcological (sp?) end to what i haope is a great birth but i want the placenta out soon after the cord has stopped....so a middle ground to 3 different options....
1. Active management
2. What i want
3. Delayed clamping and let nature take its course delivering the placenta
I could never do lotus!!! Eww!!
I would of delayed the cord clamping if I hadnt had two emergency c-sections...it just wasnt part of the deal:protest:
i wanted delayed clamping, and to leave the vermix on bilby for a few days. to have bilby put on my stomach and to have her first feed straightaway, no being taken away for checks, the checks to be done on her whilst she's on my stomach/chest. and candlelight, not bright lights. soft music. few people. The circus (ambulance ride followed by emergency c-section) stopped any of that.
my nightmare has multiplied. i now am in debt for nearly 20k, all down to dh not filing last two year's tax returns. he has no idea why i am so devastated. i have NEVER been in debt before. Now i will be a person with a bad credit rating. i've never had a loan before, but that's not the point. he hasn't apologised, just told me off for losing weight - conveniently avoiding the fact that that's what happens when i'm under stress - the stress he's putting me thru. Sexually Transmitted Debt i think you call this. the person who loves me, his actions impacting on me and bilby. all i ever hear is, don't nag me, the tax is being done. i'm so sick of hearing that lie.
if i had his group certificates and super documents (the essential stuff), i would take them to an accountatnt and pay for the two returns to be done. just to have this over. instead, he won't look for the important documents, won't ask for copies from pay office and super funds, just ****es around with a database with all the ****y receipts for work related expenses. the non-essential stuff.
i would really miss you lot if i did not have a computer. if i leave him, i will have no computer. the stress of his financial irresponsibility is wearing me down. but bilby is so bonded to him and he is very good with her. i am so torn. if i go, i go without whitegoods, bed, prolly only cot for bilby. i feel sick with worry.
makes the two vandal attacks on his car ($1,000 in insurance excesses), and the threats from the behind us neighbour (dh won't tell cops), pale into comparision.
Hi Gigi
Sorry to hear that you husband is being so selfish and mean...I couldnt imagine what you must be feeling and it to all be over a stupid tax return..that can be easily filed!!!!
Do you have any family that can help out if you wanted to leave him???? I can understand not wanting to leave because of Bilby, but it comes down to weighng up the pro's and con's. I have been very close to leaving DH a few times (due to us arguing constantly and lack of support from him) I wouldnt even have a car if I left...its not just as simple as packing up and walking out the door is it.
Can you explain the situation to Centrelink..maybe they might know of somewhere where you can get some help/councelling????
Gigi....i dont understand why your the one copping it when its DH that hasnt done the return....hmm but then again i know Centrelink is in my name....so i guess the burden falls to me if we over estimate and have to pay them money back too. Far out babe...id be doing what Nicola said, speak to Centrelink and see how they can help....how do they expect YOU to pay somethign back if you dont work and earn the money (is DH working...did he get that job ages back?).
You can come live with me and my feral bunch :)
:comfort: gigi
I so know that feeling of not knowing what to do. Its how I felt before I left the exH. I was desperately unhappy, but felt so incredibly guilty about taking the kids away from their father. In the end it was me ending up in hospital that pushed my decision. His complete lack of ability to support me in a time when I needed support more then I had ever needed was the clincher. He also ended up giving me a centrelink debt, because he lied, and said that he had the kids for a certain amount of time when he didnt. for me to prove otherwise required more energy then I had, we were at court already regarding visitation, so I let it go. I discussed with centrelink that I was unable to pay back the amount that they had set, and we negotiated a lesser amount per fortnight.
Would your DP go to counselling? sometimes having that third person can lend some objectivity to the situation and can help him to HEAR what you are saying. I wish I could say something to make it better hun. thinking of you :hug:
Gigi hugs for you
I know that spiralling out of control feeling when debts and bills start to pile up and there is no way out... I have no suggestion re leaving DH except this:
as most of you know my childhood was a constant spiral of debt and debtors, alcoholism and abuse in all forms and I always remember thinking about my mum's actions -why the hell do you just not leave. When we were adults and she finally left him after 30 years of crap I asked her why she took so long. Her answer was that she was scared that if she left him it would only be with her clothes and her 5 children and nothing else. No car, fridge, beds etc. She also said in hindsight if only she knew there were people and places out there who help women in this position - regardless of the situation being alcoholism, abuse, neglect, bankruptcy etc. - if only she was more aware and proactive.... As an adult I only wish she had have left years and years earlier so that SHE had more quality life than she did. Kids survive and adapt, you need to think about you.
Hmmmm regarding the debt ring centrelink and talk to them, even better go to a family service office and they can lay it on the table for you and you can open the dialogue with a view to resolution.
