Dont be sorry, when Emelia was born her shoulders got stuck cos she was a big bub, when they did the epsiotomy(SP) they got her out (as DP says they ripped her out) and it had damaged the brachial plexus nerve which left her arm paralysed, she could move her fingers. i have to do exercises everyday and they help, some bubs with this never get much movement back others get all movement back. i cant help but blame myself for this happening if she didnt get stuck it wouldnt have happened. DP blames the midwife that pulled her put cos he was watching it and says she ripped her out. but in the end it happend and we are very lucky she is healthy u can look up brachial plexus palsy or erbs palsy and it will explain abit better (only if u wanted too!)