Another quick stop by. Molly has had a horrid day today. She has been crying all day and I have had to hold her all day which is not like her at all. I am just putting it down to the heat today.
We went to the LC on Thursday and she discovered that Molly was tongue tied. She said it wasn't an extreme case but definitely there and recommended that we see a doc who specialises in it as it would be contributing to poor attachment. I rang the doc and got an appointment for the next day and she suggested that Molly would benefit from getting it cut which we did. I have been feeding Molly every 2-3 hours today and my nipples don't feel as sore so maybe it will help. She also prescribed further meds to get rid of the thrush.
Pam I hope you get the all clear with your results. It certainly would be weighing on your mind.
Another quick one from me. I knackered from just doing a whole house clean. All I have to do tomorrow is vacuum. I feel so much better when the house is clean. DH is at work, Danielle is spending the night at her grandma's and Ashlyn is fast asleep, so I've actually been able to get things done for a change.
Went well at the pead yesterday. Ashlyn weighs 5.3kg, so a gain of 1.2kg since birth. Not to bad!! I have to take her back in 3 months as the Dr found a slight heart murmur. He's says it's nothing to worry about and it should clear up on it's own, but he'll keep a check on it just to make sure.
I'll try to be back tomorrow for personals. Goodnight, hope well all get lots of sleep tonight.
Seven is wide awake, showing no signs of going to sleep anytime soon, and guess where DF is? In bed, snoring his head off.
I have to wait for someone to be home so I can have a shower, then, I have to feed her, make sure she's asleep BEFORE I hand her over to DF, then, I get out of the shower to find that he is looking stressed and says shes been crying the whole time.
He can't have her for more than 15 minutes before he hands her back, and he gets stressed because if she is quiet when I have her then hand her over to him, she starts playing up, so he hands her back.
I asked him to bath her tonight, but he couldn't, he was too tired from work.
He's changed one nappy since she was born, and never bathed her.
I am up ALL day and most of the night with our daughter and I feel like she is all my responsibility.
More than once he has made the comment that he goes to work all day to provide for our family. yeah, like it was all my idea to have a baby!
I wonder what he thinks I do all day?
Oh I sound so ungreatful. but I am just over this and I know that soon I am going to snap!
Oh, and to top it off, he thinks we should just let her 'cry it out'. Thats ok for some, if they don't have to deal with it, not even contemplating the fact that we decided to try Attachment Parenting and the no cry technique and its working for me.
I had better go, Seven is no longer happy being bounced, so I will have to get up and walk with her. Its hell on your arms and back carrying around a 5.5kg baby all day.
Sorry for the whinge, I had to vent.
Last edited by MamaK; October 19th, 2008 at 10:52 AM.
Morning All,
Well, I slept on the couch ALL night, DF didn't even realise until he woke up this morning. Seven didn't get off to sleep properly until about 2.30am, and I was bouncing her the WHOLE time.
Then, the neighbour is woken up by our cat fighting with another cat and I can hear him screaming and yelling at 2am, so outside I go to try and find our cat to lock him indoors.
So, this morning, DF gets a call from a mate who needs help with a car problem, so, he's gone now. Will most probably be gone all day.
Didn't ask if we wanted to come.
When are we supposed to spend time as a family?
Oh Kell, I really feel for you!! No wonder you're feeling cranky. Giant hugs for you, you need them What's your DF thinking? Have you got any friends or family you can call on to help or who can stay with you? I am dreading my mother leaving on October 31. I just know I'm not going to cope. I can barely cope with her being here and the help she's giving me. So, I hope your DF is home soon and takes some of the pressure off you by taking up some of the parenting responsibilities.
Off to the paediatrician tomorrow. Will need to find somewhere to stay overnight as the appointment isn't until 5:30pm and we don't want the three hour drive home in the dark with all the kangaroos. Planning now what to take and how to manage the trip.
Kerry ~ I hope you find somewhere to stay tomorrow.
My mum & Step Dad only live 10 mins away but they are travelling lots due to my Step Dads job. They are currently in Marion Bay which is 5 hrs away, and they won't be back until the day before Sevens Baptism on November 9.
