thanks Kate! i think that's a great idea to have him do down-time activities that get to 'smell the roses' so to speak lol! and yeah, i think he needs a good chat. we went to the BB centre on the weekend and joined a postnatal emotional support group and he really enjoyed it and felt confident enough to talk to everyone there, so we'll keep that up too.

Sherie: yeah the speech pathologist told us that they will take in both languages really well, and for that reason she may take longer to come out with first words. DH predominantly speaks in italian with her. i am more occasional and generally when i am reading italian books to her. we were told that we had to keep to one language in sentences and all that jazz. it is fairly complicated. the SP even said that we should have one parent as the 'english' one and the other as the 'italian' one for optimal learning, but it just isnt practical for us as we kind of chop and change throughout the day. but thems the the breaks. we want her to be as close as possible to her family in italy, and language will be the big break she needs (also she is an italian citizen so it is only right LOL!).