Another quick stop by. Molly has had a horrid day today. She has been crying all day and I have had to hold her all day which is not like her at all. I am just putting it down to the heat today.
We went to the LC on Thursday and she discovered that Molly was tongue tied. She said it wasn't an extreme case but definitely there and recommended that we see a doc who specialises in it as it would be contributing to poor attachment. I rang the doc and got an appointment for the next day and she suggested that Molly would benefit from getting it cut which we did. I have been feeding Molly every 2-3 hours today and my nipples don't feel as sore so maybe it will help. She also prescribed further meds to get rid of the thrush.
Pam I hope you get the all clear with your results. It certainly would be weighing on your mind.
Another quick one from me. I knackered from just doing a whole house clean. All I have to do tomorrow is vacuum. I feel so much better when the house is clean. DH is at work, Danielle is spending the night at her grandma's and Ashlyn is fast asleep, so I've actually been able to get things done for a change.
Went well at the pead yesterday. Ashlyn weighs 5.3kg, so a gain of 1.2kg since birth. Not to bad!! I have to take her back in 3 months as the Dr found a slight heart murmur. He's says it's nothing to worry about and it should clear up on it's own, but he'll keep a check on it just to make sure.
I'll try to be back tomorrow for personals. Goodnight, hope well all get lots of sleep tonight.
Seven is wide awake, showing no signs of going to sleep anytime soon, and guess where DF is? In bed, snoring his head off.
I have to wait for someone to be home so I can have a shower, then, I have to feed her, make sure she's asleep BEFORE I hand her over to DF, then, I get out of the shower to find that he is looking stressed and says shes been crying the whole time.
He can't have her for more than 15 minutes before he hands her back, and he gets stressed because if she is quiet when I have her then hand her over to him, she starts playing up, so he hands her back.
I asked him to bath her tonight, but he couldn't, he was too tired from work.
He's changed one nappy since she was born, and never bathed her.
I am up ALL day and most of the night with our daughter and I feel like she is all my responsibility.
More than once he has made the comment that he goes to work all day to provide for our family. yeah, like it was all my idea to have a baby!
I wonder what he thinks I do all day?
Oh I sound so ungreatful. but I am just over this and I know that soon I am going to snap!
Oh, and to top it off, he thinks we should just let her 'cry it out'. Thats ok for some, if they don't have to deal with it, not even contemplating the fact that we decided to try Attachment Parenting and the no cry technique and its working for me.
I had better go, Seven is no longer happy being bounced, so I will have to get up and walk with her. Its hell on your arms and back carrying around a 5.5kg baby all day.
Sorry for the whinge, I had to vent.
Last edited by MamaK; October 19th, 2008 at 10:52 AM.
Morning All,
Well, I slept on the couch ALL night, DF didn't even realise until he woke up this morning. Seven didn't get off to sleep properly until about 2.30am, and I was bouncing her the WHOLE time.
Then, the neighbour is woken up by our cat fighting with another cat and I can hear him screaming and yelling at 2am, so outside I go to try and find our cat to lock him indoors.
So, this morning, DF gets a call from a mate who needs help with a car problem, so, he's gone now. Will most probably be gone all day.
Didn't ask if we wanted to come.
When are we supposed to spend time as a family?
Oh Kell, I really feel for you!! No wonder you're feeling cranky. Giant hugs for you, you need them What's your DF thinking? Have you got any friends or family you can call on to help or who can stay with you? I am dreading my mother leaving on October 31. I just know I'm not going to cope. I can barely cope with her being here and the help she's giving me. So, I hope your DF is home soon and takes some of the pressure off you by taking up some of the parenting responsibilities.
Off to the paediatrician tomorrow. Will need to find somewhere to stay overnight as the appointment isn't until 5:30pm and we don't want the three hour drive home in the dark with all the kangaroos. Planning now what to take and how to manage the trip.
Kerry ~ I hope you find somewhere to stay tomorrow.
My mum & Step Dad only live 10 mins away but they are travelling lots due to my Step Dads job. They are currently in Marion Bay which is 5 hrs away, and they won't be back until the day before Sevens Baptism on November 9.
I really feel that I shouldn't HAVE to ask anyone else for help. DF lives here, its his daughter, I just wish he wouldn't give up with Seven the minute she starts getting upset in his arms. Also, I wish he wouldn't make me feel like HE is the one doing the most for this family by going to work. I am really feeling the pressure from him to go back to work sooner rather than later. Its panics me and depresses me to think about leaving my little girl.
We had planned that I would go back and do 3 night shifts per week at the end of January. But, if he can't cope with Seven when Im home, what the heck is he going to do when Im no where near in the middle of the night?
Argh, its stressing me again, so Im going to stop here.
You are all going to have to forgive me girls, I think the next few days are going to be 'all about me' posts. I apologise in advance.
