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thread: Babies Born October 2007 #40

  1. #91
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    Yay Mo so glad everything is ok! But bummer about the ms

    Trish whats kinder duty? and hope you have fun! Looking forward to seeing your site when it is up and running!

    Well I am in a real crappy spot at the moment! I am feeling very lonely and now I am thinking it is time to put M into kindy Everyone seems to have thier kids in some sort of care that I know and I just wish I had a group of friends who would meet once a week to chat and catch up and the kids could play....I am not ready to let Myles go yet and I seem like I am the only one who feels this way I know he will love it but I worry he will be picked on or the teachers will be mean to him....does that feeling ever go away

    Then we are tryijng to find a new house and that is the most depressing thing ever...I have no one to talk to but you guys sorry I feel so alone and have tried so many times to reach out but it always ends up with me comforting my friends and helping them through stuff

    sorry girls I should not dump all this on you, you all have much more to worry about than me xx

  2. #92
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    Amber chicky i sent you a message on FB.
    Our Kinder lets the parents stay if they want, i think you need to call a few places up go visit them.
    Get to know the teachers etc..
    You may feel better seeing how the kinder session is run & Myles is old enough now that if someone was being mean to him he would let you know.
    Yes the feeling goes away when you see how happy they are & when your kid goes running up to their fav teacher

    Kinder Duty is where you help out in the Kinder for the session, cut the fruit, clean up, help the kids etc...

  3. #93
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    Amber, you poor chicken. I know the exact feeling and I know others who are the same. Kinder is not compulsory and gave a few friends who think that their kids will be at school long enough so want to keep them home until they have to go. If was in Aus I don't know if if send Lu or not, I would feel much like you do, although she does drive me crazy daily! Lol
    I totally sympathize in the playing thing. I wish we had a playgroup or a weekly mothers group here. It's hard not having that support. We try and have a bit of a schedule and I find that helps, like swimming one day and playground another few days. Craft two mornings if I can be bothered!

    If you can't whinge in here where can you whinge???? Please don't feel bad about it.

  4. #94
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    Oct 2007
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    Yeah babe, don't feel bad. Max doesn't go to Kindy either, although I think he needs to. I don't think I'm enough for him now. He needs more stimulation and activities than I have up my sleeve, plus Darcie would love a day sleep he doesn't wake her from.

    Still no Internet here, on my temperamental phone.

    Mo yay for Bambi!

    Hi everyone else too, Trish, ange, xx


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  5. #95
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    May 2005
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    Hi all

    Don't seem to find the time to pop in here as often as I used to. Life is just so busy doing the same old things.

    Becky - So sorry to hear about the cancer. I guessed something was wrong from FB but wasn't sure what. It will be tough to be away from your babies, but you need to have the treatment.
    Amber - I have a different perspective on kindy/daycare etc as you know my kids have been going since they were very young. I do think that there comes a point when mummy (or daddy) isn't enough for them and they need external stimulation and experiences. I know that my kids have learned so much more than I could ever provide them. Also, I have never come across a childcare worker who is mean to children. Childcare is a calling that you really have to want to work in as the pay is so bad. And as for other children picking on him - I think there is something to learning how to be resilient, learning how to deal with conflict and learning to get along with different people. Anyway, that's my opinion so tell me to get back in my box if I've crossed the line. But I can also appreciate wanting to keep your boys close for as long as possible.
    Mo - yay for Bambi. I reckon you're carrying a boy too. Are you going to find out and will you be telling us?
    Jules - drumming lessons!

    Hi to Trish, Ange and everyone else.

  6. #96
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    Saffi I totally get what your saying and agree with most of it...but I do know of mean childcare workers Even the one centre I went to have a look at one little boy was walking around crying and not one teacher comforted him, in my mind that is mean We are still searching so hopefully the right one comes up and he feels safe secure and respected.
    JM You must really feel it being so far away I dont know how you cope
    Mo our kindy doesnt actually start till next year for M...well I can send him to a childcare centre but to send him to a kindy it wont be till next year. How are you feeling?
    Yules Tell me why you moved to the UK and not Brisbane again :P Maxy and M would get along so well!

