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Well after all that reading to catch up I am buggered lol.
Wow I cant believe so many of our little group are pregnant. I still catch up with 4 other ladies from our antenatal classes and 2 are pregnant and one is going for her second round of IVF, there must be something in the air.
I am trying to get up to speed with all the TTC lingo, so much to learn.
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I reckon its because once you have one, you realise how special it is to be a parent. When I first found out I was utd I thought it was the absolute end of the world, but now I love being a mum & couldnt imagine my life any other way. I'm so happy for all our pregnant mummies!!
JG - Aww thats a cute little game between H & DH.
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JG - how cute!!
MD - My niece is being christened on the 23rd Nov, so we will be up that weekend. Can probably do a catch up on the Saturday. Lucky you caught the liver problem early and can address it quickly.
K prefers finger food, but she will still eat from a spoon, but only if the plate is on the highchair tray so she can hold it!
Oh, hadn't noticed Mbear as well. How exciting! Had noticed JordieC, always keep an eye out for her posts as her DD was born on the same day as K.
MM - teeth brushing happens here occassionally. I have to hold her down and she screams and I just do it quickly (at least the mouth is open during the scream). DH seems to think that her sucking on the toothbrush is enough, rather than actually brushing. I'd probably be lucky to do it every couple of days.
Rainy - I think sand is often damp so the mozzies like it. K loves the sandpit at childcare.
Trill - I've never seen lice before, but they are tiny (even my mum said that and she's seen a few in her time) I can't see any eggs in her hair either so I'm a bit confused about the whole thing. She's the only one at the centre who they are aware of, but she has to have got it from someone there.
Well DD is having a bit of a sleep in so I might go and get some breakfast. DH is flat out with work at the moment and didn't get to bed until 2 so might let him have a bit of a sleep in this morning.
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OMG biiiiiig CONGRATULATIONS to pregagainpan and family!!! how exciting
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Hi girls!!
Ha ha ha! nooo no TTC on our part here yet. although a bub coming at anytime would be welcome i want to have this Phd up my sleeve before i have another little fry. although with DH so clucky ATM i might need to buy a big stick LOL!
Sherie: sorry girl i just read back through the posts and saw that you have a pretty major regime ahead of you for the endo. big massivei have to say it sounds really really intense. i hope and
that this is just the ticket you need to be pain-free.
MD: i'd give the antibiotics more credit sista. we have a mum in our IRL group here wh had liver failure caused by her ABs for mastitis.
Cally: re the lice. i have had them quite a few times as a kid (hhhmm public qld schools anyone? LOL). the eggs are super tiny and really really stick to the hair (cleaner the better). the best way to find them is to use a knit comb over a basin and see as they drop in. (just make sure to 'pop' any lice you see...).
JG: yeah Leila is the same. doesnt like to eat baby food (ie anything that needs mum or papa...). she does try to pick it up with her fingers...so you can imagine the disaster zone.
oohh dont you love it when they yell out to you?!! leila is doing papa papa papa...then when that fails i get a look in with mama...then when even that fails (ie no one responds) it's stella stella stella! LOL!
Rainy: yeah i am with cally, it's because the sand is prob damp and that is the only way that the mozzies can get drink water...kinda like bees. is there anyway you can cover the sand?
oh gawd, if i were to get bigger than last time!! i put on 17kgs!!! (and my baby only weighed 2.7kg!)
MM: yeah, i think TTC babies at this age is because we have gone through the hard yards of newborn have these gorgeous babies on the threshold of toddlerdom and can just see how beautiful they were and how gorgeous they are going to be. i think it is an inspiring age.
as for the teeth brushing...well, i reckon we only get around to it maybe once or twice a week. some weeks are better. Leila has one in her room and one in the bathroom which helps me to remember. i usually try to get her to do hers when i am doing mine (of course i brush mine more than once a week LOL!!).
oopps have to go, L is cracking it. i think a wee snooze is in order
p.s. she slept last night!!!!!
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hey everyone,
well ill try and do a decent post haha last time i was interupted by a yoghurt covered baby screaming to get out of her high chair lol so now that shes had a bath and ive had a shower im back to attempt it again..
tho she is currently climbing on the lounge to reach the shelf grrrr i cant stop her doing it she just pulled down a half full can of coke onto the lounge ahhhhhhh... does anyone else seem to have an overly naughty baby? asha is really cheeky and into absolutely everything especially things i dont want her to be.. we had to safety gate off the bins because she was constantly taking things out and eating them or trying to drink from old cans.. she pulls everything off shelves or the desk or anything she can reach, if you leave magazines in her reach they are torn up within seconds shes like a puppy lol.. when i fold clothes she promptly unfolds them or pulls them out and throws them on the floor. she climbs and jumps all over the lounge, god help me if she gets in the bathroom!! i really dont know what to do with her when shes naughty.. any ideas? i was smacking her but i really want to stop that because i found myself sometimes smacking her when she really didnt have much warning or smacking her too hard i think i need to stop it because not only do i feel guilty but i think i let my temper get the best of me which is really unfair for her.. is she too young for time outs? anyone? i know it probably sounds like im over reacting but its all day long shes doing these things and she knows i dont want her to do them but she just laughs when i tell her no and goes back to it but when i start coming over to her shell sometimes run away i spose because she knows shes going to get smacked ahhh idk its all a bit frustrating atm!!
