Babies Born November 2006 #47

[taralee]

Oh V, Im so sorry...sending you some good strong vibes...I dont know what to say but i am thinking of you

Sorry ive been so absent - packing packing packing. and weve decided to rent in willow vale (about 30mins south of brisbane) til we decide what we want to do.
Chino and allergy thing is still up in the air, had to take another poo sample (mmm) so that got sent off yesterday. The killer thing is that he is so so ready to wean but because i cant give him any dairy he's still on breastmilk but he just wants to suck all night so he sleeps in our bed sucking altho i dont really mean to complain - i do love his company.
so hopefully some answers on that soon!
Evie has started coming back to our room at night again but its hard to tell her to sleep in her own bed when chi's in our bed...but at least she'll sleep on her foldout couch on the floor and im fine with that.
Nicola - evie says ABC all the time too lol and we have abc on all day lol so much that she knows that 'abc' music bit means a new show is coming on and she'll run to see whats next lol oops!

so, moving in the next week...i wish we could sit still for a while!!

[nelly]

Evie has started coming back to our room at night again but its hard to tell her to sleep in her own bed when chi's in our bed...but at least she'll sleep on her foldout couch on the floor and im fine with that.

lol Tara that is our solution atm if Jake comes in our room at night too. Too tired to do the back and forth dance, too cold in his room, not fair bcos Sophia is in our room and I love having him close.

[taralee]

thats it nelly, ive just resigned myself to the fact that she likes being near us and i should just enjoy it while i can!! she usually comes into our bed and has a cuddle then when she's asleep i just say 'pop down onto your little couch so you dony get squashed princess' and she goes 'ok mama' lol and does...all in her sleep lol

How's this for a heartbreaker; i was putting evie to bed tonight and i gave her a big hug and said 'oh i love u so so much' and she said 'i wont leave you mama. i wont go driving without you' awww i had tears!!

[Nicola]

Zander generally stays in his bed but he can just get up in the night or early in the morning and comes to "mums bed" I let him stay for a little while until its too uncomfortable and then I say back to Zanders bed. The boys are in the same room and tolerate it really well..often one sleeps while the other wakes and it keeps them company. Going to bed has been the problem at the moment..Zander will keep coming out of the bedroom or lay in bed yelling out wanting a drink or nursery rhyme.

The boys are constantly trying to climb on the bed on me and my belly....very uncomfortable and Im just not sleeping very well anymore...9 and a bit weeks to go!!!

[taralee]

Wow Nicola! thats gone fast!! 9 and bit weeks! you're in single digits now! woot!!
Chino had ANOTHER dr appt today, so they've ruled out lactose intolerance and im off to see a paediatrician *sigh*. I desperately need to wean him and i cant cos there's nothing he can have yet!! ive just noticed he gets a rash on his chin like little red pimples if he eats cheese or cream cheese. and he's still have chucks after a breastfeed....but if i dont breastfeed him then he's getting NO milk at all and if i give him cows milk then he vomits up everything and im not meant to try him on anything new yet because we're trying to work it all out!!
im very very frustrated!! and tired...since he'll only sleep in our bed..then evie wants to come in so i get, seriously a space of about 30cm to lay in i didnt sign up for this!!!!!

[taralee]

Nicola - i really want to talk to you about Neocate, Im thinking of just putting chi on it since its a 3month wait to see a paediatrician, and i just cant wait that long to sort this out!! Maybe you could sms me? or something? I'll PM you my number if thats ok

[Gigi]

wow taralee, you are having a really hard time

moving with two kids AND the limbo stage of what Chino can and cannot eat.

hugs to you honey.

Nicola, how frustrating to have two kids climbing on your preg. belly, such a hard concept to get thru "I need you to stay OFF" etc. to little people.

bilby is getting re-assessed by the speech therapist tomorrow, she mimes so much, gets what she wants, but i feel like i'm talking to myself most of the time, mainly one sided convos, she can't say her name, can't say much at all really. but with the miming, i can tell the comprehension is really good.

i am dreading her turning three. it will force me to think about
- three years of her not being affectionate
- three years of her not talking to me
when i want both those things so bad, and TRY to be patient about them not happening, but a milestone, like a birthday, will bring it to the fore (even though i know rationally, it's silly of me, and very negative and will not bring about change.

and another thing it will remind me, still haven't had ANY professional photos taken of her. SHe's too old now (and too toilet trained) to have photos taken of her in her cute nappies too. i really would have liked that and regret not doing it (earlier).

but last week, she did JUMP for the first time, i'm so proud of her for doing that.

We have changed tactics on the "not eating her dinner" thing.

instead of letting her eat alternatives (thinking, at least she's eating)
she is now offered a small portion of what we eat
is told consistently, you need to have some of this
if you don't, no toys in bath, no stories and songs in the bed
if you get up later saying "more eat", the same meal will be offered to you
as soon as you eat some of your dinner, all those privileges will return.

we have stuck to it for two nights.
(after finding out she has been eating cooked meals at childcare)

i feel like a big meanie, but don't want to have a brat

i had started to realise lately, i may not have a kid who throws a tanty at the supermarket checkout (for lollies etc) but she was giving the equivalent of those tanties EVERY NIGHT at the dinner table.

Finished the 10 week course on parenting toddlers called "the incredible years" on Monday. Hope i can remember some of the strategies we learnt.