Big hugs hun xxx
Gigi - big big hugs to you. I agree with what the girls have said so far and i'm glad that you feel you can turn to us. This ol' internet thing really is a lifeline at times.
I agree, talk to centrelink..they are meant to be there to help!
I know you said this debt isnt your fault, but i'm pretty sure when DH had trouble with tax debt a few years ago (young and naive lol - we just sold his car to pay it off - a stupid decision in the end!) anyways, he since found out that he could pay the debt back over time - he didnt have to pay it out as a lump sum. and i know the amount wasnt much. it was an $8000 debt that he could pay back at $6 a week or something stupid like that. I'm not saying that i think you should have to pay it back - but if it comes down to the wire thats always something you can look into.
I also agree with nelly. There's no point in staying for the sake of bilby if the quality of life is crap. if you are constantly arguing then thats not a good environment at all for her.
I guess it comes down to - do you feel that YOU want to put the effort in? do YOU want to make it work with DH?
It's worth reading 'men are from mars, women are from venus'. we are COMPLETELY different species. I guarantee your DH's non-commital attitude towards this debt is because he feels guilty and embarrassed for putting you in this situation. In all honesty - he probably doesnt know what to do about it and feels stuck.
I'm not making excuses for his behaviour - just offering possible reasons.
Anyway, hope thats of some help ;)
Oh re: cord clamping. I wish I had known about it! I probably should have done a bit more research LOL oh well...i guess i did my best. no drugs and waterbirths have to account for something!!! lmao
(just making myself feel better) hahaha
LOL Tara, don't worry about it! You don't know unless someone tells you... and I only heard about it from the books I was reading about VBAC's.
hoo hummmmm...where is everyone??????
lalalalala........*sigh* alrighty....
hiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
I'm here eating chocolate chatting to v on msn
i'm here too. just a little consumed with stuff....
when I pick aston up from day care I ask him did you have a good day, and he says yes. well today, I asked him and then talked to him about what he did (prompted from what was written in the book at day care) a little bit later he says to me "mummy" and I say yes? "did you have a good day?" lol funny little man. made me all warm and fuzzy. tonight after reading stories in bed (i love the big bed for that - his favourite is Magic Beach - alison lester.) i laid down next to him, and as I'm patting his bottom, he starts stroking my hair... i can't believe my little boy is two on saturday. where has the last two years gone???
Horror day here.....the earlier i put my girls to bed at night..the worst they are through the day....no more early bed times for them. In saying that, Craig put Chelsea to bed at 750 tonight cos she asked to go! I went out to the movies, gold class...had a nice time!
Its past midnight here (i know not yet in WA Blanche..) but i thought id post while i remembered:
:happybirthday: Happy 2nd Birthday Emelia :happybirthday:
I hope you have a great day Sweetheart!!
Thanks Kim!! cant believe my little baby girl will be 2 tomorrow :( 2 years ago this time i was in hospital in labour!! cant wait to see her face in the morning when she sees all her pressies!!
Happy Birthday Emelia. And happy Birthing day Blanche! Make sure you reach over and pat yourself on the back today hun - Its been a full on two years babe, and your doing amazing.
Is Jack crawling yet? looks like it in your ticker photo. I've been thinking about you - :hug:
Happy birthday Emelia!
You know we all need a pat on the back - our kids are turning 2 and we are all here still supporting eachother. Some IRL friendships don't last that long.
HAPPY 2ND BIRTHDAY EMELIA!!
hope you have a wonderful day!!
vicky hows DN going??????
very cute of aston!! sophie sets the table now, puts the placemats and forks out even helps dry some dishes!!
nelly how was the chocolate :lol: pass some my way!!
kim we find the opposite some night anytime after 7pm and gee its hard getting her to sleep!!
tara how you goiong hun :hug:
off for GD test this morning, DH dropped sophie off at mum and dads at 7.30 so its very weird sitting her BY MYSELF!!!!!
28 WEEKS TODAY, YIKES!!
A list of birthdays to come:
28th - Zander
29th - Aston and Chelsea
30th - Evie
Well the girls slept great over night (as per usual) and they are bith bright and happy this morning...of course they would be..its FDC day!
We are getting Foxtel back on today...so waiting for them to arrive..then im hitting the shops for Xmaz pressies, nappies, wipes, formula and what ever else i can sneak into the shop without Craig minding! Ive spent sooo much money the last few days....poor bank account.
Oh..in other news...we are OFF formula with Chelsea..woooot! Full cows milk now...but still in a bottle...making progress though.
Jols 28 weeks already..wow....im 34 on Thursday and sooo ready for bub to come....but i would liek to make it til after Xmaz at least...less hectic then :)
V i promise to look at the catalogue within the next 30 mins and let you know....just have to locate it....Chelsea has been helping daddy clean.. so who knows what that means!