cassius - congrats on the sleep!! and how cute at leila yelling out for the dog hehe (stella is the dog right? oh god im sorry if shes not)
cally - hows the lice problem going?
mm - i think ur right once u see and feel just how special it is you start to wonder if u could possibly do it again and create another beautiful little life.. teeth brushing dosnt happen overly often here i have to admit asha isnt overly interested i should try harder tho she has 6 teeth now...
katie - lol on the ttc lingo there really is alot of it isnt there?
sherie - sorry to hear about your endo problems, hope everything goes well with the treatment.
md - wow liver problems i had a chuckle about u thinking everyone will think ur utd hope everything goes well for you too..
hi to anyone i missed hope your all having a lovely day!!
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Hey everyone!
Noni, usually just distracting them works best at this age - move them right away from what they were doing and give them something else to do. But it's frustrating isn't it? Alister is very much like what Asha is and dong the same things. Although he has found the bathroom and discovered that there are DRAWERS in the bathroom (he loves opening drawers ATM) and found the one with all the girls hair ribbons, and bands and clips, so they are always being pulled out. So I just have to make sure the door is always shut, but he gets in there when the other kids are in there.
Re the self feeding, Alister was going good with the finger foods, but has regressed lately and is just putting as much as he can fit into his mouth, then he realises he can't chew it, so he spits it out. So we are back to feeding him - sometimes mashed veg with meat pieces (like we would have anyway) and other times I will pass him pieces of food one at a time.
Took the first dose of Methotrexate today and so far the world hasn't fallen apart LOL.
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OhMiFricckenGawd! You would think they would at least tell us the risk!! I looked it up last night on the TGA website, and the list of 'suspect drugs' (we're talking that caused reactions bad enough to result in DEATH) and it reads like everything I swallowed in that first 3 months after E was born. I was given a lot of scripts for mastitis too but only had them filled when the pain got really bad and aren't I pleased about that now. But I have also eaten an awful lot of chocolate in the past 12 months so not entirely ready to discount that theory either.MD: i'd give the antibiotics more credit sista. we have a mum in our IRL group here wh had liver failure caused by her ABs for mastitis.
Sherie, I really hope the meds do their work quickly and don't give you any grief. I think it's a good sign of how healthy you are mentally that you feel conflicted when you take it. Just remember our bodies have an amazing capacity to heal, with a little help from the specialists when we need it from time to time.
Cally, that weekend sounds good although you might get the pleasure of my eldest DD's company as well, since DH is slated to go away again. Pregagain - does that look like a good date for you?? BTW I find it nearly impossible to see lice in my DD's hair, combing thru with conditioner's the only way I can check for them.
Re TOOTHBRUSHING - a tip given to me by the parentsasteachers lady this week was to stand behind them and brush. Less daunting for everyone, less likely to poke an eye out, and also they can't push themselves backwards. This also works for nosewiping if your child gets hysterical everytime you try to wipe (like mine does).
Noni it helps if you can think of them as not naughty, but 'exploring'. They're still learning about boundaries and I get just as frustrated too. E is into everything especially those things I don't want her playing with, and the carryon when I tell her no has to be seen to be believed. Move her away from teh thing you don't want her to have and give her something which will distract her. This might be singing a song or doing an action rhyme on the spot. And praise her like crazy when she does the thing you want. Re the magazines, I keep a few that I'm finished with (or shopping catalogues) and put those on the coffee table for her to play with/tear up so I can read mine in peace. Bins: I found these excellent velco tab things that stick onto everything and I've used them to shut the flap on the bin ( bought a new bin so it would have a lid), she hasn't worked out how to get it open yet. Try putting the lounge cushions on the floor so she can climb and jump on them there. She gets to jump around, you get peace of mind that she's not going to crack her skull open! Do you have a yard? My DD1 really started enjoying being outside at this age (can't do that here cos our yard is pretty unsafe and we're moving so not worth the trouble of baby proofing out there at this stage). Time in the sandpit/on the grass always seems to keep them busy and calm them down at the same time. And when all else fails there's always the playpen/highchair/cot with a few toys just to give you a 10 minute breather.
JG I agree, very cute. But do you actually get any extra sleep?
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Marydean, I suppose that's the catch22, we have to do what will help us now, and hope that we escape with minimal damage in the long term. Is your problem reversible though?
I forgot the toothbrushing! We don't really do it, but he loves to walk around the house with his toothbrush in his mouth so I just leave it at that for now.
I have always done the 'stand behind, hold their forehead and wipe' thing with their noses LOL - it's the only way you can do it effectively without them ending up covered in snot.
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I soooo never knew to do this with DD1 and she went around with a teensy bit of not-quite-wiped snot for a few years there LOL. So glad the penny has *finally* dropped.