[Nicola]

Hi

Gigi well done on doing a parenting course....I wish I had the time and energy to deal with something like that. We have had issues with food mainly dinner time Zander wont eat something if he doesnt like the look of it..so basically he goes to bed hungry if he doesnt want it..I used to make him something else but have since thought better of it as that isnt teaching him anything good.

Wyatt is a good eater so far, but he doesnt talk yet he was 18mnths old last week and the only clear word he says is "No" so Im not sure what is going on as Zander was saying words and sounds by now. He uses a dummy still and I know that can delay speech development but he is addicted to it!!! and its easier for me...bad mum .

Anyways lately I have felt that Im over being a mum...thats sounds bad but its just feelings I have had coz Im tired and just want to rest all day...arghhh 3 under 3 is going to be a testing phase for me..but I have heard it gets easier

[Gigi]

had a speech assessment yesterday, i will be on tenterhooks for the next two weeks, waiting to hear the results.

major newsflash, my fussy eater, who exists on snacks and purees, for the FIRST time, last night, ate a small portion of scrambled eggs LOVED IT, and a small portion of a cous cous chicken/veg thingy i made. only had a dummy spit when she hit one small cube of chicken meat. Hoping we have turned a corner with this nightly battle.

Nicola, the only reason i did the parenting course, was that it had a creche attached, so bilby can go in there for the duration of the course (two hours) - and only having one child, i'm sure that makes it more do-able.

3 under 3, wow, i am so impressed.

i think, as clucky as i feel, with my limitations and lack of family support, i am prolly the kind of person who should (if i had more than one) have them spaced, like four years apart or even five - which is not good maths, when you start as late as i did.

Being pregnant made me incredibly tired, i cannot imagine getting all the nana naps i needed, with a toddler around. and doing that with sciatica etc! just cannot get my head around that. So i am in huge admiration of mums like you Nicola, who just "get on with it".

[Nicola]

Thanks for your positive words Gigi..I wanted my kids being close together but I dont think you realise how hard its going to be until you are doing it (I guess if I had sat down and thought about it long enough I might never have got pregnant again lol) ..and being pregnant with 2 toddler boys can be insane sometimes...its kinda like having twins except they are at different milestones.

[taralee]

Oh Gigi - I think you have soooo much to be proud of!! I know it's so easy to think of all the things you (and everyone!!!!) dont do, but maybe for everything you think you don't do well or whatever, think of the good things that you do do. I'm always in awe of everything you manage to do given your circumstances - just things youve mentioned like living situation and financially...you have such a drive to be your best and i think you have so much to be proud of!! there are so many mums out there who dont try and better themselves or even bother to find more information...so give yourself a big pat on the back!!!
Good luck with the speech pathologist results.
Nicola - dont feel bad about feeling 'over it' . i know that feeling well and its hard when you just cant stop. and that feeling of being needed all the time is so draining. i say to dh all the time that its not like i can just say 'oh i dont feel like getting up today, or i dont feel like "going to work" today'. if i dont feed/dress/bath etc etc them then what will happen!!!
It will get easier - pregnancy tiredness is a killer!
BTW i rang the paed that chino (and evie ) saw when they were born and i can see him on chino's birthday (oh! so wrong!!) lol BUT at least that means i dont have to wait until september!!
so no weaning for me yet
Only 2 weeks to go til we fly to move andf we move house on wednesday....and everythings packed...

[tiggerandpooh]

I'm back...

DH has moved into another house. has been gone now for two weeks. and the change is amazing. conflict has settled tremendously.

Laura went to Melbourne for a week. I cried when I put her on the plane. first trip away by herself.... god help me when I stick her on a plane to go overseas!

Good luck with the move Taralee. and I hope Chino's stuff gets sorted. it must be hard not knowing what is going on.

Nicola... where has that gone! cant believe its only nine weeks to go

gigi... I wish you wouldnt give yourself such a hard time hun.

have lots to tell but are too stuffed at the moment so will come back when my head is clearer

to all
xxx

[Gigi]

so Vicki, huge changes for you - with DH out of the house, but still in the country. Has he re-thunk going to the UK?

Does he visit/meet up with your children? or is he not well enough to do that?

How is Aston understanding, about daddy not being at home anymore? Does he ask for him?

Huge stuff happening for you, wishing you well Vicki!

[taralee]

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[taralee]

so.....we're in perth...great holiday weather. severe weather warnings, hale, thunderstorms etc. fabbo
6hr plane trip here. kids were good, slept. woohoo!
anywhos...how/where is everyone else?

[taralee]

so.....we're in perth...great holiday weather. severe weather warnings, hale, thunderstorms etc. fabbo
6hr plane trip here. kids were good, slept. woohoo!
anywhos...how/where is everyone else?

[Olive]

im here!!!!!
wow on the perth weather
i assume your seeing your family? how long you over there for?? glad the plane trip went well!!
did you buy another house?? how is chino going with the allergies??

[taralee]

Yup Jols, here to see my family. it's been great, been so so busy but still had a fantastic break. went to the zoo and evie just loved it. the kids have been so so good. ive been quite the proud mummy.
We're heading home tomorrow, its an earlier flight (leaving around 445pm) so im hoping it'll be ok!!!
we're just renting at the moment while we figure out where we want to live, or what dh is going to do with his job - which he deperately wants to get out of.
Chino's got an appt on wednesday so hopefully we can start sorting this allergy out. evie gave him some of her milk this morning and he just kept chucking this arvy and was sobbing in his sleep heartbreaking