Tara- I hear ya on the strained bit. Dh gets a bit worked up some days when Chels is screaming and wont stop, or just wingeing.....so it come between us and althought we dont fight...it seems to put a divide there. Ill say 'She doesnt mean to cry/scream...etc'. and he will be like 'Well why cany she just be quite, nothing wrong with her'. So i feel like i have to stick up for her...same goes with the cats.... its hard sometimes.! But in defence....our relationship is very strong and are always talking things thru.....