If it's caused solely by ABs or Chocolate, it should be reversible (you can cut of a piece of liver and transplant it into a child and it grows into an entirely new whole liver again!!) but if there's another underlying problem (less likely) then I don't know. I guess as we all get older there will aspects of our health that we simply 'manage'. I must admit I do feel suddenly "older" having had E than I ever did before I was pg with her!
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MD - do you mean your body feels older now, that the pregnancy and running around after E has taken alot out of you? I hope it was the abs, if it was chocolate, then I have grave concerns for the state of DH's liver! That would be fine if DD1 comes along too. Pregpan - what do you think?
Noni - DD is like that too, into everything. We just make sure that she can't reach something, I figure at this age they are exploring everything and don't understand why sometimes they are allowed to rip things up and other times aren't. So good books, magazines etc are up high, no drinks on coffee tables, nothing on the edge of the bench or desk that she can reach. It's a little bit harder to start doing it, but once you get into the habit it's easier. And it makes life a lot less stressful. And the good old shutting the door trick works wonders too!
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Cally, well I'm blaming it on chocolate but really if it's that it's because I'm a fattie. BUT I was a fattie before for years and healthy as an ox, no problems so I really wonder if it's as simple as that. BUT if you need an excuse to stop DH eating so much choc so that there's more for you, go ahead, use the liver line!
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thanks guys..
i do try to distract her but shes very stubborn and almost immediately goes back to it no matter what i give her to do!! i think thats why its such a struggle..
sherie - its sooooo frustrating. asha will pull out anything and everything in the bathroom.. squirt out the toothpaste if she manages to get it, pull out the toilet brush and brush her hair with it ewwwwww!!! unroll the toilet paper!!
md - the magazines thing even if i give her her own she will still comne and snatch the one i am reading because it must be the good one lol she can have a floor full and still want mine!! outside time is really a life saver here as u were saying she is pretty happy to run around outside doing her own thing picking up the balls and running round with them.. im a bit worried tho because i dnt want her wearing shoes too much but we have bindis and i thought she was avoiding them because she never complained but i looked at the soles of her feet the other day and she has all little red bindi holes in her feet!
i think all in all shes probably a bit bored and thats why shes doing these things, weve got a bit of toy overload from her birthday and she rarely plays with them probably because theres so many she just dosnt know where to start.. might need to put some away maybe that will help.. just gotta take a deep breath and get on with it lol ive just gotta find some way of releasing my frustration because last time i smacked her i left a really bad red mark that lasted for ages and i feel really bad and ashamed that i hurt her so bad.. thing was she didnt even cry that much making me think maybe thats how hard i hit her all the time and shes just used to itgod im so horrible
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Noni - you're not horrible, you just get frustrated sometimes. Completely understandable. Can she wear socks running around outside? might create a bit of extra washing, but might also help with the bindiis too.
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Noni the important thing here is not to get bogged down in negative self talk but concentrate on what you can do in a positive way to improve what you're unhappy about. Part of it is making sure you get that time out to rest and relax (very important in the MD world, I seem to need it more just to cope than some other women do). You've already started to take some really good steps, getting out for library and other activities/groups in your area. We have this huge Parenting centre near here where you can pop in any time you're feeling overwhelmed and have a chat to the ladies there. They have millions of tricks up their sleeves. Sometimes that's all it takes, staying one trick ahead of your child LOL. Maybe there is a service like that near you that you don't know about? Don't be shy. Trust me some days I think I'm the worst parent in the world (not helped by having had a bad family start in life myself) so if you don't feel like you're coping with what you're doing, get some help! (I did, it made all the difference to me when I needed it most).
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hi girls!
oh i wish i was up in canberra at that time too so i could see you gals again (and maybe this time L could actually get in the photo!).
Noni: i reckon they are going through a pretty rascally stage. L is into everything, and no longer listens when i say 'uh uh'. so i have to make sure that when i say it i follow through on the second one. that way she is starting to make the connection that her behaviour means she gets taken away and has to play somewhere else IYKWIM.
leila bit my leg yesterday when she was unhappy about something and from nowhere i smacked her arm...felt like such a monster...as it was soo not my intention, but just an awful split-second reaction. i vote for taking a deep breath and just removing yourself or her from a negative situation. so for us she is persuaded not to whinge on my leg at dinner time while i am preparing her food for example...ITMS
AFM: well L is at kindy and as we were dropping her off she got soo excited when we got to the kindy door! bouncing up and down and laughing! i am so stoked that she likes the place. one less thing to worry about!
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Clare, ooooh biting (and hitting pushing slapping grabbing pinching)...things we've all got to look forwards too! I kwym about the instant reaction, taking a deep breath is a really good strategy there!
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thanx guys..
iu spose i sld be happy that ive realised im not going along the right path n need to fix it up.. hopefully itll mean happier times for both of us.. i get every second friday when my mum takes asha.. i do feel i need more but we really cant afford childcare and the local one isnt very good neway... makes it hard dps mum is unwell and my mum workstoo much to have her more than the onceand my dads wife works night shift n dad worksday shift so i am kinda left with not heaps of support in that respect.. dnt get me wrong my family are all very supportive they just cant really help in that way...
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