I really feel that I shouldn't HAVE to ask anyone else for help. DF lives here, its his daughter, I just wish he wouldn't give up with Seven the minute she starts getting upset in his arms. Also, I wish he wouldn't make me feel like HE is the one doing the most for this family by going to work. I am really feeling the pressure from him to go back to work sooner rather than later. Its panics me and depresses me to think about leaving my little girl.
We had planned that I would go back and do 3 night shifts per week at the end of January. But, if he can't cope with Seven when Im home, what the heck is he going to do when Im no where near in the middle of the night?
Argh, its stressing me again, so Im going to stop here.
You are all going to have to forgive me girls, I think the next few days are going to be 'all about me' posts. I apologise in advance.
Kell, . It's so hard and men just don't seem to understand. It's sounds much the same as things were here first time round. I spoke to DH about it recently and he told me that he was worried about holding Danielle when she was a bub, he thought he might hurt her or do something wrong. It took 10 months before he really started doing anything and that was only because he had to look after her when I went back to work. Perhaps your DF just doesn't know what to do. I would say talk to him about it, but if your anything like I was you probably just want to scream at him. Definately get some one to help you if you can. Would your mum be able to watch Seven for a bit while you get some sleep?
Kerry, wow what a long trip for one appt. Good luck with your trip away, it's seems like there is so much more to pack for one little bub. Did you make a decision about a dummy. I don't mind using them. I just make sure it's at bed time only and just until she's settled. It then comes out before she goes to sleep so she doesn't get used to sleeping with it. I did the same with Danielle and she stopped using it completely by 3 months. I think it works well for us because I have a really fast letdown, so feeds don't go for very long and Ashlyn likes to have the extra sucking time, IYKWIM.
Donna, great news that the LC was able to help. What does tongue tied mean?
Sue, don't beat yourself up for giving Arabella some formula. You just do what you need for yourself and bub. Why don't you just neglect some of the things that need to be done so you can get yourself a meal and rest. I know there's been plenty of nights when I've gone to bed with a kitchen piled high with dishes. Sometimes it 's easier to face it in the morning after a little rest.
Lol, you poor thing having a pap smear so early, silly Dr. I'm dreading having mine done. Not sure how I'm going to do it with a bub and a 3 yo.
Pam, I hope your results are all clear. Thinking of you. Is Poppy still giving you a lovely nights sleep.
Well I think the sleep deprivation is starting to hit me. Last night I woke up sitting on the bed, I'd undone my top and was wondering why Ashlyn wasn't feeding properly. It was probably because she was still in the bassinet next to me fast asleep Oh well, it's a beautiful day here so as soon as Ashlyn wakes up we're off to the park for a picnic.
Kell - I just wanted to give you a hug I can understand how you are feeling because my DH was like that until last week when I had a big spack attack him. He now helps with Molly more when she gets upset. I
Tenille - Yay for the weight gain. Hoping the heart murmur clears up by itself. I am in awe that you managed to clean the house. It feels like our house hasn't been clean in sooo long. I never seem to get time to fully clean just bits and pieces.
Tongue tied is when the small bit of skin under the is tight and they dont have full movement of the tongue. Molly's tongue wasn't able to touch the top of her mouth or extend past her lower lip. They just snipped it and seems to have helped. She is funny because she spends most of her time poking herr tongue out now.
thanks ladies on the suggestion, I got out on friday & used our sling whilst shopping all day... it was a much better idea than pushing her in the pram she went straight off to sleep. I don't like the sling I have as it puts a lot of pressure on my back, so will defiantely look at buying a hug a bub.
Kerry, I hated the idea of using a dummy, I did with DD & I disliked it. However after a lengthy conversation with my MHCN we decided that it was a good idea for Madeleine to try and use one (for her reflux as the saliva settles the acid) We started using it this week & she didn't like it too much, but she's gotten use to it & spits it after a few minutes.
Kel, sorry to hear your DF isn't being helpful, mine is not so bad but he like yours thinks she's playing on it when she cries... it makes me so mad that I automatically grab her back & he's off the hook once again.
Donna, good luck hope the BF is easier now
Congrats on all the babie weight gains, its amazing how big they are all getting now
ok, house is lookin ok,washing is on and i've had breakky. Arabella slept from 11pm last night til 6.30 this morning and then she had a feed and went back to sleep, she's still asleep .
