Oh yeah, it would be tough for your BIL having to deal with it, but if he's like most guys it will be like water off a ducks back to him. I don't think you're being too biatchy or anything, she's done some awful things to you and I think it would be a valuable lesson for her to learn that others think about her the way they do because of the way she has treated them - you reap what you sow.

Oh, pain-wise I'm OK, it's not been that bad that I *need* anything for it, its more just that I get really crampy, like a bad period pain and still just sore form where the incisions are, so it just needs time to heal and I probably shouldn't try to do as much as I do either LOL. And if it did get bad, I have a box of pandeine Forte here (which make me feel stoned LOL so it's not terribly smart to take them when I'm here alone with the kids kwim).