    Still house hunting sigh and trying to find a childcare for M I am thiking it might be easier to run away and join the circus...I am sure he will learn alot there :P

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    I didn't know that, Personally i wouldn't send my girls to childcare. Maddi went a few times & hated it there.
    Maybe it was too many kids not enough teachers, maybe it was just the centre she went to, i don't know but in the end we weren't happy so i took her out.
    If you feel M isn't happy in childcare you can take him out, it doesn't hurt to try.
    I guess i like Kinder better because it's only short session, parents are welcome to stay & help out.
    At the end of the day you'll make the right choice for you both

    Saffi not sure if we will find out, i'm kinda torn on that one. If we do find out yes i will be telling you guys

  8. #98
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    thanks mo thats what i am unusre of I dont really want to be spending $66 a day for him to go for maybe 5 hours ....I just dont know what to do

  9. #99
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    My short experience with Childcare was bad too Boomba. I went to gym and put the kids in their childcare. I came back to find 8 month old Sas alone and crying hysterically in a walker. Luella crying at the gate and two workers having a cup of tea!

    You'll find the right place. Have you looked at a montesori or Steiner playgroup or childcare? I think that would really suit you guys.
    Toddlers are hard work, it's so draining. But before you know it they both be at school and we'll be wondering what to do with our selves.

  10. #100
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    It's hard but you know him best & if you truly think childcare is what he needs then do it but if you feel you both aren't really ready then wait a year & just send him to kinder.
    Honestly if Maddi hadn't go into 3yr old kinder she would still be at home till next year.

    Ange that is so horrible poor L & S.

  11. #101
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    OH Ange I had that same experience with Myles when he was about 1 in a gym creche broke my heart ,maybe thats why i am a bit hesitant? there is a montesori child care near my mum but no stiener ones I dont think...may have to do a bit more research.

    the government is just starting to re introduce kindys I dont know why they let child care take over in the first place

  12. #102
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    A friend goes to Montessori playgroup. Both her kids are welcome at the same session. They have some structured stuff, do some cooking or craft and a story but mostly they just play. It's all based around very gentle and natural philosophies. I'm not sure it's the best thing for schooling, but it's a wonderful nurturing environment for toddlers. You should check it out. Even if it's a playgroup and not childcare, ie. You stay it would be a nice break and good to socialise with other mums.

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    Ange that sounds really nice, i would love to send the girls to one but we don't have any local to us.

  14. #104
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    I was going to suggest playgroup too Amber - that might be another option for you this year? One of the mums I made friends with when Joel was at kinder has a DD the same age as K (her last baby). She isn't sending her to 3 year old kinder this year, instead she has joined a playgroup and each week she also takes her to Mainly Music which is run by a local church. That way her DD is still learning and socialising and it gives mum a chance to do the same!

    Hi everyone BBL, got to run off to the chiro soon!

  15. #105
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    Sorry I mentioned anything.

  16. #106
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    Saffi i have nothing against childcare, if we both worked then my both my girls would be in Childcare.
    I just haven't had good experiences with childcare, Your really lucky you found a great one that both your kids love.
    I really didn't mean to hurt your feelings & i'm sorry

  17. #107
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    OH saffi hun I am glad you gave me your pov its good to get all angles! I am just not a fan of childcare...its not for me or the boys but it is for some.
    Last edited by boomba; March 3rd, 2011 at 01:27 PM.

  18. #108
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    I didn't mean to offend anyone either! Sorry Saffi!
    Like amber says it is good to hear everyones pov and experience. The majority of my friends have kids in childcare or kinder and I certainly don't think any different of them.
    It's awesome you've had only good experiences.
    I'm sorry if I upset you.

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