Whillst i had some spare time i googled the medication she is taking for reflux and the side effects cause i think she is constipated. now would u believe that a common side effect is vomitting, WTF, why the hell would u prescribe that for infant damned reflux. $50 so not well spent.
Oh WOW, 11- 6-30, you lucky thing. I wonder what I'm doing wrong? Ashlyn must be having a growth spurt because she's been feeding every 2 hrs since yesterday. Then she was unsettled from 3.30am. At least she went down for her nap easily.
We've got a photo session booked for today so it looks like I'm going with bags under my eyes.
Ok, so we had a slightly better night - still didnt' get into bed until REALLY late, but DF was awake, even though he was busy with the car most of the night (getting it ready for our Wedding so I didn't mind), but still, having him AWAKE while I was, made it seem a little better.
I kind of feel bad about what I said about him but I needed to vent at the time. Lets just hope he doesn't repeat that performance!
Sue ~ How wonderful that Arabella slept so long! The longest Seven will go overnight is 3hrs, then shes awake for another feed - but - she kind of doesn't wake up fully and then goes straight back to sleep - but with lots of grunting and groaning!
Tenille ~ I hope your photos work out well. We are having Family Shots done soon, by the same lady who did Sevens first photos. I can't wait!!!!
Hope you are all well and getting at least SOME rest.
ARGH! Babies!
Seven just had the most luxurious of baths, bubbles and all, and a massage. She loved it, and for the first time ever, she didn’t cry when I took her out.
We had a lovely feed, then 10 minutes later. BAM. Poo blow out. And, also for the first time ever, it went up the BACK!
So, naked as the day she was born, she got a ‘baby wipe’ wash. And a new set of jimjams.
So, S.E.V.E.N no longer spells Seven, it spells RatBag.
Oh, you may have noticed, she broke the 4 day poo rule! (we had poop 2 days ago!)
well Liberty is propped up on a pillow sleeping on my chest (the computer chair can lean back) so now I finally get a chance to type
kell - you are so lucky. nearly every poo is a poo-splosion (at least 6 times a day mind you) despite being so constipated that she moans and groans, grunts and cries to get it out. we have already gone through 12 packs of wipes so i've just decided to use cloth wipes until she gets over this as at this rate it will cost us over $300 a year in wipes!!
Sue - could you try zantac? i did hear that losec was supposed to be good, strange that the side effects is vomiting?? that is really stupid. zantac still makes them constipated though but i balance it out with infants friend haha reminds me of that post you wrote about "cramming it down like there's no tomorrow" i have those moments too!!
candyjay - i LOVE my baby bjorn although it does hurt your back after a while but we use it for shopping and for whingy arsenic hours. she nearly always falls asleep in it and now she's getting a little bit older she will look around too which is good because she is entertained in it whilst i get a few chores done. i tried a hug-a-bub but i'm too unco to work it out. as she gets older i will need to try and work it out though as i'm not sure how much more weight she can put on before she will be too heavy for me to carry in it for my back. also i find it makes us both very sweaty??
donna - how cute that she pokes out her tongue more now!! i bet you feel much better now that you know why she was having trouble attaching.
Tenille - haha i can so relate to your sleepy story!! the midnight feed is ok but its the 3/4am one that i'm really tired for. sometimes i get so tired that i forget to "put the boob away" and as she often sleeps cuddled up next to me i've woken up before to her trying to re-attach herself
wow i actually got to finish what i came on hear to write. probably not good to let her get used to sleeping on me but oh well, i'll worry about that later. it's good to have time to myself, well sort of anyway, for a change
Shock horror, I’m awake. Seven WAS soundly asleep, until the very second I put her in her basinnet. She’s been crying ever since. She’s currently on my lap whingeing. Doesn’t want a feed, just wants to me to stand up and hold her. My back is about to break. Holding a 5.5kg baby for hours on end is not good for a bad back!
DF has been asleep since 7.45. He’s ‘tired’. Im over him being ‘tired’. So am I! He doesn’t wake up every 2hrs to feed a hungry baby. He doesn’t get up early to spend all day with a needy baby. He gets to go to work and come home and go to friggin bed!
