Lj i totally know where your coming from, DH and i have sorted our previous dramas out, TBH and i think its a bit of a TMI but he hadnt got any for nearly 4 months, we DTD twice on his 4 days off and it made him a changed man hahah. But he's still super slack with Ali, i dont think its coz he doesnt love her or doesnt feel connected its just that he doesnt know what to do with her, he was really good while he was home, as long as i ASKED him to do, i couldnt say "oh i think she has a wet bum..." i had to be like "can you please change her while i make your lunch?" and i made a point of if i wasnt feeding her and she wasnt cracking it, and we were watching telly, id give her to him and say " going to do blah blah blah..." but id usually just jump on my computer but its giving him alone time with her and he really needs that, he's like "all she does is sit there.." and im like "she IS a baby!!" but now she's smiling heaps for him and half laughing (making little noises) he actually got her out of bed this morning and put her in bed next to him i even got him to feed her a bottle the other day but then she threw it up all over herself coz he wasnt watching what he was doing and stuck it too far into her mouth and made her gag.
BUT... the thing that he did do that annoyed thecrap out of me was she was crying (she had a really grumpy weekend) id dont EVERYTHING to try n settle her i was just sitting on the couch while she cried (she wasnt SCREAMING just crying IYKWIM) he was asleep (yes having a nana nap the lucky bum) then had the nereve to tell me to "go walk around outide obviously what your doing isnt working... im trying to sleep" i was just like
seriously bugger him, i dont even get to sleep that well at night why should he get a nana nap, i dont mind that he does but **** go sleep in the bedroom and let me have the loungeroom so i can do SOMETHING while she cries... grrr... men!!
but really, other than that he's been really good, i think him finally getting laid did the trick, simple minds i tell ya
anyway am off to do some christmas shopping while MIL looks after Ali, am i a bad mum for leaving her with MIL? i dont do it all the time, maybe twice sometimes 3 times a week when DH is away, i just dont get much time when he's not here, even when he is i still dont but yeh LOL
Lj i totally know where your coming from, DH and i have sorted our previous dramas out, TBH and i think its a bit of a TMI but he hadnt got any for nearly 4 months, we DTD twice on his 4 days off and it made him a changed man hahah. But he's still super slack with Ali, i dont think its coz he doesnt love her or doesnt feel connected its just that he doesnt know what to do with her, he was really good while he was home, as long as i ASKED him to do, i couldnt say "oh i think she has a wet bum..." i had to be like "can you please change her while i make your lunch?" and i made a point of if i wasnt feeding her and she wasnt cracking it, and we were watching telly, id give her to him and say " going to do blah blah blah..." but id usually just jump on my computer
but its giving him alone time with her and he really needs that, he's like "all she does is sit there.." and im like "she IS a baby!!" but now she's smiling heaps for him and half laughing (making little noises) he actually got her out of bed this morning
and put her in bed next to him
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