Kell, . It's so hard and men just don't seem to understand. It's sounds much the same as things were here first time round. I spoke to DH about it recently and he told me that he was worried about holding Danielle when she was a bub, he thought he might hurt her or do something wrong. It took 10 months before he really started doing anything and that was only because he had to look after her when I went back to work. Perhaps your DF just doesn't know what to do. I would say talk to him about it, but if your anything like I was you probably just want to scream at him. Definately get some one to help you if you can. Would your mum be able to watch Seven for a bit while you get some sleep?
Kerry, wow what a long trip for one appt. Good luck with your trip away, it's seems like there is so much more to pack for one little bub. Did you make a decision about a dummy. I don't mind using them. I just make sure it's at bed time only and just until she's settled. It then comes out before she goes to sleep so she doesn't get used to sleeping with it. I did the same with Danielle and she stopped using it completely by 3 months. I think it works well for us because I have a really fast letdown, so feeds don't go for very long and Ashlyn likes to have the extra sucking time, IYKWIM.
Donna, great news that the LC was able to help. What does tongue tied mean?
Sue, don't beat yourself up for giving Arabella some formula. You just do what you need for yourself and bub. Why don't you just neglect some of the things that need to be done so you can get yourself a meal and rest. I know there's been plenty of nights when I've gone to bed with a kitchen piled high with dishes. Sometimes it 's easier to face it in the morning after a little rest.
Lol, you poor thing having a pap smear so early, silly Dr. I'm dreading having mine done. Not sure how I'm going to do it with a bub and a 3 yo.
Pam, I hope your results are all clear. Thinking of you. Is Poppy still giving you a lovely nights sleep.
Well I think the sleep deprivation is starting to hit me. Last night I woke up sitting on the bed, I'd undone my top and was wondering why Ashlyn wasn't feeding properly. It was probably because she was still in the bassinet next to me fast asleep Oh well, it's a beautiful day here so as soon as Ashlyn wakes up we're off to the park for a picnic.
Kell - I just wanted to give you a hug I can understand how you are feeling because my DH was like that until last week when I had a big spack attack him. He now helps with Molly more when she gets upset. I
Tenille - Yay for the weight gain. Hoping the heart murmur clears up by itself. I am in awe that you managed to clean the house. It feels like our house hasn't been clean in sooo long. I never seem to get time to fully clean just bits and pieces.
Tongue tied is when the small bit of skin under the is tight and they dont have full movement of the tongue. Molly's tongue wasn't able to touch the top of her mouth or extend past her lower lip. They just snipped it and seems to have helped. She is funny because she spends most of her time poking herr tongue out now.
thanks ladies on the suggestion, I got out on friday & used our sling whilst shopping all day... it was a much better idea than pushing her in the pram she went straight off to sleep. I don't like the sling I have as it puts a lot of pressure on my back, so will defiantely look at buying a hug a bub.
Kerry, I hated the idea of using a dummy, I did with DD & I disliked it. However after a lengthy conversation with my MHCN we decided that it was a good idea for Madeleine to try and use one (for her reflux as the saliva settles the acid) We started using it this week & she didn't like it too much, but she's gotten use to it & spits it after a few minutes.
Kel, sorry to hear your DF isn't being helpful, mine is not so bad but he like yours thinks she's playing on it when she cries... it makes me so mad that I automatically grab her back & he's off the hook once again.
Donna, good luck hope the BF is easier now
Congrats on all the babie weight gains, its amazing how big they are all getting now
ok, house is lookin ok,washing is on and i've had breakky. Arabella slept from 11pm last night til 6.30 this morning and then she had a feed and went back to sleep, she's still asleep .
Whillst i had some spare time i googled the medication she is taking for reflux and the side effects cause i think she is constipated. now would u believe that a common side effect is vomitting, WTF, why the hell would u prescribe that for infant damned reflux. $50 so not well spent.
Oh WOW, 11- 6-30, you lucky thing. I wonder what I'm doing wrong? Ashlyn must be having a growth spurt because she's been feeding every 2 hrs since yesterday. Then she was unsettled from 3.30am. At least she went down for her nap easily.
We've got a photo session booked for today so it looks like I'm going with bags under my eyes.
Ok, so we had a slightly better night - still didnt' get into bed until REALLY late, but DF was awake, even though he was busy with the car most of the night (getting it ready for our Wedding so I didn't mind), but still, having him AWAKE while I was, made it seem a little better.
I kind of feel bad about what I said about him but I needed to vent at the time. Lets just hope he doesn't repeat that performance!
Sue ~ How wonderful that Arabella slept so long! The longest Seven will go overnight is 3hrs, then shes awake for another feed - but - she kind of doesn't wake up fully and then goes straight back to sleep - but with lots of grunting and groaning!
Tenille ~ I hope your photos work out well. We are having Family Shots done soon, by the same lady who did Sevens first photos. I can't wait!!!!
Hope you are all well and getting at least SOME rest.
Oh well, it's a beautiful day here so as soon as Ashlyn wakes up we're off to the park for a picnic.
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