If I bring this up, I know what he will say. “I work all day”. So frigging what?
Somethings gotta give.
I need this baby to go to sleep before midnight. I have tried everything. Im SO dam tired! This is NOT what it was supposed to be like.
I am sorry about the ‘me’ post again – but I am going to lose my mind if I don’t vent. I know you are all going through the same things, but I don’t know what else to do.
Kell, have you tried calling Karitane? or Tresillian? One of the nicest midwives at Calvary Hospital said she herself had called Karitane for help when she had serious problems settling her baby and was at the end of her tether. The number for Karitane is 1300 227 464.
Can your DF take some time off so that he can help out? Would he be willing to do that? I wish I lived closer so that I could give you a hand. Do you have any girlfriends or workmates who can come around during the day or after work/on the weekend to give you a break, even if it's for an hour? I'm planning on taking up all the offers I've had for help when Mum leaves. Matthew screamed and screamed this evening, and I know he was unsettled from our trip to Wagga, but I'm sure it's because he can smell milk on me and he wants it and nothing else for the comfort.
After seeing Matthew's paediatrician on Monday for his "six-week appointment", we have a new plan of action where most of Matthew's feeds will be given to him by bottle. Apparently Matthew's receding chin (retrognathia) coupled with his blocked nose (have begun the Fess treatment today) meant that he wasn't getting satisfied at the breast. Hence having to feed him almost constantly during the day. Dr Pillay said that was "not acceptable" If the bottle program works, then I should have three hours between feeds (that would be bliss). I will use formula if I need to as well. I'm still going to breastfeed him at night, simply because it's easiest and it will help me keep up my supply. Matthew's weight gain was described as "fantabulous" - at 5w2d, he weighed in at 5.18kg (dressed weight).
Another minor problem is Matthew has cradlecap. So have begun rubbing in sorbolene cream but if it gets worse, I have a script for a cortisone cream. Poor Matthew! We'd started calling him Crusty because of his yellow crusty eyebrows but already starting to notice an improvement with the sorbolene.
Another failed attempt tonight by DP to visit us. He is genuinely trying to get across but things keep happening (sickness, flat tyres, work dramas) so it will be next week before DP has another chance to visit. Hard to believe Matthew will be six weeks old this Saturday night and DP still hasn't held his son. I even had to send him the birth registration papers to fill in and send on.
Better get back to bed before his lordship wakes up again. So tired from the Wagga trip.
Kerry ~ DF has just started a new job and the only holidays he can take is when we get married in a few weeks. I don't mind during the day, its just at night when it all comes crashing down around my ears that I need relief. I kind of feel like an idiot - a Neonatal Nurse not being able to cope with my own baby!
As for Matthew's cradle cap..I have a suggestion. It won't 'cure' it but I have found that it works to get rid of some of it from the babies I used to work with. You know the medisponges that nurses and Dr's use to really properly wash their hands? If you can get your hands on some of them, give it a try next time he is in the bath. Also, I used cooking oil (yes cooking oil) on DS's head when he had cradle cap.
Hope that helps.
Kell, i had a huge post to you, but blake decided to push me away and erase it all! KIDS!
If you are doing AP, i wouldnt use sleep schools etc.
I really feel for you! i just wish i lived closer to give you some respite and a real hug. Its tough, but i cant imagine how tough you are doing it. Not sure, but have you looked into lactose issues? Might be a stretch, but a friend of mine had issues similar to yours and her bub was intolerant.
Its difficult when the partner doesnt act like a partner in parenting isnt it? Again i feel for you. I cant relate but it must be bloody difficult!!!! almost feel like a single mum in it all? Dont feel like an idiot PLEASE! doesnt matter what profession you are in, your tired, cranky and need some respite. Is there any one that can come and help you even just for a night? a best buddy? your mum?
What about some mums groups? i am worried because it sounds like you need support but just arnt getting it, and i would hate to see you with PND or similar.
Dont know if you have MSN, but i do, feel free to add me, i am generally around the house with the kiddos if you ever need a private ear
Oh well, it's a beautiful day here so as soon as Ashlyn wakes up we're off to the park for a picnic.
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