My DH wants to try and avoid dummies if possible. So at the moment we are trying to settle her without them. But I do have some ready to use - just in case!
I didn't want to use dummies either. I was mostly worried it would affect how he attaches, but since attachment isn't an issue and the comfort suckling is, I gave it a try. I feel bad giving him a dummy because I think "what if he wants something else and I'm not giving him what he actually needs" but he would reject the dummy and keep crying if he wanted something else. I swaddle his hands down and I think it frustrates him that he can't suck his fists, so the dummy calms him and he falls asleep within a few minutes. It's made a big difference to settling him.

Also, I just rubbed some avocado oil baby lotion on him after a bath (his skin was peeling on his hands and feet) and I wonder if that helped settle him because after a quick booby topup he was out like a light.

Why doesn't your husband want you to use a dummy? I'm just interested because I think usually it's the woman who objects and the man who can't see anything wrong with it.

DS is waking all hours no routine at night yet. Sleeping well during the day lol!
Jude sleeps like a champion, so much so that I have to wake him up to feed him so it's easy for me to get sidetracked and forget to wake him (or want to sleep for 4 hours straight after a 2-hour feed), so some days we only get 5 feeds in a 24-hour period and I am a bit worried if he's eating enough. Wouldn't he wake up and cry if he was hungry? Am I being a bad mum? I'll take him for a weigh in 2 days and see if he's gained weight since hospital. I hope so, he's so skinny.