Hi all,
This is a "me" post cause I need to vent big time about my bloody in laws!
We went over to there place for dinner, and Df knowing what they are all like decided to be a smart ass and make a comment like "we need to get Ashleigh into a routine". So from that turned into a big attack on me, well thats how it came across, all I got was what i "have" to do. Like I have to leave her to cry, I have to get her into a routine, I can't let her run the place blah blah blah. I keep telling them most experts say you shouldn't use control crying til they are at least 6 months and i'm not worried how I'm doing things at the moment and MIL reakons its crap and I have to leave her to cry, then they start on her being a catnapper and she starts telling me Ashleigh has bags under her eyes cause Im not giving her enuff sleep. It just went on. When Ash is upset she likes to be cuddled while you stand and rock, well that was wrong too. It was like nothing i do is right. They made me feel like I was such a bad mother. Then they say oh were just trying to help you. I never asked for help! We are happy as we are! It really doesn't bother me to rock or feed to sleep or to not have set nap or feed times. i just go with the flow and eventually Ash will settle into her own routine. So on the way home in the car I'm crying and yelling and rather than be comforting DF says "I'm not going to talk to you til you stop yelling." When I'm already so upset and frustrated this didn't help so we got into fight cause he's so insensitive and I made him pull over and I got out and walked home and told him he can take Ash home and settle her.
So thats the big saga and I'm still angry bout it today. It was all of them MIL, FIL and SIL. Do they think all babies are the same and all think they are experts cause they have 2 kids?