Thanks ladies, shes having a ball with all her new presents spoilt girl!!
V- thanks..Jack isnt crawling yet dont think hes far off!! he seems to get around still though and gets stuck under the lounge!!
Jols - wow 28 wks thats gone fast!
wow jols - 28 weeks!!!! it probably doesnt seem like it to you, but its gone so quickly. good luck today, and i hope that you go and do something nice for yourself after that yukky test! and enjoy having some JOLS time.
Dead right Nelly - we all do deserve a pat on the back. And I feel especially lucky that I don't only have you in my cyber life - but also in my real life! feel very blessed to have you in my life. looking forward to seeing you Jake daggles, and the bump named molly lol.
Kim what did you see at the movies. I cant remember the last time I went to the flicks.... in fact I cant remember the last time I did something that was just for me, all about me, something relaxing, soul feeding, refreshing.... sigh.
How's things Christy? settling in? been thinking about you too, and hoping that life is settling.
Gigi - how about you hun? you ok?
Ann - where are you????
Nicole - you need to jump in more hun. I dont mean to keep forgetting you. I hope you and yours are good. are you doing anything for your little boys' 2nd birthday?
Taralee - :hug: you ok babe?
Blanche - did emelia's eyes pop out of her head? piccies please.
Think we are going to have to get a bed rail for aston. he keeps falling out of the bed. laura and nathan wouldn't wake, they would just stay asleep if they did that, on the cot matteress. but aston seems to wake up - i heard him last night about 10pm, and went into check on him, and he was nearly under the bed! might check ebay and see if i can pick up a second hand one.
What are you kids favourite stories at the moment? I was wondering how everyone feels about possibly writing one great incident /day about their little people. what they are doing that makes your heart smile, laugh out loud, amaze you...
V im not going to be able to buy anything im sorry hun.....head to boo hoo thread to find out why....not our day :(
So not shopping for me now...
Chelsea doesnt listen to stories so we dont have a favourite....
I went and seen the new James Bond movie...no idea what it was about but Gold Class was a winner and all the yummy food!!
Hi all, I havnt posted in this area yet but i just wanted to share with everyone that its my babys bday on friday!
Man does time fly! I cant believe he is a toddler now!
Wishing xander a happy and eventful life just like the last 2 years! :dance:
Welcome Sarah-Jane.....come join the fun! 2 years sure has flown along!!
pics are on FB now V! poor Aston hope u can find a rail!
Kim- omg i cant believe that happened to u guys so sorry, hope u get the money back :hug:
welcome Sarah-Jane!!
still gotta go pick Emelia's swing set up, shes gonna love it!!
offff to check boohoo's......
shivers kim!! hope it gets sorted soon, if it makes you feel better all our savings are tied up with the credit crisis....we cant access any of our approx 12k! sucks
blanche glad emelia is having a great day!!
vicky sophie loooooooovveessssss all books, hungry caterpiller, sophies big bed, alison lesters ABC... aher learning ladder ones.....
happy bday xander for friday!
test was ok! all done now
:happybirthday: Happy Birthday Emelia!! :happybirthday:
Hope you all have a wonderful day
I'm around, i just keep going through phases, and every down time i think 'i'm going to go on AD's' and then i feel fine and i'm like 'no..i can do it'. *sigh* i think i am just really really missing my family.
I really have no-one to look after the kids...they are with me 24-7. I know i know i can look into FDC or whatever. i probably wouldnt need that if i just could have a night out with DH or whatever.
i'm trying so hard not to wish this time away but it will be nice when the kids are a bit older hahaha.. or not!
oh hun :hug: will you do something for me? start a mood diary. then in a month look back and see how many days are up, and how many are down... then make an assessment. wish we lived closer. I'd be your family. :hug:
Hi Everyone
SJ my son is Zander(with a Z) and his birthday is friday too!!!
My parents are flying up from Brisbane on thursday and we will be hanging out as a family for Zanders birthday..going to lollipops in the morning and when DH gets home from work in the arvo we will be having his bob the builder cake
Zander had daycare today..he goes every tuesday. I dont know about you guys but he is always ratty in the evening when he gets home..and sometimes hysterical..I put it down to being over tired. Wyatt is in a great night time routine..Zander is unpredictable.
Yep i 2nd the ratty behaviour after care days Nicola! My 2 both go on a Tuesday....and by 7pm im ready to chuck them in bed....but they go around 8. Chelsea is worse then Jasmine!
thanks blanche. Emelia looks like she was very happy with her pressies, and the dolls house looks like it was a hit. we are getting a race car track (little people one) for aston, and a trike. and for some insane reason I'm having a birthday party for him, with a whole lot of people coming!!! oh well. should be fun.
Nelly - got any of those clean skins champers left???