Seven is wide awake, showing no signs of going to sleep anytime soon, and guess where DF is? In bed, snoring his head off.
I have to wait for someone to be home so I can have a shower, then, I have to feed her, make sure she's asleep BEFORE I hand her over to DF, then, I get out of the shower to find that he is looking stressed and says shes been crying the whole time.
He can't have her for more than 15 minutes before he hands her back, and he gets stressed because if she is quiet when I have her then hand her over to him, she starts playing up, so he hands her back.
I asked him to bath her tonight, but he couldn't, he was too tired from work.
He's changed one nappy since she was born, and never bathed her.
I am up ALL day and most of the night with our daughter and I feel like she is all my responsibility.
More than once he has made the comment that he goes to work all day to provide for our family. yeah, like it was all my idea to have a baby!
I wonder what he thinks I do all day?
Oh I sound so ungreatful. but I am just over this and I know that soon I am going to snap!
Oh, and to top it off, he thinks we should just let her 'cry it out'. Thats ok for some, if they don't have to deal with it, not even contemplating the fact that we decided to try Attachment Parenting and the no cry technique and its working for me.
I had better go, Seven is no longer happy being bounced, so I will have to get up and walk with her. Its hell on your arms and back carrying around a 5.5kg baby all day.
Sorry for the whinge, I had to vent.
Last edited by MamaK; October 19th, 2008 at 10:52 AM.
Morning All,
Well, I slept on the couch ALL night, DF didn't even realise until he woke up this morning. Seven didn't get off to sleep properly until about 2.30am, and I was bouncing her the WHOLE time.
Then, the neighbour is woken up by our cat fighting with another cat and I can hear him screaming and yelling at 2am, so outside I go to try and find our cat to lock him indoors.
So, this morning, DF gets a call from a mate who needs help with a car problem, so, he's gone now. Will most probably be gone all day.
Didn't ask if we wanted to come.
When are we supposed to spend time as a family?
Oh Kell, I really feel for you!! No wonder you're feeling cranky. Giant hugs for you, you need them What's your DF thinking? Have you got any friends or family you can call on to help or who can stay with you? I am dreading my mother leaving on October 31. I just know I'm not going to cope. I can barely cope with her being here and the help she's giving me. So, I hope your DF is home soon and takes some of the pressure off you by taking up some of the parenting responsibilities.
Off to the paediatrician tomorrow. Will need to find somewhere to stay overnight as the appointment isn't until 5:30pm and we don't want the three hour drive home in the dark with all the kangaroos. Planning now what to take and how to manage the trip.
Kerry ~ I hope you find somewhere to stay tomorrow.
My mum & Step Dad only live 10 mins away but they are travelling lots due to my Step Dads job. They are currently in Marion Bay which is 5 hrs away, and they won't be back until the day before Sevens Baptism on November 9.
I really feel that I shouldn't HAVE to ask anyone else for help. DF lives here, its his daughter, I just wish he wouldn't give up with Seven the minute she starts getting upset in his arms. Also, I wish he wouldn't make me feel like HE is the one doing the most for this family by going to work. I am really feeling the pressure from him to go back to work sooner rather than later. Its panics me and depresses me to think about leaving my little girl.
We had planned that I would go back and do 3 night shifts per week at the end of January. But, if he can't cope with Seven when Im home, what the heck is he going to do when Im no where near in the middle of the night?
Argh, its stressing me again, so Im going to stop here.
You are all going to have to forgive me girls, I think the next few days are going to be 'all about me' posts. I apologise in advance.
Kell, . It's so hard and men just don't seem to understand. It's sounds much the same as things were here first time round. I spoke to DH about it recently and he told me that he was worried about holding Danielle when she was a bub, he thought he might hurt her or do something wrong. It took 10 months before he really started doing anything and that was only because he had to look after her when I went back to work. Perhaps your DF just doesn't know what to do. I would say talk to him about it, but if your anything like I was you probably just want to scream at him. Definately get some one to help you if you can. Would your mum be able to watch Seven for a bit while you get some sleep?
Kerry, wow what a long trip for one appt. Good luck with your trip away, it's seems like there is so much more to pack for one little bub. Did you make a decision about a dummy. I don't mind using them. I just make sure it's at bed time only and just until she's settled. It then comes out before she goes to sleep so she doesn't get used to sleeping with it. I did the same with Danielle and she stopped using it completely by 3 months. I think it works well for us because I have a really fast letdown, so feeds don't go for very long and Ashlyn likes to have the extra sucking time, IYKWIM.
Donna, great news that the LC was able to help. What does tongue tied mean?
Sue, don't beat yourself up for giving Arabella some formula. You just do what you need for yourself and bub. Why don't you just neglect some of the things that need to be done so you can get yourself a meal and rest. I know there's been plenty of nights when I've gone to bed with a kitchen piled high with dishes. Sometimes it 's easier to face it in the morning after a little rest.
Lol, you poor thing having a pap smear so early, silly Dr. I'm dreading having mine done. Not sure how I'm going to do it with a bub and a 3 yo.
Pam, I hope your results are all clear. Thinking of you. Is Poppy still giving you a lovely nights sleep.
Well I think the sleep deprivation is starting to hit me. Last night I woke up sitting on the bed, I'd undone my top and was wondering why Ashlyn wasn't feeding properly. It was probably because she was still in the bassinet next to me fast asleep Oh well, it's a beautiful day here so as soon as Ashlyn wakes up we're off to the park for a picnic.
Oh well, it's a beautiful day here so as soon as Ashlyn wakes up we're off to the park for a picnic.
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