we have had some issues with my mum too, not the same as yours but problems to the point jase wont visit, if we go to Rocky we stay somewhere else and I get dropped off at mums, is starting to jerk me around trying to choose as I said I know its not the same but I feel for you...

as for rota virus people dont get told, they will fob you off if you bring it up as well, I did a lot of research into when jack was a bub... but it certainly pays to be extra careful